Dr Robert Anthony.
So, what about you? Are you taking the victim road? Have you done that all your life? Are you ready for a change? Are you ready to accept responsibility for your own good? In this post, let’s try to answer each one of these questions one by one.
Are you on the Victim Road?
Ah, the victim road! A road that so many of us like to take. As humans it seems that being a victim almost feels good for a lot of us. As a matter of fact, there are even some mental disorders such as the Munchausen Syndrome when someone affected by it is desperately looking for attention as a victim. But let’s not go there. Let’s talk only about people just like you and me who have no apparent mental disorders, but just like to play the victim once in a while.
When I was growing up and as a young adult I loved to play the victim. I always felt that the whole world was against me, and I felt like “poor little me” a lot. Did I really like to be miserable consciously? No, but in a way, feeling like a victim gave me a lot of excuses.
That’s what feeling like a victim does to us; it gives us excuses for not moving forward, not making the effort and not trying to go above and beyond our call of duty. In other words, it’s easier to be a victim, or that’s what we think anyway. But is it really?
Have you Been a Victim all your Life?
When you act as a victim, the laws of the universe respond to that. The number one law of the universe that will respond to your victimized emotions is the law of attraction. According to this powerful law if you feel like a victim you will get MORE OF IT. In other words, when you act as a victim you will, without a doubt, get more situations and circumstances that will make you one.
As a matter of fact, if you don’t stop your victimhood at some point, it can pretty much doom your entire life to the point that one day you may wake up and say, wow, my life has been a failure and I’m at this age already! This is the last thing you want to happen to you, do you? Especially when there is a way to get out of this vicious circle
Are you Ready for a Change?
If you have lived long enough on the road of victimhood, you need to ask yourself this serious question; Am I ready for a change or do I want to be a victim for the rest of my life? Yes, pretty serious question, isn’t it? I should know, I had to ask this question myself at some point in my life. I felt victim of always attracting Mr. Wrong or attracting “fake” friends who always turned out to take advantage of me, and I also felt victim of always missing out on the best opportunities out there.
Until I found out that I had the power of changing this, I really believed that I WAS a victim. When we are victim, all our power is taken away from us. Victims don’t decide. Victims don’t control anything. Victims are just like a boat without a rudder left to the waves and wind. When you drop the victimhood, however, and take charge by taking responsibility, you become the captain of your life using the rudder of your boat (your life) to direct it where you want to go.
At some point I decided that I was ready for a change. Not so much for a change of circumstances, but for a change in my thinking. I needed to STOP thinking that I was a victim, and start taking responsibility for what I was attracting into my life.
Are you Ready to Accept Responsibility?
I know that accepting responsibility can be tough sometimes, especially when you truly feel that you are being victimized by something more powerful than you. But this very belief is just that – a belief – nothing more. Beliefs are powerful. This is why so many people are stuck. But they don’t understand this, and they go round and round in circle in the maze of victimhood, never to realize that they can change their lives by making the right CHOICES. By choosing NOT to be a victim anymore. You do not ever have to feel and be like a victim, but you do need to change your way of thinking and take action.
I’ve told my bullying story several times before. I spent years being a victim of bullies pretty much my whole school years, but I didn’t have to. I had a mother backing me up telling me to kick them, beat them up or kill them if I had to (maybe not quite literally kill them), but the message she was sending me by saying that was clear – DO NOT LET THOSE BULLIES TAKE THE BEST OUT OF YOU, I’ve got your back, defend yourself, fight back, scare those schmucks off!
Now, thinking back, I can’t even understand why I didn’t defend myself, or maybe I can, it was FEAR. But in the end it came down to this. I made a choice. Even though my mother was backing me up 100% to use whatever means I had to in order to take control of the bulling situation, I didn’t. Ultimately, I made the choice to be a victim. Maybe I relied on the teachers or the school system to do something, but guess what? They never did. However, if I had taken matters into my own hands and decided that I was not going to take this anymore, it might have hurt a bit, but I KNOW that things would have changed for me. Maybe with a few bruises, but I would have gone from the ship of victimhood to the ship of victory.
What about you? Are you ready to take responsibility for your own circumstances? Are you waiting for the system, your boss, or the government to help you? Are you afraid that it may hurt? Are you lost in the victim road? If you are it’s time to make a choice. Choose to not be a victim anymore and take control of your life. Next week I am going to show you the steps that you can take in order to do this.
For now, let me know you’re thoughts on the subject. Do you feel like a victim?