Ask For The Life That You Want

So, what do you want for Christmas? In recent posts I talked about giving thanks and receiving, but what about asking?

Some people, young or not so young, make a list of physical items that they may want at this time of the year, and that’s great, but what about making a list of the qualities, the joy and prosperity that you want?  What about good habits that you want to take? Important people you’d like to meet? The stronger personality you’d like to develop? Do you have such list?

I know I do! In this post I wanted to show you what type of wish list you can create for yourself to ask the higher forces of the Universe, God, about what you want.  This is nothing new, right? The Bible itself says, “Ask and you shall receive“. Yet, so few people actually do it!

This is the perfect time of the year for you to start making a special list of what you want to be and have in your life.  You can use a written list or a visual one (a vision board) for those who are more visual people.  But, really, whatever type of person you are, I suggest that you use both, because that would be even better.

So for this Christmas, give yourself the gifts of more wealth, more health, more joy, more happiness, more self confidence, etc… by claiming them now.

Make a list of statements that you can make your own, also called self-talk.  Here are some examples for you…


  • I create money and abundance through joy
  • I manifest what I want
  • People love me and feel good with me
  • I believe in my ability to create the life that I want
  • I manifest what I want easily
  • I am so happy and grateful for the joy that I feel every day
  • My job is always well done
  • I make more and more sales every day
  • I am healthy and vibrant
  • I am more and more inspired every day
  • I am meeting the perfect partner
  • I am attracting the perfect person for me
  • I am love, I am joy and I am abundance
  • I expect massive success
  •  I am inspired in everything I do
  •  As I move forward I am getting better and better at what I do
  • Money comes to me through multiple sources I am an abundant being[/box]

What I like to do is type those phrases with different beautiful and big fonts and cut them out.  Then I can put them around my desk or on my vision board, or anywhere I can see them often.

When you read and repeat those statements several times a day they become yours and they become part of your subconscious programming.  Even if you repeat them just a few times per day, look how many times a years that would be? It’s important to add such good vibration into your life.  It’s part of the law of attraction.

No one needs to know about those quotes and statements of yours, unless you’re sure that whoever does know, won’t make fun of you or criticize you in anyway, which would spoil their purpose.

Make a Vision Board

The other thing that you can do is choose pictures of people, events and things that you want to attract into your life.  For example, a luxury house that you’d like to have. Your dream house!

If there is someone you’d like to meet, pin a picture of them on your vision board as well.  If there is an event you’d like to be part of, put a picture of that as well.  You can even play with your own picture and put it on a magazine cover like I’ve done here for myself.  I’ve got several of those.

You can add everything and anything YOU want on your vision board!

 What you Want to be Inside

What are the qualities you want to develop? Do you want to be more calm? More wise? More resourceful? More knowledgeable in some areas?  More patient?  Have more insight? Be healthier? Be skinnier? Get rid of some bad habits…? The list is endless…

If you want to have more of any such qualities, just ask for it.  Make a list as shown above and “SAY” what you want to be every single day.  Say it loud, say it in your head, depending  on where you are at that moment, but say it always in the present tense.

To  help you with this you can use some of the techniques that I’ve promoted on this blog before, such EFT, meditation or self hypnosis.  Choose whatever floats your boat.  The important thing is that you do this if you want to create a better life for yourself.  Always ask for the life that you want!

So, your tun now! What do you want in life? Do you ask for what you want?  If so, how do you do this?

31 thoughts on “Ask For The Life That You Want”

  1. That’s wonderful Sylviane – to ask for things for yourself.

    I guess I am really bad at this or perhaps being a mother it comes naturally for me to ask for my kids as they always come first, or then it’s for my hubby and other family members. But you are right, we need to ask for the life we want by following the things you mentioned, or just about anything that we want to accomplish.

    It’s those positive affirmations that bring the good in your life, and that’s how the Law of Attraction works too – isn’t it? Thanks for this wonderful reminder, and it’s something I am surely going to get started with right away. 🙂

    BTW – I loved that picture of yours on the magazine cover!
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    1. Hi Harleena,

      You just sound just like my mother 🙂 However, let me tell you something. If my mother had asked more for HER it would have benefited not only her but us (her children) as well. That’s something she never thought about, but she never had access to personal development blogs back then to learn such things.

      I am so glad that you and other people today do have access to such information, and can rest assure that if you ask for yourself it’s not from selfishness or greed, but for the overall good of everyone else in your family as well.

      Thanks for coming, Harleena

  2. Hi Sylviane,
    Love this idea. I often ask my wife to tell me to describe her dream life. What kind of career or money stream she would want. Her dream home,where it is and how it looks, her dream car and so on. It’s a fun exercise to do.

    I agree that we would be better suited to first focus on creating internal things like being more patient and loving and then that that flow into our external world with physical wants and desires.

    Take Care.
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    1. Hi Justin,

      Nice seeing you here again, and it reminded me that I’ve been in your blog in a while, but I have in the past. I have to come back soon 🙂

      It’s a very good exercise to picture what you want. It’s part of designing the life that you want, and it’s fun.

      Of course if there is much to do in the inside it’s better to start there first, but most us can do well doing both at the same time.

      Thanks for coming by 🙂

  3. It’s funny, lately the idea of a vision board has popped up so many times I think it’s starting to follow me around! Maybe that’s what you call the law of attraction? Is the universe trying to tell me something??

    I have never done one but I’m thinking it may be time to try it. It reminds me of when I was a kid and in school we used to have to cut pictures out of magazines to make a collage. I guess we can do that a little more easily nowadays with all the pictures on the internet and we don’t have to worry about what magazines are in the recycling bin!

    Speaking of which… I LOVE your magazine cover! That’s really neat. I want one of me in front of that gorgeous house so I can hang it above my computer every day while I work and remind myself of what I want. nice house by the water, cocktail, maybe a cupcake or two 🙂

    This was a nice change from the usual posts about “resolutions”, Sylviane. A lot more inspiring. Who doesn’t want to imagine awesome things for themselves? It’s something to strive for and something to be cheering and motivating. I suddenly have an urge to cut pictures out of magazines!
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    1. Hi Carol,

      Now that’s the law of attraction, you’re right! If you’ve been thinking about it a lot and boom here comes my post on top of it… my guess is you should go for it. I am glad that post was inspiring to you, but I was almost worried that all the others weren’t !

      If you want, I’ll let you know how I did this magazine cover. It was a free online software, very cool. Just can’t remember the name of it on top of my head because it’s been a little while back.

      Hope this gives you the taste for vision board.

  4. Hi Sylviane,

    Great post Sylviane, Wow totally my kind of stuff.I like one thing alot in this article.This article have a soul motive of for everything consider ourself first, Believing in ourself,talking to ourself.

    I am a true believer of innerself, i think every thing is inside us for which we dont have to search it outside or anywhere.I liked your point of self talk it is very important to tell everybody i will do this i will do that is of waste because they are not the one who are going to do it for you,You have to do it for yourself so y not promise our self to do this.

    Your list is very good ,reflecting the positiveness from inside.I also do things like you as mentioned Motivation is very important.

    I liked your that thing to write some where your goals where your vision is most of the time.Heheheh i have already done it from last 6 or 7 months and you know where ,my laptop- i have made 6 7 notes and every time i minimize the window i see it on my desktop.

    In short your article is great and motivating.

    Thank You
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    1. Hi Shorya,

      Always a pleasure to have you here. I am so glad that you are familiar with self talk and vision boards and know the value of them for your own self improvement/development in life.

      Thanks for coming and have a great one!

  5. Hi Sylviane,

    Thank you for getting on this topic dear 🙂 Very nice.

    Now that’s gonna very helpful as we step into 2013 with new hopes and goals. Well, I’ve written down what I need in my life and some of ’em get change as I can see that I can go beyond that. Well, some disappear as they never gonna help me out but pull me down.

    Actually I see myself that what I wanna be, not all the time but when I’m free with my stuff, but I tend not to go affirmations as I feel that all the time I feel I want ’em, it never comes. I remember you did talk about this lately here too as why we not getting what we want as we always think about it.

    So I work with the passion on it with the intention of not to stuck in a day job and do what necessary for today, but not too much about what I wanna gain. ‘Cause all the time I work towards a goal, without hoping it will come true from my mind, I achieve ’em and even more dear 🙂

    You know what I mean, right? 🙂 So in there do you have suggestions on what should I stick in. Should I stick with what I go right now or start embracing my dreams so hard with all the statements? 🙂

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    1. Hi Mayura,

      If I understand your question well, it’s good to make lists and affirmations for both short term and long terms goals and wants.

      For example you could say “today I am having a successful day at work”, that would be a short term affirmation. But at the same time you should have long term ones such as “I am making 7 figures a year”. Those are just examples to show you what I mean. I hope it helps

  6. Sylviane,
    What a great idea! I’m all caught up in the giving to others, that I forgot myself in the process. I love putting affirmations around and saying them aloud for at least 30 days straight. I have overcome so many obstacles just by doing that. Also vision boards are fun to do. I like to make a tree with roots and put all the things I am on the roots to remind myself of what I learn. Then on the branches I take post-its and put a picture or a word. When I reach a goal I take the post-it off. Some day I will have my empty tree!

    I must say I love that picture of you on the magazine cover! What a wonderful way for the subconscious mind to see! And as for your list….I just want to copy and paste it for me! But I know I have to do my own 🙁

    Thank you for opening my eyes with this post. Also, thanks for the reminder of the great way you can help people with NLP and Hypnosis. These are very powerful tools that you offer.

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    1. Hi Donna,

      That would be great if lots of people would tell what they do like you did with your tree. I really like this. So, when you tree is empty it will mean that you have it all! Cool!

      I gave those affirmations are examples, people can take them for idea source or just use them as well, there are pretty general. They will also serve those who might still have no ideas about what an affirmation is.

      Thanks for coming, Donna 🙂

  7. Hi Sylviane

    This is a great post. I have a statement with all the aspects of my life covered which I update regularly. I like your list.

    I have a half done vision board. Still looking for some pics to complete. I intend to finish it over the break.

    Mostly I love your magazine cover. How did you do that? I love, love, love it 🙂

    My husband and I for years have spent some time over Christmas – New Year re-looking at what we want in our life.

    Thanks Sylviane for a great post.

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    1. Hi Sue,

      So great to see that this new coming year is shaping well for you and your husband.

      I’ve done this magazine cover with a free online tool, but I have to search for it as I don’t remember the name of it. The link was given to me by an old network marketing friend a while back. I’ll search for it and let you know 🙂

      Thanks for coming and hope everything is well with your mom and dad.

  8. I did the vision board but things kept changing all the time so I finally just scratched it and I now have positive quotes hanging above my desk.

    I do write down what I desire like you suggested but I read them aloud to myself every morning before I start my day and every evening before I turn in. I also go to sleep with afformations playing in the background and this has been my daily ritual for awhile now.

    You definitely have to be excited about it because if you truly believe it is yours someday then it will be. It’s just a matter of time right Sylviane!

    Love this and thank you for sharing this message.


    1. Hi Adrienne,

      That’s great that you’ve got such a good ritual set up, Adrienne. when what you want becomes yours firmly in your mind it’s all a matter of time to make it happen in a the physical world.

      Keep up the good work.

  9. Hi Sylviane. Started my vision board a while ago, but it’s not right in front of me so I need to pull it out and place it in a place I can see it daily. Thanks for reminding me that I have gone. I, in particular, like the reminder. I really need to define who I am inside. Great reminder. Thank you. Barbara
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    1. Hi Barbara,

      Well, we all need reminders once in a while, don’t we? I’m glad I could be such tool to remind you of this this week.

      Hope you are having a blast in your cruise 🙂 And I appreciate that you took some of your fun time to come to my blog.

      See you soon 🙂

  10. Hi Sylviane,

    That’s really a great post Sylviane. I never thought of the vision board before but I liked the idea so much and I liked the phrases of the self-talk and what you said to type those phrases with different beautiful and big fonts and cut them out and put them on a vision board, or anywhere that I can see them often. That’s really encouraging. I will definitely give it a try.

    I love it and thanks for sharing this with us Sylviane. God Bless.

    Thanks and have a good night.

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    1. Hi Neamat,

      I’m very glad you came to this post, as I know you can really use affirmations and vision boards for motivation and self confidence for your home business.

      A vision board is such a great tool. I use one that I update every once in a while for years now. they even have software where you can create a digital vision board as well.

      Thanks for coming and hope ou enjoy your new positive affirmations.

  11. Hi, Sylviane,

    Great sharing about using affirmation, dream board, EFT, meditation and self hypnosis to help achieving our goals.

    I have just finished re-listening to Jeffrey Combs’ CD on ‘Receiving’. Jeffrey, a legendary trainer in the Direct Sales & Network Marketing industries, stated that it is important that we get good at asking and comfortable with receiving. He challenges us to think if giving is really better than receiving. I think that this is an insightful issue to look deeper into our own belief!

    Great post, Sylviane!

    Wishing you a Happy & Prosperous New Year!

    Viola The Business Mum
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    1. Hi Viola,

      I really like Jeff Combs challenging question, and how great it is that he asks such question to help people see things differently and understand that we MUST get good at receiving.

      Thanks for your visit and have a Wonderful Happy New Year full of success!

  12. Hi Sylviane,

    Here is what happened. Yesterday I was on your blog and read your post about creating your story by writing down what you want and what it looks like. Usually I would think, “What a great idea. I’ll do it!” Then, distractions come in and the great idea is gone. This time, I did what you instructed. Immediately after reading the post, created my story. I described everything materialistically that I desire. I need to work on some of the details, but I covered the tangibles such as house, car, etc. Well, I woke up this morning and the first thing I thought about was my story and I had pictures in my head visualizing the rooms with the items I described including a partner. I got excited about getting back to it so I could continue to add more detail.

    Today, I decided to get caught up with my syndication rounds. Adrienne’s blog has a summary of posts she shares from the past year. I clicked on a link of interest…and TADA!…..I land on this post! Fathom that! Your post gave me a fantastic list of the qualities, joy, and prosperity that I want and will help “complete” my story. I already have a vision board, but this post inspired me to update. Everything has changed since I created it.

    Thanks for the inspiration. This is a great time of the year, to reflect and make plans which will lead to everything we need and want. Always ask for the life that you want!
    I wish you a prosperous 2013!

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    1. Hi Raena,

      That’s just wonderful. Now tell me what’s better than knowing that the Universe is using me to attract my readers to what they need when they need it? That for me is even more rewarding that the money side of things. It’s just very encouraging and simply great!

      I have noticed that I am more and more inspired to write the posts I publish on this blog which means that it’s becoming a really spiritually-rich blog which in turn is bound to create the type of results you mention here. Wow! How exciting is that?

      Thank you so much for coming and telling me this story of yours.

      Have a fantastic and Happy New Year, Raena!

  13. Excellent post. I’ve long realised that materialistic demands are wasteful. Over the last one year, I’ve made a lot of self discovery and I can totally relate with your post.

    I’ve given up asking for physical objects and instead wish for simple happiness and peace. That’s all I’d want. I also do a lot of self talking and that keeps me motivated all the time. The vision board idea is superb, never knew about it. So thank you for sharing that idea, can be very useful.

    Thanks again for sharing this post !

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    1. Hi Aditya and tanks for coming by.

      I’m glad that you discovered what a vision board is and maybe can make good use of it.

      I do disagree that asking for physical things is a waste of time, though. While we should always ask for peace and happiness first, there is nothing WRONG with asking for material things.

      We are living in an energy filled universe. Everything is energy. Us humans, animals, trees, the ground we walk on and every object you may think of. asking for a physical object is exactly the same thing as asking for health and happiness. It’s just putting ourselves in alignment with some type of energy.

      The only difference is in the mind of the beholder, so to speak. In some cultures it’s like a sin to ask for material things, but that is only true who he or she who believes such thing. It’s not true at the Universe or God’s level.

      Hope this help a little bit to clarify this for you and others as well. It’s OK to ask for what you want 🙂

  14. Hello, Sylviane – this is an amazing post – I’m constantly trying to ‘improve’ myself, making resolutions about this, that and the other, but it had never occurred to me to organise those ‘wishes’ in this way.

    Your suggestions make perfect sense and I believe visualization is a really powerful psychological tool, so a vision board seems like a great idea.

    I agree with you that there’s nothing wrong with wishing for material things, but I’m inclined to agree with Aditya that it’s more important to aspire for happiness and peace – freedom from fear and anxiety ranks high on my list. I think such things are often linked to material success – for example, in my own life I know that negative psychological states, particularly anxiety, have often held me back and impeded my ‘materialistic’ progress.

    You’ve given us lots of food for thought here – and added a great new dimension to the old concept of New Year’s resolutions.

    Thanks so much, Sylviane – and all good wishes for your happiness AND success in 2013!

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    1. Hi Sue,

      I’m so glad you enjoyed this post.

      You know what… if anyone would tell me that they have some vital issues still, but wanted to know how to attract more money, or a car or house I would tell them right away, what you need to ask for is more peace of mind, more wisdom and this kind of things. So, I totally agree with Aditya in that sense. Don’t ask for metrical things if it’s not what you need at this point, so to speak.

      However, if you are already stable and got rid of all this bunch of false beliefs that it’s not good to ask for material things, then you are actually FREE to ask for such things. Ask for the car you want, the house you want, the job you want, the friends you want, the partner you want, etc… We know one thing, if we don’t ask, the chances that we will get what we want is rather remote.

      As I said to Aditya, it’s all just energy… everything is energy 🙂

      Have a wonderful and Happy New Year, Sue!

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