If you can love intensely, let me tell you something, you are very fortunate and you should cherish this more than anything. Because you know what? Not everyone can love.
On the other hand, if you love intensely, you might have ended up with someone who couldn’t. Worse even, you might have attracted someone who told you that they loved you, but ended up leaving you.
In this article I’m going to answer the question; how can someone who loved me leave me? If that has happened to you, you’re not alone, and this information was created for you.
From Loving me to Leaving me
First off, let me tell you that I understand what you are going through because the same thing has happened to me. Having someone you deeply loved and cared for walking away is truly a devastating experience. As a matter of fact, it can be compared to grieving the death of someone you loved, except that in addition to that the person that you loved not only disappeared but betrayed you as well.
Yes, when someone you loved and said that they loved you, however left you abruptly, it’s a betrayal.
So in fact, you are dealing with two mighty painful situations here, you’ve lost the person you loved, and you are feeling betrayed by them. Not the easiest feelings to live with.
But let me give you a little secret though, if you manage to go through it, it will make you stronger. Maybe that’s why spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle said, “relationships are not here to make us happy but to wake us up.”
The reasons why someone who said they loved you also left you can be many. In this article I’m going to mention a few, and maybe you will recognize your own situation.
The Main Reasons why Someone who Loved you Left you
The first option you need to take into account is that they may have said they loved you, but they didn’t. To figure out if they really didn’t love you is by looking back and reflecting on their behavior. Saying I love you can be easy and cheap. Proving it on the other end is what makes it so.
Looking back at your ex… what do you see? Were they selfish at times even in the most settle way? Did they make statements and plans about your common future life together without asking you first? Was there any moment you doubted their love? If the answer is yes to those questions, or some of those questions, most likely they didn’t truly love you.
Another option is that they thought they loved you, but they were so messed up with their own feelings that they couldn’t see the difference between loving you and simply being infatuated with you. Sometimes someone who has just ended a long term, bad, or toxic relationship is going to jump into another relationship really quickly. And while that person thinks that they’ve fallen in love they are just in need of a rebound relationship to make him feel better. To heal from the previous one.
Unfortunately, most rebound relationships have an expiring date. When the passion has run off the person runs off and leaves much heartbreak behind.
Yet another situation is that unfortunately for you, you fell in love with someone that was broken inside. And while they might have truly loved you for a while their own issues were bigger than their love for you. If you are someone like most of my clients who have been in a toxic relationship pattern until now, and you have never truly healed from it because you’ve never addressed the problem, or because you still have some work to do in this area, you probably were unfortunately a good candidate to attract this type of men (or women if you happen to be a man). This is unfortunately very common.
But because of your own power to love you have attracted this person who didn’t even deserve you. They only loved you because they could feel YOUR love, but eventually because they lacked such love they couldn’t sustain the relationship. A loving long term relationship needs to come from both sides. If it’s missing on one side it can’t last.
If someone told you that they loved left you, you need to remind yourself that you deserve better. First of all, you need to practice self-love if you haven’t done it before. If you haven’t tried that I encourage you to check my video titled, “Why You Need to Develop Self-Love for a Healthy Relationship.”
You are Better than that
Stop believing that they left you because you don’t deserve them, but rather thing about this… did they leave you because they didn’t deserve you?
If you loved them and they loved but were so messed up or even ungrateful to the point that they couldn’t see how lucky they were, do you want to be with such person? Could such man really bring you happiness in the long run?
Maybe they needed to learn a lesson, and being with a loving person like yourself wasn’t teaching them what they needed to learn. Maybe they were not ready for you, so while they managed to attract you into their lives because their vibrations didn’t match yours they left. Someone with a lower vibration is not going to resonate with someone with a higher vibration.
No matter what the situation when someone you love leaves you, it’s painful, but trust me, once you know your value, you’ll know that you can attract someone who will appreciate you for who you are and most of all, never leave you.