What Does It Take To Make Life Happen Rather Than Let It Happen

Create a Life by DesignLife happening to you versus making life happen for you, it’s the difference between simply surviving and being successful.

I don’t know about you, but I didn’t grow up with the concept that you can choose your life.  As a matter of fact, it’s a fact that’s been fully revealed only recently with this new flock of life coaches, but it wasn’t a popular concept at all years ago. And while it’s more popular now, there are still more people who are not aware of it yet than those who are.

Of course, there’s always going to be some events in your life that you cannot control, because that’s how life is, we are not meant to control all the events around us (some are above and beyond our control), but what we can control is our reaction to those events.

This is why some people get over terrible ordeals, while some don’t.  That’s why some people chose to be positive, grateful, happy and cheerful and some don’t. That’s why you have people say, life is beautiful while others say, life sucks.

How Long do you Want to Carry on with your Problems?

A couple of days ago I spent over an hour on a phone with a friend who have been having the same recurring problem for the better part of his life, yet he hasn’t really done anything about it (despite my coaching advice). Basically he’s just letting these things happen to him, rather than trying to take control and make life happen for him.

I told him and even wrote to him, so he can get back to it, that if it were me I would take serious actions about this problem of his. But will he, really? I do not know.

The main reason why so many people, like him, let things happen to them is that subconsciously they truly believe that they have no say about what happens to them. They feel that it’s part of life. Period.

If you think that way, I’ve got news for you.

While you can’t prevent the fact that a loved one may die or get sick, or anything like that, you can prevent certain things from happening to you by taking the proper actions.  In the end, it comes down to how much you want it.

How long do you want to carry your problems around? How long will you be accepting this to happen to you? How long are you going to let life just happen to you?

Take the Necessary Actions

I’ve heard a coach saying once that when you truly want to make changes in your life it needs to become an obsession. I think that this is so true, indeed.

Yes, more often than not, it takes that level of commitment for changes to take place in our life. So, my question to you is, how much do you want it?  How much do you want to create a life by design rather than a life that leads you nowhere?

I was supposed to write this article yesterday, but yesterday was my birthday, and for the past five years I’ve taken my birth day off, so I’ve done very little work. However, I started my day with a free coaching session that was offered to me months ago.  Even a coach needs to consult with a coach once in a while, you know.

A very important thing that this coach reminded me is to make sure that I am grateful EVEN for the things that I do not want in my life anymore. This is because of two main reasons…

1)      You probably won’t attract what you do want if you carry around negative vibrations of what you don’t want.

2)      Even  if you manage to attract what you do want while having such negative vibes you’ll carry them over and will sabotage even that.

You know what? Even though I know this, it was such a great reminder for me, especially on this special day of mine.

So, keep this in mind. Even if there is something that you truly don’t want in your life, make sure that you can find at least one reason why you should be thankful for it (I’m sure there is at least one), and when you find it, use that to be grateful for it while you move towards what you really want.

Remember that you need to be grateful NOW no matter what, in order to be grateful tomorrow for what you want.

Yep, Another Cool Video

Since my first video of the kind was so welcomed and people asked me for more, I’ve made a quick little video yesterday where I spent my afternoon. It was beautiful and I spend the afternoon meditating on what I’m going to make happen for me this year, and the next. I hope you’ll enjoy it.

Sorry for the small imperfections, but I wasn’t able to get rid of them with MovieMaker which didn’t cooperate.

 

Video Transcript

What is your subconscious belief? That life just happens to you or that you can make life happen?

What did you grow up being taught? Most of us grow up being taught that life happens to us, and we have little say about it. Bus is that really true?

Can’t we live a life by design?

Of course, there’s always going to be some things that we can’t control in life, but what we can control is how we react to things.

If you lose someone you love, you are entitled to be sad and grieve, but in the end, you need to pick yourself up and know that you’re not alone and that you have a purpose on this earth.

One such purpose is to make life happen the way we want it to be for you, not to just let it happen.

What do you like to do? What are you passions? What do you think you are here for?

Have you ever tried to answer those questions?

Take some time and answer those questions and start making life happen for you. Do not let life happen to you, because it will lead you somewhere you don’t want to be.

So take a day off to do something you really want to do. That’s a start. And that start can lead you somewhere.

 

If you enjoyed this, or if you want to say anything at all, please, leave a comment below. It will be very much appreciated.

 

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23 Comments

  • Louis Sanchez says:

    Very nice article on the power of positive thinking. I have a question for you. What is a Life Coach?

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Louis,

      A life coach is someone that helps her or his client to get in touch with their inner blocks in order to get rid of them. For the most part we teach about the effects of subconscious programming, laws of the Universe, such as a very important one called the law of attraction, and other related things.

      We help people get a better grasp on their life, success (or lack thereof), family situation, professional life and more.

      I have a whole page on this blog that explains what a coach is under the COACHING tab if you want to know more.

      Thanks for coming and I’m glad you enjoyed this.
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  • Bren Lee says:

    Beautifully said Sylvianne!

    Too often people get stuck in a rut and can’t get past what has happened. This brings their life to a stale mate. I’ve had many devastations in my life but I refused to let it confine me. I dealt with it, learned from it, forgave, and moved on. It’s hard but we can’t allow life to stand still, right?

    I love your positive approach gf. Keep on shining!

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Brenda,

      So nice to see you here.

      I know what you mean, I’ve had plenty of devastation in my life too, and one of the worse case scenario there is even very recently, but if we don’t look up, we might as well shoot ourselves, because living this way would be awful.

      Living life as we want it will take work, no doubt (at the beginning), but that’s worth it.

      Thank you for coming by and for your input.
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  • AdrienneTwitter: adriennesmith40 says:

    Hey Sylviane,

    You’re so right, life just happens so we can decide how we’re going to handle the cards that have been dealt.

    I’m sorry to hear your friend is still not moving forward in his life. He sounds like a friend I use to have so when she would continue to bring up the SAME conversation every time I told her we’re not talking about it anymore. I’m not wasting my time or energy on someone who is just a talker and not a doer. Stop asking me for the same advice over and over again because we could be spending our time together enjoying other things instead of harping on the same topic.

    I’m glad you took the day off and enjoyed it. Looks like you had fun and glad Sophie is feeling better too. I like the advice you gave us about losing a loved one. It hurts like hell but they would want us to go on. With time we can learn how to do that too.

    Thanks for the beautiful lesson and here’s to a great ending to your special week.

    ~Adrienne
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Adrienne,

      Well, this last time I spoke to my friend, I told him, listen, if I had your problem I wouldn’t just sit there at age 52 still talking about it, I would take serious action about it. He knows what he needs to do, but he gets lazy and he stops and sure enough the problem comes back with a vengeance.

      Yes, I sure enjoyed my day off with Sophie and at the park for a few hours. It was so quite for a while, just nature and me. That is so my element. It was nice and I needed it too.

      Thank you for coming and have a great week too.

  • donna merrillTwitter: donna_tribe says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    I had to watch that video twice! You made me feel so peaceful! I like what you wrote that we must make our lives an obsession. I did! And still am. I don’t believe that life happens to me. Rather, I make life happen.

    I wasn’t born with this mindset. It took many many years to learn. But once I caught on, it is amazing what we can do. I don’t believe we can do it alone though. We need a coach…Someone to help us along. Find where we don’t realize our pitfalls.

    Then we MUST put things into practice. Live is an ever changing growing opportunity. Making life happen is making life good!

    -Donna
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Donna,

      I’m so glad you like the video!

      I’m like you Donna I wasn’t born thinking that way at all, but I had to learn it, because I didn’t like what life brought me as I was letting it happen to me. This really sucks for most people, when we as you know.

      I agree, everybody needs a coach and I hope more and more people become aware of that.

      Thank you for your great input.

  • Sue PriceTwitter: suejprice says:

    Hi Sylviane

    I love the video and your voice is so soothing in it. Most people think they are victims of life although the idea of law of attraction and creating a life is becoming more widely accepted now.

    Good on you taking a day off for your birthday each year. That is such a good thing to do.

    Thanks for the post and video.

    Sue
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Sue,

      I’m glad you liked the video. When I published the first one few weeks ago, lots of people asked for more, and it’s so much fun to do, that I certainly will make more of those.

      Yes, thankfully the idea of creating a life by design is more widely accepted today, but there’s still lots of people in the dark, though, so much work still to do.

      Thank you for coming, and have a wonderful weekend. I know it’s Saturday for you already 🙂
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  • Harleena SinghTwitter: harleenas says:

    Hi Sylvianne,

    Such a beautiful video, and I love the scenic beauty – so serene and peaceful too 🙂

    It must have been such a treat for your birthday, and I am so glad you took the day off. A great reminder for all of us too! Yes, losing a loved one is hard on us, but you need to let go sooner of later.

    Just as you said, you still have a purpose on this Earth, that’s the reason you are still here. Reminds me of the accident I had a few years ago, but was saved even though my head injury got me unconscious for a whole day….and to imagine anything could have happened, but it didn’t, for the very reason you mentioned.

    I am sure your friend would soon realize that you need to make life happen for you, it doesn’t happen on it’s own – very similar to working to get things done, they don’t happen on their own, isn’t it? Nice reminders from the coach you met too 🙂

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend 🙂

    BTW – The ‘r’ is perhaps missing from the ‘you’ in the video title – ‘Make Your Life Happen’, if I am not mistaken. Good, as it shows you did enjoy yourself 🙂
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Harleena,

      Oh boy if there’s a typo I must correct that 🙂 Thanks for letting me know.

      Yes I took the day off and celebrated my very own special day.

      Especially when we come so close to death like you did, must we realize how important it is to create a better life for ourselves. That’s why you hear that all the time, many people who almost lost their life have a totally new view of things and live differently after such things happened to them.

      Yes, if we’re still here it’s because we still have a purpose. I am sure of that.

      Thank you for coming and have a wonderful weekend.
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  • LisapatbTwitter: Lisapatb says:

    Hi Sylvianne, happy belated birthday. I love the music in your video and your speech timing. I’ve always wondered why some people always seem to have problems and others seem to glide thru life problem free. It’s really about how one handles those problems and if they really want to change their lives. Thanks for reminder on staying positive!
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Lisa,

      Me too. I’ve spent a life time of wondering why some have it easy while others don’t. No school or religion will ever teach you that. EVER! But studying the laws of Universe will. Now I finally have many answers that remained unanswered for the better part of my life.

      I’m glad you liked the video 🙂 and thanks for coming by.
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  • Adi says:

    The post is so helpful for me. I personally follow “Let it be rule” and it’s dangerous most of the times. Now I can understand the big difference between let it be and make it happen!

  • GladysTwitter: coachgladys says:

    Hello Ms. Sylviane

    The video was awesome and so peaceful.You have a wonderful voice for videos.
    The scene was beautiful and I am glad you celebrate your birthday they way you wanted to.

    Your post was inspiring and so true. There is a powerful truth when someone can believe they can make life happen. Intentional and conscious thinking will deliver exactly what we set our minds and heart too.❤️

    So sad to hear about your friend, but he has to come to a place in his life that he is not happy with the way it is.

    Thank you
    Gladys

  • Ravi ChaharTwitter: ravichahar27 says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    It’s great to find such an amazing post.:)

    You know life is full of surprises but there are many people who get so bored with their life. The reason is that they don’t have any ambition for them.

    In my opinion it’s up to you to make your life happening.:)
    I always try to find happiness. People need to try and try again.

    Some people get discouraged and lose hope to have a happening life. They should choose their own path. They should follow their dreams.

    Thanks for inspiring me.

    Hope you are having fun this week.:)

    ~Ravi
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  • Mi MubaTwitter: BAMoneyBlogger says:

    Hi Sylviane

    First of all big bravo to you on producing such a wonderful video where your presentation is awesome and its scenic beauty is amazing.

    I think it all ups to our thinking how we take our life. That is why it is said you can’t define happiness in exact terms. A situation can be quite sad for one person but the same may be a moment of happiness for his whole life.

    I remember when on result announcement day many students used to enjoy on just being promoted to next class and a few others used to be sad on not getting higher ranks. So this is called life you feel it as you spend it.

    But your main point is the biggest reality of life. Life does not happen itself. We have to make it happen and for that we need to forget every bitterness of past and keep our hopes high for the best in future. This is the true spirit of life.

    Thanks a lot for sharing another wonderful post.
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  • Sherman SmithTwitter: shermanksmith75 says:

    Hey Sylviane,

    Powerful post!

    You know growing up I had the belief that you just let life happen to you. I don’t know how it was taught to me, but my parents taught me to have more control over me life more so than anything.

    Yes, there are things that are beyond our control but as you said we have control of the reaction to whatever happens to us in our lives.

    It’s true that whatever you focus on will happen, whether it’s something that you want or not. If you’re focusing of what’s not possible, you’ll keep not getting what you want. Even if you get it, you’ll focus on a way to sabotage it. It’s funny how that works.

    And if you do focus on what’s possible, you’ll always be open to what will make the possible happen. You’ll definitely will see the options that are out there and all you have to do is pick and choose.

    Thanks for sharing Sylviane and I really liked the video you made!

    Take Care!
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  • Corina RamosTwitter: notnowmomsbusy says:

    Hello Sylviane,

    I think if I lived by a lake like that I would not have a day of stress. I would love to live by the water. I think it’s so relaxing.

    I love that you take the day off on your birthday to take time for you. I love that concept. My birthday is in a couple of weeks and I asked or a road trip to see some of the sites in our state. I’m looking forward to it ;).

    Thanks for being so motivating! Have a great day and a fabulous weekend!
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