You might not be aware of it, but if you think about the many instances in your life when you had a negative experience that experience might have been very different if you only had looked at it from a different perception.
Changing your perception doesn’t mean being in denial of something, it just means seeing it from a different view point.
If you think back of an event where you have felt hurt by someone’s words or actions, try to think about what was the REAL reason why you were hurt of scared? If you could for a moment detached yourself from the event and look at it from an outsider perspective, what would you see? If you did this exercise you will most likely have a different perception of the whole event.
Think about a specif event where you felt powerless, scared or hurt. How did you feel? What made you feel that way? What was the perception that you had about yourself? Now, try to relive the same event in your mind with a different perception. You will automatically feel an enormous empowerment.
You have a lousy boyfriend or girlfriend who hangs up on you. You are devastated and shaking as you dial the number right back in. What is your perception of yourself here? My guess is, you have a very low self-esteem and are in fear of being alone.
You have a lousy boyfriend or girlfriend who hangs up on you. You know that this person is not even worth it, and you are thankful that they detached themselves from you. What is your perception of yourself here? My guess is, you are a very self-assumed person with a strong will.
Could that be the same person with a different perception of themselves? Would this be even possible? Yes, it could and it is. This is a true story of the same person with a different perception of themselves.
Perception is everything. The next time you are going through an experience that is stiring some strong emotions in you. Take a step back and think about your perception on the subjet.