Life would be a much more joyful experience if we could let go of the negative past experiences.
One of the great books about the law of attraction/subconscious mind category that I read said this about bad experiences: ” We may have had a bad experience which happened once, but we relieve that experience over and over and over“. We give those past experiences an immense power by relieving them for years and years after the experience is over. A middle age person may relive a negative experience which happened when he was a child everyday! We, as humans have a tendency to this on a daily basis.
One thing that many people are not aware of is that what they experiences in life are based on their perception of the reality. Your experiences, good or bad validate your beliefs. In turn your beliefs bring about you experiences. This is the reason why experiences tend to repeat themselves whether is it in relationships, health, finances or any other areas of your life.
Do you know of someone who has gone from one bad relationship to another? Do you know of someone who always lack money to make ends meet? Do you know of anyone who tends to repeat the same experience over and over?
How many times have you drawn the same experience to yourself over and over?
Learning how to neutralize the bad experience
Your life today may be affected by a long past experience that has affected you deeply when it occurred, and is is still affecting you now. You might not even be consciously aware that you were thinking different before the incident happened. However, your belief may have changed because of the negative experience. What can you do about this?
1) discern what is wrong
Discern your belief. What really is YOUR BELIEF about the experience? If you look deep inside your beliefs, you will probably find that the truth is that you attracted the negative experience with your subconscious beliefs.
Think about your similar experiences and look for the common thread. You will usually find that the same kind of negative experience has repeated itself all through your life.
2) Make a list of your beliefs
Create two lists of your beliefs. One list with your positive beliefs. One list with your negative beliefs. Don’t try to lie to yourself and just write “I am attractive” or “I am not attractive”. “I am clever” or “I am not clever” based on you TRUE belief.
This exercise will help you find out the truth about your beliefs. Where do you stand in the world of positivity or negativity?
3) Take charge of your beliefs
By being able to pin-point the belief behind your negative experience, you will have learnt what is the root of your negative experience and what belief is it based on. Even if that experience reproduce itself again, you will be able to discern the reason very clearly.
Once you have done that you will need to re-program your subconscious mind about your negative beliefs.
The best way to do this is by visualization and affirmation. Once you’ve changed the belief from the root “the subconscious mind” the negative experience will not repeat itself.