Why Are You Still Broke?

You have been acquainted with the law of attraction for a while, you might have your self-talk and your vision board all set up, and you are even working hard towards your goal by taking daily actions.  However, for some reasons, no matter what you do you are still broke.  Why are you still broke?

If you are like me this is a question you might have asked yourself many times, even more so when you became aware of the tricks that you need to play to your mind in order to change your programming.  So, why is it that you are not rich yet and what can you do about it?

In this post, we are going to analyze two reasons, which are the main reasons why even people who know about the law of attraction and subconscious mind may still be broke and feel that there is no way out for them.  These two reasons are, how you see yourself and how do you feel about money.

How do you see yourself?

I would say that the number one reason why people see a status quo in their life even though they strive for a financial change is because of the way they “see themselves”.  I am not talking about what you see in the mirror in the morning when you shave or put your make up on.  No.  I am talking about what is the person deep inside.  How you see YOU.

For example, if you’ve spent your life living in a victim mentality you might really be a “victim” inside.  If you have spent your life being broke, you might still be poor inside.  If you have spent your life being bossed around, you might still be “weak” inside.  The point is that as long as your deepest thoughts and feeling still reside inside you, and those thoughts and feelings are not in any way in alignment with positive results, you won’t be able to receive what you want.  However, you will keep receiving what you are projecting.

To apply this to money, specifically, you won’t be able to attract money as long as you see yourself as a poor person, because that’s all you’ve ever known and experienced and that what your are projecting out to the universe.  However, don’t get discouraged.  You can fix this as we will see below.

How do you feel about money?

Really, truly, how do you feel about money?  I know a lot of want-to-be wealthy people who still have a weird relationship with money.  Some of them even have prosperity blogs and still write mixed messages about wealth, money and prosperity.  Guess what, if you still have confused feelings about money, you will have a hard time attracting lots of it.  It’s that simple.

OK, let me give you some concrete examples.  You might be a network marketer, for example, saying that you want to replace your income and eventually become financially free with your business.  That’s great.  But then, you go online and you write about not wanting to be the richest person in the world and be content with taking care of your family.  You write about money not bringing happiness.  You write about great and very inspiring stories about people who are truly lacking in the money area.

Is there anything wrong with this? No, not at all (in a way).  But what’s truly wrong is that somewhere deep down you “believe” that money is not that great and certainly is not the bringer of happiness.  So, why would money want to come your way?  It won’t.

For most of us, somehow, there is a very STRONG negative feeling about money and wealth (yes, even when we say that we want to be financially free).  Somehow, money is still linked with negative beliefs.  Somehow we link rich people with selfishness or worth even, dishonesty.  Unfortunately, such deep beliefs and feelings are affecting the money that may or may not come into our lives, because it’s the law.  It’s the law of attraction.  To really attract the type of money you want you need to change the way you see yourself and money.

See yourself in a new light

If you are so used to see yourself in any type of negative situation, you need to learn how to see yourself in a new light.  When you refuse to see yourself under any type of negative light such weakness, lack, hopeless, sickness, old age, being average, etc… you will start seeing yourself in a new light.  Give yourself the value you DESERVE.  Too many of us underestimate ourselves.  We put a china dish under a glass box in a museum and we value that object at thousands of dollars, but we, the viewers of that inanimate object, see ourselves as nothing more than a broke, insignificant person.

Many of us think just like that.  We have it completely wrong.  We need to see things as they really are and value ourselves above all.  This has nothing to do with starting to be arrogant.  No. This has to do with valuing ourselves more and putting ourselves in alignment with the type of wealthy that we desire.

See money for what it is

Money is not bad, if anything; people can be bad and use money to do bad things.  As a matter of fact, some people can be so bad that they do not need any money at all to do bad things if they want to.

Money is not a master.  Money is a servant.  Stop thinking that having too much money will make you bad.  If it does, then you need to fix those problems now, not money.  Money doesn’t need any fixing.  Money has been, money is, and money always will be the same thing – a neutral resource that can help us do great things the world over, and improve our lives in many ways.

Now that you’ve read this, how do you see yourself and how do you see money? Your answers should give you a clue about where you are now financially.  Are you still broke? Are you wealthy? Where are you? Please, do tell us…

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31 Comments

  • Liane Markus says:

    This is s great and very interesting question because many will be able to relate from what you have stated and shared here. Thank you so much and I hope many will also realize what you have discussed here.

    • Sylviane Nuccio ~ Life Coach says:

      Make sure your comment is relevant to the subject as my patience with this is declining every day. Soon I won’t allow any more none relevant comments that show one thing – You didn’t read the post.

      Thank you for your understanding.

  • Sarah Arrow says:

    Wow, I need to stop thinking that money is my master and place it in the position where it works for me!
    I am at the stage of reassessment, I have no idea where I am with my money!

    • Sylviane Nuccio ~ Life Coach says:

      Hi Sarah,

      Yes, defining what is money and where it stands is a good start. It should be easy, but it still very complicated for a lot of people. People would be able to define pretty much everything but money.

      Thanks for coming by, Sarah.

  • Carol LynnTwitter: carollynnrivera says:

    You’re a smart cookie, Sylvianne. I love your quote about money being neutral. Money is not the problem. It’s your attitude that’s the problem! So true and yet so easy to overlook especially because so many people have this idea that “money is evil”. Sometimes when I talk to people about business I say things like “You have to make money” and they always have that little bit of a shock, like “what! no, I have to save the world!”

    I hadn’t thought of it the way you put it – that people say they want money but then talk about being perfectly happy without it. But now that you said it, I can think of a million times I’ve heard it. Heck, I’ve probably even said it. Time to get the right attitude! I wouldn’t mind saving the world but I definitely want to be rich 😉

    I appreciate your insight and how you really dig down deep into something to get to the roots of our fears and problems. This is just another example of your wisdom!
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    • Sylviane Nuccio ~ Life Coach says:

      Hi Carolyn,

      I don’t know if I’m that wise, but I like the smart cookie, though 🙂 I have to thank my money mentors few years back who made me REALLY understand what is money all about and what attitude most people have towards it. And that such attitude ruins it for them (us).

      I am trying to apply what I learn as much as I can myself. It ‘s a work in process and writing about it helps (me).

      Yes, I am tired of those so called “life coach” and the like who promote prosperity, but get any opportunity to say that you are happy without it. We know it isn’t true. Not in this world! And for those who want to change the world, money help to do that too, right? 🙂

      Thanks for your feebacks, Carol 🙂

  • AdrienneTwitter: adriennesmith40 says:

    Hey Sylviane,

    That was a great post and I really could resonate with that.

    Okay, here’s my deal. I don’t believe I have an issue with money. I don’t think it’s bad, horrible nor do I have that lack mentality. Okay, maybe I do I’m not sure. I think my problem is that I can’t consider the possibility of me having wealth because I can’t see that for myself. I don’t know what that looks like or even feels like. I try to put myself in that situation but I end up laughing at myself because I can’t even picture myself there. No matter how badly I might want it, I just can’t see myself actually having it. Does that make any sense? Sylviane to the rescue!!! HELP!!!

    I feel a coaching session coming on. Love this topic though and one day I’m going to get over that hurdle and when I do, watch out.

    ~Adrienne
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    • Sylviane Nuccio ~ Life Coach says:

      Ah Adrienne,

      I get that you have that problem to “see” yourself in places you haven’t been. Interestingly, you are the only person who ever told me that. Now I am wondering if that’s the case in other people, but they just can’t express it.

      Well, session tip number one – STOP laughing at yourself. I know it’s probably hard but this is a sign that your subconscious mind it telling you “no way!” and that’s bad. So, next time you want to laugh. Just say stop! Don’t laugh! It’s serious! It’s my life!

      Session tip number two. Every time you can’t see yourself where you would like to see yourself tell to yourself loud if possible – WHY NOT? See if you can come up with any logical reasons. Then I would write those “why not’s” down and discredit them one by one with as much details as you can. In writing too.

      Those are the two tips I would give you for now.

      Remember me wanting to meet my favorite actor, well before I started Drama study? I was seeing myself with him. I could have laughed and tell myself you’re crazy, but I didn’t. That’s why I met the guy several times. If you think of it.. it was far fetch, but it did happened, Adrienne. So remember this 🙂

  • Oliver Tausend says:

    HI Sylviane,

    this is very powerful. Mixed messages towards money are a problem, I only know that too well too. Whenever we glorify a lack of money or even poverty, we will have a hard time attracting mony, no matter how hard we try or how bad we want it superficially.

    You are right on: Money is a tool, a servant. Nothing else.

    Thanks for sharing your insights.

    Take care

    Oliver

    • Sylviane Nuccio ~ Life Coach says:

      Hi Oliver,

      Thanks for coming. Now I know that this is a post that Michael Dlouhy would love, wouldn’t it?

      Yes, you’re right how we see money superficially is not what counts. What counts is what we really feel about it.

      Thanks for coming, Oliver 🙂

  • Steve Nicholas says:

    Great post, Sylviane! I think that one of the best things that we can do is give ourselves specific goals, but room to be open. One of my friends from the blogging world, Coach Freddie, said that our goal statement should always include phrases like “or more” and “or better” so that once our vision expands, we are not limiting ourselves.

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Steve,

      Thanks for coming. I really like that idea… or more and or better. Sometimes we do limit oursleves with narrow our minds and lack of vision for the long down the road future.

      Thanks for coming by 🙂

  • Raena Lynn says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    This is great stuff Sylviane. Recently, I posted an article called, “What’s your money attitude?” and I was amazed by the responses. Money attitude is completely subconscious and I really work hard to overcome some of the conditioning I received growing up. I’m talking about the “money quotes” such as “Money doesn’t grow on trees,” “Money is evil,” etc. etc.

    Recently, I was talking to my daughter about money. She is going on 24 and we were posed with the question of what we would do if we could pick 5 things to buy or do if we had unlimited time and money to do it. Wow, we had a very interesting conversation! Take off the limits! Think big! Imagine! It is a great exercise to do and I think by taking your tips that you gave to Adrienne and applying it to this exercise is wonderful. When any resistance surfaces I can follow your advice. “Then I would write those “why not’s” down and discredit them one by one with as much details as you can in writing too.” It’s difficult for some people to “picture” themselves wealthy. We DESERVE it because we are valuable. All the vision boards in the world won’t help if we cannot dig deep and change any “weird” money issues that are trapped in the subconscious. Great post! By the way, who is the actor?

    Raena Lynn

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Raena,

      Thanks you for your great comment. Ahahah, that actor is Jean-Paul Belmondo. He doens’t speak English, so for sure he was never in any American productions, but I think he might still be known. In France he was THE star with Alain Delon. Those two were the two biggest actors for over 2 decades.

      I was crasy about that guy, even though he happens to be my mother’s age, I was in love 🙂 Always liked older guys 🙂 I got hooked with this crush at age 16 and met him at age 21. I had visualize that a LOT. Never telling myself that it was impossible. Well, it was possible, because it did happen.

      Money attitude, is everything. Those lack mentality money quotes you are talking about, boy, we all have them. The trick is to get them out of our subconscious mind.

      Thanks for coming, Raena

  • Felicia says:

    Hi Sylviane,
    Your post about money and the way it influences each individual in a different way is really interesting and thought-provoking. Some people say that money can’t buy happiness – but what is genuine happiness anyway? It still differs from person to person, right?

    I’d say that money can’t buy us happiness, but it can provide us peace of mind. It’s a means of getting by our daily lives such as the capability to pay our dues – mortgage, rent, taxes, food, shelter, car, credit card purchases, etc.

    It’s the individuals themselves who make money seem like a negative thing in our lives.

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Felicia,

      Very well said. If you are miserable inside, chances are money won’t change it. but it realy contributes to making one’s life better. And if money doens’t by happiness, neither does poverty, right?

      Thanks for coming by and leaving you thoughts with us 🙂

      • Felicia says:

        Hi Sylviane,
        I agree, if one is miserable inside, then no amount of money can ever change that. Money is a means to get by, but there are those who are so obsessed to always having it within their reach that they lose sight of what money really basically does in the first place – it’s only a means to buy something we “need” (or “want” if we have excess) or to pay for our expenses.

  • MayuraTwitter: MayuraDeSilva says:

    Well, that’s a nice one Sylviane 🙂

    I have faith in myself and after my higher education, I’m gonna heads up to be an employee. I have dreams and responsibilities myself. I wanna be rich but not richest and I’ll be it. I don’t believe that being rich makes you selfish dear. Some people lose control when they get rich, but I think the cause is mind. We should control ourselves. If I believe that may be I don’t think of being rich too. But I have experience in other way around.

    Some people yell that you don’t need money to get happiness and enjoy life. May be they have everything and no need of money anymore or else they just think about one incident that brings you happiness and forget about all other responsibilities. For example, someone say – “Love brings you happiness in your life”. They don’t think what you need to do after being in love. Life is not a movie. You can survive in movies, but not in real life.

    However people define Money in different ways. I think it’s depend on their status and how much we need it. If we consider a poor daily worker, priest, person in jail and a rich man, all these people define it in different ways.

    I’ve experienced people who suicides or protest ’cause they can’t fulfill their needs and out of money. I do meditate and such things. I feel relaxed. Does it help them to survive? Lives are now complex and busy. We can’t refuse money, but it can’t buy anything. People are the ones made the concept of money to measure value. I think we should value money but never underestimate or overestimate over other things in our life.

    Am I broke? 🙂

    Cheers…
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Mayura,

      The subject of money brings about a lot of debates among people, but one thing is sure, without it no one can do anything. That’s for money that people spend 8 or more hours of their living day working. Shall we say more.

      I’m glad that you have goals, Mayura. Reading this type of blogs at your young age can really help you. I only wish I had that when I was your age 🙂

      As always, thank you for coming and have a great week end!

  • Harleena SinghTwitter: harleenas says:

    Wonderful post & I enjoyed the discussions about it as well!

    Yes indeed, money certainly is important, but it isn’t the only thing in life. I think when we think only about money, we become money-minded and tend to ignore other things like our families or forget to enjoy life in general. While on the other hand, if we really don’t care about money, then one can’t really survive and live the life one wants. So, either ways – we need to strike the right balance between both situations.

    I won’t say I am able to do that well, and for me money is important, but yes, overtime I have learnt that one doesn’t have to work that hard for it, such that you neglect other things. That is where your attitude and positive mindset comes in, just as you mentioned.

    If you are able to divide your time for other affairs, and a little for earning the required amount of money, you are able to strike a balance. And yes, the law of attraction does play a role in all this too. I have often seen people use it and become rich, because they believed and weren’t thinking about how poor or deprived they are. Those positive vibrations do wonders to us, without us really knowing about them – isn’t it?

    Money does buy you happiness, but it all depends on your mindset and what you think happiness is all about. Some people or the ones who don’t have that much of money are also happy – they find their happiness in the smallest of things, and for them money doesn’t hold that much of a meaning. So, you need to also know what you really want, and how much of money is required to make you content and happy, and then work for it. If you get more, learn to save it or invest it – and that certainly doesn’t make you bad 🙂

    Thanks for sharing and making all of us think on this topic. 🙂
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Harleena,

      I think that what money does or doesn’t do to people, all comes down to who they are at the end of the day.

      You might want to be a millionaire to give half of what you have to other or you might want to be a millionaire to live like a selfish brat. But I do believe that it has to do with the person inside.

      Thanks you for your great feedbacks, Harleena. Always appreciated.

  • Nicky says:

    Oh Sylviane, I can totally relate to this post too – For 18 months I did everything online I was supposed to do and felt that all my content was way better than some people who seemed to be getting it all – recognition and the income to match. I didn’t feel bitter about that, i just wondered why.

    So last year I realised it was mindset – something that I had pushed to the back of the pile of e-books and courses to do “when I was successful and had lots of time” – stupid thing is, that it needs to be top of the pile, because without the right mindset and thoughts about money we will stay where we are. I took a course from Ray Higdon on exactly this topic – it has really helped, but I’m still not there 100% yet.

    It took me ages to get this, and sometimes I still struggle with it, so would love to read more about this subject from you Sylivane.

    Thanks – loved this!
    Nicky

    • Sylviane Nuccio ~ Life Coach says:

      Oh Nicky!

      If you weren’t in an other continent I would want to shake your hand right now. Heck I would want to huge YOU!

      That’s exactly right! Do you know for how long I felt exactly that? I was writing what I considered good stuff and got only very mediocre results. Like you I was comparing with my stuff with others out there not doing anything more than me, and people treated them like gods!

      Been there and done that, Nicky. I am completely there with you.

      I am glad that you realized what the missing link was. It wasn’t your knowledge and it wasn’t your talent. It was your mind, or better still your subconscious mind. When you started working on that you’ve started seeing different results.

      Of course it takes time. Don’t feel bad. We are ALL a work in progress. I don’t care how rich and how up there you may be, we are all working at it. It’s a daily effort, but it does get easier as we go.

      Thank you for encouraging me to write more on that subject. I appreciate you let me know. I certainly will!

      Thanks for your fantastic feedbacks, Nicky 🙂

  • Sonia says:

    Excellent article Sylviane! Sounds familiar and there were times that I use to think that way. NOW, shoot, bring the cash my way honey! I am open to receive it and earn it, but a while back, I didn’t think I really deserved it myself. Money is funny and most times a defensive topic to some not willing to see the error of their ways with money…myself included.

    Now in my new job, I am getting paid the amount of money I know I am worth and as i grow I hope to earn more based on my work and what I do for myself in the future. But the one thing I do is respect money…it can really destroy you if you allow it.

    • Sylviane Nuccio ~ Life Coach says:

      Hi Sonia,

      Thanks for coming. I agree with you. Many of us have this deep dark belief that we don’t deserve money. That we don’t deserve anything really. But once we achieve to change that darn ugly broken record, fantastic things start to happen.

      Yes, if money is misused it can destroy you and you can even destroy the life of others as well if you become too greedy. When I say that the “pharmaceutical industry” comes to mind. Money in the wrong hand is like a gun. But again it’s not money that does that it’s the bad and greedy individuals who use that neutral substance we call money.

  • Sue PriceTwitter: suejprice says:

    Hi Sylviane
    Like everyone else has said here, a great article. This is a big one for most people.
    In my financial planning days I realized that it was not only people who had money who worried about it. People who were wealthy often did too. Different concerns like where to invest it and who is going to take it from me.
    I have worked with some great teachers on the subject and witnessed many money “games” in seminars. I must say I have not seen too many people totally neutral on the subject but money is a neutral resouce as you say.
    Mindset and how we see ourselves with money is so important. I agree with so many people have mixed messages.
    Well written Sylviane

    Sue
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  • Stacy says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    This is a deep message that I don’t think is discussed nearly enough. Thank you for bringing it up. I grew up in an environment where money was usually lacking. I often heard that I couldn’t have something “because it is too expensive”. I also received the message that money was something shameful to discuss because I was often told not to talk about family money matters.

    It took me a long time to break free from those beliefs. I used to save and never spend. I used to have a lot of guilt any time that I bought something. I am glad that I learned to enjoy spending money and that I could see it as a gift rather than a curse. It wasn’t easy but it was definitely freeing!

    In other places I also heard that “money is the root of all evil” when in reality the real quote is “the LOVE of money is A root of all kinds of evil.” Money in and of itself is not evil but the intentions behind gaining it is what can cause harm. People have done some very awful things in the pursuit of money but then again many people have done some great things too, we just don’t hear those stories nearly as often!

    Stacy

    • Sylviane Nuccio ~ Life Coach says:

      Hi Stacy,

      We sure all have some crazy beliefs we had to grew up with and tried to get rid off. I have had the same feeling when I used to buy things, feeling guilty and not deserving and this all goes back because how we were told and taught about money.

      That’s right, the right quote is the LOVE of money is the root of evil not MONEY. That’s why I am talking about this in the post… “Money is not bad, if anything; people can be bad and use money to do bad things. As a matter of fact, some people can be so bad that they do not need any money at all to do bad things if they want to. Money is not a master. Money is a servant”.

      Thanks for your excellent feebacks, Stacy!

  • Cat Alexandra says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    I love this topic you have chosen to share! I think so many people do not realize how the law of reciprocity works in our relationship with money.

    The more we polarize our relationship with money, the more difficult it is for us to receive money into our life.

    I love to spend money. It’s a vehicle that moves energy and creates options. I find that the more I enjoy spending it freely (not frivolously), the easier I make it. Fortunately I learned how to calibrate myself over the years so that I can create a positive cycle that allows me to spend as I wish and earn as I wish.

    We do well to remember that the thing we polarize is what we receive more of. When we release the expectation and recognize a thing for what it is, we can have enriching experiences with the energies that allow us to operate in the world with more fluidity.

    Very interesting concept!

    Thanks for the outstanding food for thought, Sylviane! Very well done!

    Cat 😀

    • Sylviane Nuccio ~ Life Coach says:

      Hi Cat,

      It seems that you have no need for a consultation on the subject and you’ve GOT IT!

      You are right on when you are saying that the more we spend the more money comes back to us. And, yes, there is a HUGE difference between spending frivolously and spending to allow that flow of money going on.

      When I was little I remember an aunt of mine (wife of one of my father’s brothers) who was very greedy. The result? Even thought they were quite wealthy, they lived like on the verge of bankruptcy every day. Even as I child I could recognize this and it was pitiful to see 🙁

      Thanks for your valuable feedbacks, Cat 🙂

  • Barbara CharlesTwitter: BarbaraCharles says:

    Sylviane. Love, love, love this article. Made me really evaluate what I’m thinking about money. Although I don’t see money in a truly negative light, it did make me think about it to make sure that I was thinking right. Thanks.
    Regards,
    Barbara
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