7 Blogging Gift-Lessons Learned

7 Blogging Gift Lessons Learned

7 Blogging Gift Lessons Learned

For this gift season, I thought I’ll create a list of gift-lessons that I have learned over the course of my latest years of blogging.

Those lessons learned happened to have been vital for my blogging progress and improvement.  So I hope that you will give them some consideration, and apply them if you haven’t already.

I know that some of you are away from blogging, so I’ll be posting only once a week for the rest of the year. This is the beauty of having only one domain instead of three now. The pressure if off of me, not matter what I chose to do.

So, without further ado, lets talk about those gift-lessons that I’ve learned about blogging. They are in no particular order.

Blogging Gift-Lesson Learned #1 – Talk about other People

As up the moment that I’m writing these words, my last week’s post has generated some 400+ shares and 114 comments. Now that’s pretty cool, isn’t it?

This post even generated some companies to contact me to do business with them. So, that goes to show you.

When you give, you get back.

This post wasn’t about me at all, but about 42 other bloggers that I wanted to feature and introduce to other people, but I did get a lot back from this, indeed.

So, gift-lesson number one, is talk about other people on your posts, and you’ll get more shares, more comments and be noticed more. Plus, you’ll be building relationships with the ones you mention.

Blogging Gift-Lesson Learned #2 – Meet other Bloggers

Don’t blog on your own little corner.

If you are a blogger and you want your blog to become more popular, get more traffic and be ranking better, you MUST connect with other bloggers.

We cannot do it alone.

And no one will help you make your blog more visible  better than other bloggers.  So, if you have blogged for a while in your little corner, stop that now.

Get out of your cocoon, and meet with other bloggers, get to know them, and help them get to know you.

Maybe you feel that most bloggers do that right?

Well, you’d be surprise, many bloggers out there, have yet to build relationships with other bloggers.  They are blogging in their own little corner and they are really missing out.

Blogging Gift-Lesson learned #3 – Give Genuine Comments

First off, let me tell you this.  Not all comments are equal.

A very good way to make yourself known is by leaving genuine comments on other bloggers’ posts, but that could be for either a good or a bad reason.

For example, last week, my friend Adrienne, noticed a spammer comment on my post, and told me right away. That person had already made herself known as a spammer on other blogs. So I spammed her comment right away.

You don’t want to be known for a negative reason, do you?

If you are commenting on other blogs, what type of commenter are you?

Are you leaving interesting and genuine comments, or just a few useless words?

I personally feel that if you’re not able to write at least a couple of paragraphs that are worth everybody’s time, you might as well not comment at all.

Actually it might be better if you didn’t, because, over time, people are going to judge you by the quality of your comments.

So, be smart, and leave genuine and meaningful comments on other blogs. This can go a long way. Many people have landed on my blog just because they noticed my comment on someone else’s.

Blogging Gift-Lesson Learned #4 – Be the Kind of Person People want to meet

This one probably goes hand in hand with the one above.  For you to be able to attract more and better comments on your blog, and even true friendships (yes, it does happen) you need to be approachable, and you need to respond when people are trying to get to know you.

Be sure that your kindness, your humor, your great personality (and I hope you have one) comes out through your blog, comments and other avenues of expressions online.

Most people that I’ve met in the physical world have told me that I have a strong personality, or that I tell it like it is.

These are statements that I hear a lot about me from people who know me.


Because, I’m not scared to be whom I am, and I’m too old to try to be anyone else by now.

I don’t think that’s a bad thing. I actually think that it’s a good thing, and I hope that some of my personality comes out online as well.

What about you?

Are you letting the “human being in you” come out?

If not, try it. I promise, people love to connect with REAL people, who are alive and show a personality behind the blog.

So, don’t be afraid, and let the human being that is YOU, come out.

Blogging Gift-Lessons Learned #5 – Be more Creative

You know the old statement “content is kind” right? Well, while this is true to a degree, I feel that in 2015, content alone won’t be enough to make it to the top.


Because more and more bloggers I’ve gotten it.

They know that they have to write valuable content. They know that they have to pop up articles that are at least 1,000 words (and that 2,000 is even better), and they understand that the reader has become more educated, and now needs more unique and creative content.

That’s why, besides creating your best ever quality content, you are going to need to be more and more creative to evoke interested in your blog posts.

This is probably the most difficult of all my blogging lessons learned.

I’m working on it myself.

Blogging Gift-Lesson Learned #6 – Be Organized

Realistically, it’s not always easy to get it all the first time around, when you start blogging, and being organized can be difficult at first.

I know, believe me.

I’ve been blogging since 2008 in one way or another, and I’m still learning and cleaning my act.

So, I’m not going to tell you that’s easy to get it right away, but at least I’ll tell you this…

There’s more help out there today to get organized in your blogging, than there was back in 2008-2009.

If you just click on my previous post, you’ll find 42 bloggers from whom you could learn a great deal about blogging, writing, and other valuable blogging related tips.

When I started blogging, I was a lot like a blind person trying to walk around an unfamiliar area. I was a bit lost and basically made all the mistakes I could have made.

I was very disorganized and it really slowed my progress down.

So, don’t make the same mistake. Get your education as soon as you can and start on the right foot. Or at least get your act together as soon as possible.

Blogging Gift-Lesson Learned #7 – Know your Audience

Now, as much as we would like our audience to be our fellow bloggers, they are not.

Your fellow bloggers are not your audience, in the sense that they are most likely not your potential buyer.

So, while keeping this in mind, make sure that most of your posts’ topics are girded towards your audience, and not your buddies that help you with comments and sharing of your content.

I guess that the 80/20 rule would apply in this case.

Blog 80% for your audience and 20% for your blogging friends.

If your blog posts are interesting, educational or even entertaining, your fellow bloggers will enjoy them in one way or another anyway, but in the end, keep in mind that you are blogging for your audience. Those who will hire your services or buy your products based on what they read in your content.


I hope that you enjoyed these 7 Blogging gift lessons today, and that you will make sure to apply them all in 2015, if you have not already.

Have a Merry Christmas, and in the meantime, please, leave your knock out comment below!


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39 thoughts on “7 Blogging Gift-Lessons Learned”

  1. These are excellent lessons Sylviane and I absolutely agree with every point you outlined here.

    Oh yes I remember that post where I’m one of the 42. You have put that point #1 and I think it deserves it.

    Talking about others on your blog is one of the most powerful ways to connect with them and take your blog to a whole new level. My experience with this method is such that I’ll keep doing it for as long as I blog.

    I have also spoken so well on your point #4. You cannot want to connect with people when you are not attractive. You are just going to fail. You must create an environment around you to make people feel they are in the right place.

    The first thing you must do to grow in relationships is to make sure you have the rights things to attract people – make them feel ok on your blog. Every other thing is just adding to this core value 😉

    Excellent lessons and gifts Sylviane. That really makes me feel the Christmas.

    Merry Christmas to you dear friend
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    1. Hi Enstine,

      I’m so glad to see you here so early.

      Yes, for sure, if you want to try building relationships with other bloggers, you need to act that you mean it. You need to be active.

      Sure it takes some time, and dedication, but it’s all well worth it for the growth of our online business.

      Thank you for coming, and have a Merry Christmas!

    1. Hi Emebu,

      Well, I really feel bad for the bloggers who never talk about other bloggers, but my guess is they are not too much mentioned by other bloggers either, right?

      I’m glad you enjoyed this post, and thank you for coming.

  2. Hi Sylviane,

    Thanks for the Christmas gift.

    I’m going to use this gift right away! Can’t resist. To check out
    how I’m using it you and others if interested will find the results on
    my Facebook Fan Page called Internet Money Store.

    I would really love to come down on that Gift #6.
    Getting Organized, creating a schedule and sticking to it has
    always been a problem, not just for me but several other unfortunates
    that I list among my friends.

    The real reason is that Life is dynamic and always changing (sounds
    like another excuse to me!)

    Guess the solution is to keep trying, cause sooner or later, something is
    bound to stick and make sense.
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    1. Hi Cararta,

      I think that if you want to make sure you stick to your blogging rules, such as posting every week on the same day or days, first and foremost, you need to take your blog seriously, like a job.

      This means that, only on rare exceptions, you might be missing a post, but for the most part you will be regular, no matter what.

      From experience, I’ve noticed that those who have a hard time to keep up with their blog is because the blog comes only secondary, or even less in their life. Just make it important, as one of the most important things you’ve got to do, and you will improve with consistency.

      Thank you for coming and have a wonderful Christmas!

  3. Hi Sylviane,

    Now those are some really great lessons that you’ve learned and I agree with them all.

    I think at times we each have to experience the lessons for ourselves but at others it’s great when enough people will share the right things we should be doing that could really help us a lot. I know that’s a big time saver for so many people and I know I’d prefer to cut some corners myself if possible.

    I’ve had people approach me and ask me why I’m helping other people in my posts and linking out to them. My answer is that I certainly don’t nor have I ever claimed to know everything so why not highlight the people that can help them in a specific area and that will not only benefit your readers but the other blogger as well. I just don’t understand why people wouldn’t want to help them all. Your post about the 42 bloggers is a prime example.

    You know I’m big on meeting other bloggers, leaving genuine comments and being he kind of person people want to meet. It’s all about people so start building those relationships with other bloggers today and you will also reap the rewards from those as well right!

    I’ve got to think very hard how to be more creative with the coming year. We all need to step it up a notch so that’s another thing I’ll be thinking seriously about. I’m pretty organized so that’s not an issue. The know your audience, well we all better be spot on with that or we’ll just be spinning or wheels right!

    Another great share Sylviane and nice to hear you’ll be cutting back on posting as well. I know you’ve had a really rough year but I do wish you the best during this holiday season. I know it will be different without Sophie so know you remain in my prayers young lady.

    I just want to be sure though to wish you a Very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

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    1. Hi Adrienne,

      Well, first off, those who do not understand why someone would share other people’s blog links, name and so on, have what life coaches call a “lack mentality” or “lack mindset” and I really feel sorry for them.

      As for those of us who know the laws of the universe, we know that there is room for each one of us, we don’t have that problem. Plus a very important law of the Universe is that the more you give, the more your receive.

      Me too, lately I’ve been seriously thinking how I could be more creative and attract more interest to my posts. For one thing, my images are all going to be 100% home made. It’s fun to do, I love it and they will be totally unique and totally mine. Secondly, 80% of my content will be created with my potential clients in mind.

      For sure, Christmas won’t be the same without my daughter and I’ll be thinking about my mom a lot too. Already started.

      However, I’ve been meditating a lot lately, and I’m having the clearest beautiful dreams. Few nights ago I dreamed of both my parents very vividly, under a beautiful blue sky, then all of sudden, a little girl with curly hair was running along side them. That little girl was me. I looked very much like I did when I was about 2 years old, and my parents looked just like they did at that time too.

      When I woke up, I was very calm and serine. I felt like my parents spirits were with me.

      Since they died, I’ve dreamed both my mom and Sophie very alive and happy, once for each.

      I know that dreams are linked to the subconscious mind and the subconscious mind is linked to our higher self, God, so I know that those dreams mean something, and they will help me to be OK during this Christmas.

      I wish you a very Merry Christmas too, Adrienne. Be blessed 🙂

  4. Wow, what could I possibly add to this list, Sylviane? I think almost everything on here can be summed up very simply as… just be a good person! Yes, give to other people, be generous, teach and share, be nice… and hang out with other good people!

    Everything you said is something that everyone can practice and keep improving. We can always be better, right?

    I consider myself fortunate to have connected with you and I’m glad we get to see another year out together. I know this has been a tough one for you but you are strong and your spirit shines through.
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    1. Hi Carol,

      Always very nice to see you here. I made sure I went and listened to your latest podcast this morning. By the way did you and and Ralph ever get an offer to do a radio talk show, yet? Because you sound like real radio pros 🙂

      I think that 2015 will be the year of those who are not scared to show human emotions, and understand that we need to connect with other professionals in order to grow more.

      I’ll be sure to keep coming to your blog and podcasts. I’m still a stronger fan of written content, but podcasts can be fun too.

      Have a very Merry Christmas!

  5. Hi Sylviane,

    Those are such wonderful gifts, and the lessons – so apt 🙂

    I was nodding my head right through while reading your post, just what we need to be doing. Oh yes…your earlier post was all about others, and that’s just how it should be – giving more to others and that’s how you receive, something I’ve always believed in and followed myself. That was one reason for starting the forum at my blog – to create a platform for people to share, interact, and be with each other – one way to give back to people.

    It’s not easy for everyone to meet new people and interact with them, but with time, they must or else they’d find themselves completely cut off from the rest. I know we were in that stage, though only initially, when we started blogging, isn’t it?

    I know about the lady you mentioned who is leaving fake comments all over, and have warned a few of my friends about her too. She’s even started changing her name now, though one can make out from the blog URL – so just be careful. You certainly need to take out time to read the post, and leave a meaningful comment – I just don’t know how people do it otherwise – just for links!

    That’s true – to be like the person people want to meet by being the real, genuine – YOU. Again, most newbies try to copy others, and perhaps it’s alright initially because they don’t have an idea of how to go about things. But later, they have to develop their own voice and standing, that’s what would make them stand apart and be different from the crowd.

    You surely are creative, and let me mention – I see a lot of good changes in your way of writing too (or is it just me noticing it!) Not that it wasn’t earlier, but the format and simplicity of words etc. And I notice the nice social button on the left too and a little here and there – all for the good. Yes – be organized and know who your readers are, and write FOR them, that’s the key. Any helpful post you write, is well taken up by them, and they’d be right back asking for more. 🙂

    Thanks for sharing these lessons with us. I am glad you are planning to post once a week and taking a little breather. Don’t we all need that! I’d be taking it off too for a few days after my Blogiversary soon. Until then, Happy Holidays 🙂
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    1. Hi Harleena,

      Thank you so much for your long super comment 🙂 We all love those, ya know.

      As a writer yourself, I am not surprised that you’ve noticed some changes in my writing style. Ahahah… only a writer would actually notice that! Nobody else said anything.

      Actually, yes, I did.

      Truth be told, I’ve got inspired by Kevin Duncan and Jaime Buckley. I love the way they write those very short sentences that really come out and make the post so easy to read. Perfect for screen reading, I think. So, I thought, hum, I’ve got to try that. Not just because they do it, but I feel that it fits my writing style, and personality as well. I feel comfortable with it.

      I agree with you, if we can’t get good at communicating with other bloggers and leave genuine comments, eventually you will be left out, and where can one go from there? Blogging in their own little corner, I guess.

      I know that you’ve built a tremendous community with your blog, and now with your forum. That’s really commendable. You did a fantastic job, and all the best success to you for 2015!

      Thanks you for coming, and happy holidays!!!

  6. Hi Sylviane,

    What a great gift you gave here!! 7 awesome lessons which can help the worst blogger to become the best.

    All seven are so valuable and I need to work on lessons 1, 5 and 6 the most. Become more creative with my content and more organized with my blogging for sure, and give credit to my readers and fellow bloggers as well. I fall short on this one, I admit.

    All the other lessons, I am applying but I need to take it to a higher level, like meeting more bloggers and commenting and visiting more blogs.

    Thanks Sylviane for a great gift!! I personally cherish it very much and I will definitely apply these lessons in 2015.

    Wish you a Merry Christmas And A Happy New Year!!! All the best!!!!

    Be Blessed,

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    1. Hi Neamat,

      I really like the fact that you see some tips you could use more for this coming year 2015. That’s great.

      Truth be told, we ALL can improve on each of those, myself having written the post, included:)

      But that’s the good thing about blogging, the more we move forward, the more we learn, the more we apply and the more we grow.

      Thanks so much for coming. I was just thinking about you and was going to hop over at you place 🙂

      Have a very Merry Christmas.

  7. Hi Sylviane,

    I just love the simple advice that works!

    Be Organised… Like you, being organised didn’t come to me instantly and I’ve had to develop and carve out my own plan my way.

    I now Ms. Organised and nothing gets past me! I feel a lot more in control of my business and less stressed out. Simple tasks of planning and preparing will have huge effects on whether you have a good or bad day 🙂

    Here’s to good work days!

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    1. Hi Naomi,

      Thanks for your feedback about how being organize can improve someone’s blogging and business. It’s very hard to success when w’re not organized, isn’t it?

      I hope you’ll have a happy New Year!

  8. Hi Sylviane.

    I’ve made the same observations in the short time that I’ve been blogging. And I think especially the first point about mentioning others goes a long way very quickly.

    I mentioned just one in each of my last couple of posts, but that made some difference. For the first time, I now have a proper idea of what topics I will post. It is also certainly my intention to mention many more bloggers.

    It was interesting that you had some companies approach you after your last post. I need something like that to happen, so it’s another incentive for me to make it happen.

    Thanks for sharing your tips.

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    1. Hi Nathan,

      Sorry for the late reply, but I had some computer problems over the holidays.

      I’m glad you enjoyed those tips and working toward improving your exposure by applying some methods that work.

      Thank you for coming.

  9. Hi Sylviane,

    The saying that every writer has a unique voice is so true. Your blogging gifts lessons are precious but your voice in this post is unique. It sounds as if I have not read such tips before.

    This shows why this blog is awesome. I like the fact that you appreciate people which is why your last post touched my soul. You are right about meeting other bloggers. Though it seems difficult at the initial stage but if we walk towards a guinine friendship, then it should not be a problem.

    Giving genuine comments does help in building strong relationships. However I see bloggers focus more of the length of the comment than the heart of the message. What is important is not the length of the message. Bloggers should focus on providing a comment that is of value.

    I like to know people for who they are; I am not a party to fake identities. I agree that people should be real either offline or online. As for creativity, we need it more than ever before. Bloggers need to think outside the box as some blogging techniques don’t work anymore.

    I see point 6 and 7 tied together as It is only when you are organised that you will apply smart strategies like getting to know your audience which is the foundation of blogging.

    Thanks for sharing this gift and Merry Christmas.
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    1. Hi Ikechi,

      Oh, my gosh, thank you so much for your kind words, they really touched me too 🙂

      I like that you like genuine bloggers, and genuine comments. Of course, genuine doesn’t mean long, but just a quick sentence to show that you were here, isn’t really genuine either. A good middle is great 🙂

      I really appreciate you and will check out your blog very soon. Promised 🙂

      Have a very happy New Year!

  10. Hi SYLVIAN
    This is Very Interesting Article , Superb Blogging gifts , Mind Blowing ideas i agree with you Sounds great. I’ll be looking forward to that email!!!!
    I hope you enjoy your time off and spend some time just enjoying yourself and your family and friends!!!! Like I said, you deserve it.Ammezing Post , Thank You Very Much For Sharing me ,

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  11. Hi Sylviane,

    Really great points you made here with these lessons learned. I think your lessons #3 is really worth paying attention to because comments are really important to a blog. Not only for its success but for the engagement factor as well.

    But the thing you said there that was really important was “genuine comments”.

    They have to be genuine and be sincere or else the persons blog you’re leaving the comment on will see right through it. And may even think you’re just out for yourself or to just get a link.

    Also your point about knowing your audience is something that’s really important as well. If you don’t know your audience at all then you’re not going to have that much success blogging. And that’s the straight facts.

    Congrats on having the companies contact you. You’re proof that good networking can work wonders.

    Congrats again on that and hope you have a great day and great New Year.

    – Andrew

    1. Hi Andrew,

      I’m glad you appreciated my points here.

      I thing that non-genuine comments is one of the things that bugs me the most. I have really started to put my foot down with that, and I don’t hesitate to delete any suspect comments anymore. I used to, but not anymore 🙂

      Thank you for your genuine comment here 🙂

  12. Hey SYLVIANE,
    fantastic post on very crucial topic. Yeah I do agree with you post genuine comments on your fellow blog enhance other bloggers experience and help to create relation with each other.
    I always try to pitch my experience on my fellow bloggers post. Through this they start interacting with me and that’s what I want.

    You’ve shared very key points!
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    1. Hi Mustafa,

      Genuine comments are crucial and I’d rather have nothing than an empty comment at this point on my blog.

      Thank you so much for coming and hope to see you again soon.

  13. Hey Sylviane,

    Happy New Year,

    I have missed your earlier post about the bloggers that you had featured. Now heading over to that post to check it out.

    Excellent article, I like all of your 7 tips. Personally, the talk about other people and coming out of the cocoon and connecting and networking with other bloggers helps a lot.

    Blogging isn’t an island and bloggers shouldn’t get stuck. Content is all about spreading and failing to do so does not helps.

    I like your 80-20 rule. Will make sure to implement more of it in 2015.

    Uttoran Sen,
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  14. Ciao, Sylviane,

    What a beautiful theme for your blog post! Love it. 🙂

    Blogging gifts/lessons. I like number 1 a lot because that principle is so very true. When you give to others unselfishly, there is a natural boomerang effect that happens – and you are then blessed. It may be later, or may be sooner, but it will happen. Congrats on gaining new client interest!

    You know, the best gift is making awesome friends from the new people we meet – what a treasure! Some marketers say that their biggest and most valuable asset is their list, and I understand that, but for me – it’s the friends/connections I’ve made online.

    Being genuine and authentic in comments is a requirement, and if someone is NOT…. Well, it sticks out like a sore thumb!

    I intend to grow in the area of creativity this year, that’s for sure. Love your post, and it’s oh so relevant to me and pushes me to be better, which I definitely need, so thank you!

    Happy New Year!

    P.S. Would you please remove Twitter from my Name completely….Like yours? Thanks in advance. 🙂
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    1. Hi Carol,

      OK, I removed Twitter for you 🙂 I know this really bugged you, and I understand what you mean. So it’s should be gone now.

      I’m glad my blog finally let you comment, but every time I asked about that I’m told it’s a browser issue and not a blog issue. Who knows what’s going on at times. Technology as definitely a mind of its own, don’t you think?

      I’m totally in agreement with you, my most valuable asset is my list of friends… great, awesome people I’ve connected with, especially this past couple of year, just like yourself.

      I replied back to your response on Facebook. Very excited about my growing list of guest bloggers LOL!!! This is going to be fun and exciting.

  15. Sylviane I love #3 about giving genuine comments but I want to note an interesting observation.

    Too many times I see blind praise in blog comments. Is it wrong to question what people have posted?

    Some people get upset easily. Therefore most people post lots of candy coated comments that don’t necessarily add to the discussion. I like to question theories because I think it’s how we better ourselves. It’s how we can see at other sides of a discussion.

    Do you always post with the grain and hold off on commenting when you disagree? Food for thought.
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    1. Hi Jonathan,

      I know, this is something about comments on blogs, they tend to always agree, but as long as it’s done in a polite way, I don’t think it’s bad to disagree if we really do. Actually one of the last comments I made on a post I kinda disagree with the discussion but I phrased it in a nice way. I would never do it to offend the blogger though.

      But it’s OK to question and disagree if it’s genuine. Totally 🙂 But yes, people do get upset easily. I’ve seen that happen too.

      I liked your input.

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