Why Change Is Good

Time for changeDo you like change?

Most people resist change, even though, change is part of life. Nothing stays still. Everything changes.

Every living thing goes though many changes from the time they are born to the time they die.

Landscapes change, the weather changes, even solid matters go through changes.

Our beliefs, personality and character go through change over time as well.  Are you the same person you were at 20 years old? Chances are that you’re not because your personality went through some changes.

So, my question to you is, how do you see change? Do you embrace it or do you resent it?  The reason why I wanted to write about change today is because I’ve just moved this past week, and a move does automatically inure some type of change.

I just moved less than 2 weeks ago, and as I was moving this time around I couldn’t help thinking many times I’ve moved in my life.

I’ve lived in two different continents, two different countries, six different cities, and thirteen different houses including this last one. You might say that I like change in a way, but like many other people out there, believe it or not, I always push it back as much as I can.

Why do we Tend to Resist Change?

I remember when I was going to buy my plane ticket to move from Paris to New York.  I came as a drama student with a visa, and I could choose between two dates. January 10th or January 17th.  Guess which date I chose? I chose January 17th of course.  I chose the later date, because no matter how much I wanted to go, it was still hard to make the change. I pushed it back to the later date.

We tend to resist change, because as human beings it’s always difficult to come out of our comfort zone.  However, interestingly, our comfort zone is not necessarily comfortable.  As a matter of fact, it’s often very uncomfortable.

This is because what we call our comfort zone is simply what we know, but it doesn’t mean that it’s really comfortable. When we go into the “unknown” we step out of our comfort zone.  Change is a step into the unknown and that’s why it’s so hard to change.

It’s because of fear of the unknown that people stay in jobs they don’t like, relationships they don’t want, surround themselves by people they can’t stand, live in places they don’t like, etc. The unknown is scary.

Yet change is bound to happen.  So what can we do in order to make the “unknown” less unknown and, therefore, change less scary.

Get Educated About your “Unknown”

Of course we can’t prepare for sudden change that is unexpected, but you can prepare for changes that you know is going to happen or you want to make happen.

When I made the decision to move to the US it was first on a 3 months try.  I came with a three month student visa that I could renew for another three months after that.  However, deep down inside, I also knew that I was going to be here for longer than that.

At the time that I left France I was in a desperate need for change.  I had been living in Paris for the past 5 years doing something that I loved, but I was fed up with a lot of things and people.  I knew that it was time for a drastic change.

That’s why I decided to immerse myself into a new country, new culture and a new language.  But in order to do so I had to be as prepared as possible. So, I started learning English up to 6 hours a day at times and I learned about the American culture through a lot of movies and reading.  The spring before I moved to New York I even spent some vacation in the UK with my family with the main purpose of practicing my English.

I was willing to make the change and take on some of the responsibilities that such change was calling for.

The more you learn about what you don’t know, the less scary it will be to make the change.

What about you? Are you in need of change? If you are, what’s stopping you? Could it be that you don’t know enough about what you want or need to do, or what needs to be changed in your situation?

Change is Good

I know you’ve heard that expression before, haven’t you?

Yes, it’s true, change is good.

In my case, the change that I made when I moved to New York was something I needed.  Eventually, getting to know another country and culture helped me to rediscover my own under a new light, which I was just about to hate when I left.

The grass is always greener on the other side, is also such a true expression.  After a few years in the US I really started to like France again, more than ever before.  That’s why I blog every week about it.  Change helps you to reevaluate yourself and get more balanced ideas about things.

Change also helps you to go above that fence and learn what’s on the other side.  It helps you see that the unknown is not that scary after all.

Change helps you grow!

What Moving has to do with the Law of Attraction?

The main reason why I moved this time around is because I was ready for some upgrade.  My place was rather small and I wanted to be in a more upscale neighborhood.

The first step to attract better things is to step into it.  I knew that moving in a larger and nicer place will put my mind at a better level to better attract the next stage of my life.

When you live in a nicer place, your whole spirit changes; you can’t help but feeling better about yourself. This in turns will bring your vibrations at a higher level.  If you’ve been reading this blog, you know that higher vibrations will attract better things into your life.

So, what about you? Are you in a place in your life where you need change, and are  you working towards that change?

Let us know in the comment area what you think about change, and what change you’re planning in your life?
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21 Comments

  • Harleena SinghTwitter: harleenas says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    Nice to have you back, and yes, I do know you were shifting to a new place too 🙂

    I’m glad that phase is over for you, and am sure you’re going to love your new place too.

    Speaking of myself, I’m so used to shifting and moving houses because of my Dad who was in the Army, where you have to move your location every 2-3 years. The best part is always seeing a new place, making new friends, living in a new house, embracing change, which I feel is very important for our personal growth. It makes you think ahead and always be ready for taking in any kind of change.

    I agree, personally no one likes change – me neither as it moves us away from our comfort zones and I’d rather be where I am. However, whether we like it or not, what changes have to happen – will happen even if you don’t like a few of them. It only makes sense to take them positively.

    I loved your last few lines about how – living in a nicer place changes your whole spirit changes, which makes you feel better about yourself – bringing your vibrations to a higher level.

    Thanks for sharing this with us. Have a nice week ahead 🙂
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Harleena,

      Well, as the daughter of someone in the army I bet you’re used to moving, and there can be a god and bad side of this, but hopefully mostly good.

      Most people don’t like change, but it will happen either way, so, yes, taking change positively is big help.

      Yes, my new place makes me feel much better about myself. It was one of the main purposes to move.

      Thanks for being here, again, Harleena

  • Tonya Stephens says:

    Hi Sylvianne,

    Really enjoyed reading about your life changes. Yes we do tend to think the grass is greener on the other side don’t we.
    When I was younger, I was fearless and never minded change. As you say in your blog post the older we get things change.
    I still have the ability to handle change but I prefer it not be drastic change.
    I’ve recently had a drastic change in my life and I’m dealing with it. Internet marketing is one of the ways I’m doing that.
    It’s a lot to learn but I have the time now.
    One thing I’ve been lucky with is living in a beautiful area where it’s a joy to wake up to everyday. We’ve been here for 20 years. We also have a second home by the ocean in a beautiful area and there’s tremendous positive energy there.
    I also can’t leave out my wonderful supportive husband!
    Bring it on! I will handle what comes.
    Tonya

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Tonya,

      Well, it doesn’t seem that you have any need to move anywhere, so that’s great. In my case, however, it was so needed and I’m so glad I did.

      I think that when we are young we are less fearful of anything. It’s seems that it something that doesn’t get any better as we age 🙂 I agree!

      Thanks for you input, Tonya.

  • AdrienneTwitter: adriennesmith40 says:

    It’s funny because we were talking last night about you moving Sylviane and liking the change and Donna not being able to stay in one place more then 10 years. I’ve been in my current condo for 22 years but have been in this same complex for 24.

    I don’t necessarily like to move, I like staying put but I also own my home and don’t want another mortgage. But I do believe that change is just a part of life because things will change and evolve and we do not want to be stuck in the past.

    I look back on my life and although I have never been comfortable with change I have embraced it because I do know it’s necessary in order for me to continue moving forward. I don’t regret anything either just like you Sylviane!

    We’re all glad you made the changes you have in your life or we may never have had this opportunity to meet you. So see, change is good.

    ~Adrienne
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Adrienne,

      Yes, As you gals were talking about this on Wednesday I was thinking about the post I’d just published, but sometimes it’s hard for me to compete we you all and place a word, so I didn’t! 🙂 What I like about this group is that I used to think that I was a talker before, but except for Sue, you all beat me there!

      I think that if one doesn’t feel the need to move, then, there’s no need to do so. It’s just that some people need this more than others.

      As far as “change” everything does evolves and changes, so we need to accept it in good spirit and go with it.

      Thanks for coming and have a great week end!

  • Neamat TawadrousTwitter: nkeriakos says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    Congratulations on your new house and for making the decision to move and upgrade to a better neighborhood. That’s a great step forward and a nice change for sure.

    Just as you mentioned, change is going to happen, whether we like it or not. What matters most is that we learn to accept it and make it part of our lives and look at it with a positive perspective.

    You said it, Change is good and embracing change makes us more prepared for the future. Change enables us to become better and do better as it’s part of our growth. Remaining Stagnant is not fun at all and is equivalent to death and as you said comfort zone doesn’t necessarily mean that it is comfortable, it is just the fear from the unkown.

    I agree we all fear change, especially sudden changes, and I think a great deal of that is about our perspective towards change. Attitude is critical when it comes to embracing change. Change is great for us to grow and it is very important to remember that it is temporary. When we accept the fact that nothing lasts forever, we are better equipped to deal with that change.

    Great Post Sylviane as always. Have a great rest of the week.

    Be Blessed,

    Neamat
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Yes, sometimes it’s time to move up.

      Right after my divorce over 10 years ago I had to move down and sale my house for a smaller town home, then I even had to sell the town home and went down from there again.

      This time, however, it was time to get back to a better place again and I feel good in it. It’s a good thing to embrace change as it is inevitable.

      Thanks for coming here, Neamat, as always. I appreciate your input.

  • Anne Lim says:

    Hello Sylviane,

    Thank you very much for sharing this great post. Yes, I agree with you. Most people resist change, even though that change is part of life. Actually nothing stays still and everything changes.

    I actually like changes. If ever I will change, I will change to be better 🙂

    Regards,
    Anne

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Anne,

      Yes, change is part of like, and yes, it’s woth while when it’s positive change.

      Thanks for coming.

  • Edith says:

    Well written, changes are always good because they are the building parts of the castle of progression. And – although it sounds ambivalent and paradox – it is natural as well, that people often resist changes. Change means, that something is going to be different in your life. You have to step out of your comfort zone. You don’t feel safe anymore. You have to change as well because the world around you is changing. There is an antic roman word for that: ‘panta rei’ (everything is changing) you cannot step two times into the same river.

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Edith and welcome to my blog.

      I really like your intelligent comment and so true.

      You can’t step twice into the same river is a great image that illustrates change so well.

      Great input!

  • Disha says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    This is really nice to hear & read this article “Why Change Is Good” Sylviane, I appreciate your thinking for great post. Actually Change is important in life. Life becomes bore, if everything run same for long time. Change is recruitment everywhere which makes life interesting & attractive.

  • Delmar Johnson says:

    Hi Sylviane, great post on changes. I’ve always said that change is the constant in life. And in my life I have gone through many changes, and in the midst of changing/reinventing myself right now. I’m evolving to being more of who I really am and sharing that through my speaking, career coaching and development business I’m positioning myself to build up over the long term. It has not been easy at all and still much work to do, however, the challenge is stretching me to be more of my authentic self. I am more fulfilled when I’m helping others tap into the talents, skills and know how to create the kind of career they desire. Thanks for post and cheers to your continued success.

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Delmar,

      I almost didn’t recognized you because you have no avatar, but I know who you are now.

      Life is an eternal change in constant motion. Nothing is actually totally still, ever.

      Since we are in the same business, we should definitely get to know each other more, at least I’d like to know you more, and will come by your place 🙂

      Thanks for coming by.

  • Donna MerrillTwitter: donna_tribe says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    So happy for you that you made a great move to a better location and larger space. It does have a strong effect on the “Self.”

    I thought I moved around a lot until I read how many times you have moved. Especially to different countries. How wonderful it is to live in different places and learn language and culture!

    I believe that this has made you the knowledgeable and interesting person that you are. You are not afraid to get out of the box and pick yourself up and try new things. You have done so many different things in your life. I admire you!

    I love change too. To me it is exciting. Growing up I lived in the same house until I moved out at 18. Then my journey began. I lived in several states, last being Arizona where I learned I needed water around me. It was a great place and I met awesome people and experienced desert life, but knew it couldn’t last long.

    I rarely stay in one place for over 10 years. This is my 11th year in the home I have and I just put it up for sale. I came to Ithaca for the organic foods, the beauty of the Finger Lakes which reminds me of Italy wine country. The waterfalls right near my home.

    But now I long for the beach. So once my house is sold, I’m moving too. This time I want to buy a home in Maine. I haven’t explored it all yet and will probably be there for a few years.

    So change? I love it!

    Donna
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Donna

      Ah, for having the privilege of knowing you above and beyond our blog posts, I do know that you’re moving every 10 years and getting to be ready to move to Main which I’ve never been but heard it’s beautiful. I think moving every 10 years is a good thing.

      I think that as you mentioned, we know what type of place is or isn’t for us. I’ve lived a total of 10 years in huge cities, 5 years in Paris and 5 years in New York, but I knew it couldn’t last, because I’m a country gal. I love pastures, trees, quiet and animals. That’s who I am. So, I came back to the source where I live is a much smaller town with all the above.

      Now, I could also live on the beach. I’d love that too 🙂 In North Carolina I have the beach at an hour and half drive, so it not too bad.

      Thanks for coming as always, Donna

  • DeeAnn Rice says:

    Sylviane,

    I thing change is good for you also. I have experienced a lot of change in my life and have always loved it.

    I have lived on 3 continents, in 11 cities and have moved 22 time excluding going to college and summer jobs. I always looked at moving as an adventure. There were all of those people out there just waiting for me to meet them.

    I actually love change and especially the change of moving to a new place. It is like I get to start all over again with a clean slate.

    I think that change does have a lot to do with the law of attraction. When you have a change of surroundings it changes your outlook on life either positively or negatively and in doing so affects who and what you attract.

    I really do think that change is good.

    Dee Ann

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi DeeAnn,

      Wow, you’ve moved around even more than I have. What are the other 2 continents you’ve lived in?

      There is no doubt that change does change you. Our surroundings are full of vibrations that can be either positive or negative, so they certainly affect us as well as our own self.

      Thank for coming, DeeAnn

      • DeeAnn Rice says:

        Slyvianne,

        The other 2 continents where I have live are Australia and Africa. I also lived in New Zealand but that is not a Continent only a couple of islands.

        In Africa I lived in Lesotho which is an independent country surrounded by South Africa.

        I loved living other places. It was such an adventure. I loved getting to know the customs of the people and all of the experiences both good and bad. It was a great time in my life.

        Dee Ann

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