Why Being Closed-Minded Won’t Serve You Well And How Can You Tell?

Closed-mindedDo you see yourself as a close-minded person?  The only challenge that comes along with that question is that most close-minded people won’t admit it or are not even aware that they are.

I can tell you one thing, though, if you are even reading this article, you might not be too much of a close-minded person, and that’s a start.

However, you could be close-minded in some areas you may not be aware of, because, frankly, it’s not something always easy to spot.

In this article, I wanted to attempt to describe what being close-minded means, why it doesn’t serve you, and how to become more open- minded.

What does Close-Minded Really Mean?

According to a dictionary this is the definition of closed-minded: “Intolerant of the beliefs and opinions of others; stubbornly unreceptive to new ideas”.

According to this definition close-minded means two main things “intolerant” and “unreceptive”.  As you probably know or have guessed by now, this blog is a “personal development” blog that is trying to teach about improvement, success, wealth and overall wellbeing and happiness.

So, now the first question that I would be asking YOU if you were right here sitting in front of me is this; do you think that being “intolerance” and/or “unreceptive” would affect your improvement, success, wealth and happiness in a negative way?  If you were honest with yourself you would probably answer, yes, right?

In a few words, we could say that being close-minded doesn’t serve us for the very reason that, somehow, it prevents us from getting new information that could help us move forward in life for more success, more wealth and more happiness.

Close-minded people tend to live and die without being able to make any type of significant changes in their lives.  We all know people like that, don’t we?  If you have any doubt about this, look around you and try to think about some close minded individuals that you may know.  How much do they going on for them?

What Defines a Close-Minded Person?

There are quite a few definitions that would apply to a closed minded person, but here are some of the most common.

  • A close minded person has hard time to accept responsibility
  • A close minded person tend to be a finger pointer
  • A close minded person has a hard time to admit that they are wrong
  • A close minded person tends to disagree a lot
  • A close minded person tends to feel victimized
  • A close minded person tends to criticize a lot
  • A close minded person tends to be self-centered

In this post today, however, I wanted to concentrate on the not accepting responsibility and finger pointing, and how to turn this around if you are affected by such.

Learn How to Blame YOU for Everything that Happens to you

I know this one is a VERY hard one to swallow for some people, and maybe you want to click out of here right now, because God knows how much you’re not responsible for what’s happened to you!

The only problem with that is that it would forever classify you as a close minded person.

One of the most revealing things that I’ve learned in my personal development journey was something Dr Hew Len Ho’oponopono teaches.  Dr Ho’oponopono is a wise man from Hawaii who teaches ancient Hawaii healing methods using the subconscious mind and the inner person. He is famous for having helped dangerous criminals in prisons for becoming totally transformed.  In other words, he helped transform wolves into lambs.

There’s a free download here to learn more about Dr Ho’oponopono’s teaching (not affiliate link)

One of the main teachings that Dr Ho’oponopono teaches all over his seminars is this: EVERYTHING YOU EXPERIENCE IS BECAUSE OF YOU.  IT’S NEVER OTHERS.  Of course that goes for every single one of us.

Now, how would a closed-minded person might react to this? They might say that’s BS, I don’t believe this. Well, that’s fine, but, heck, do you see who is teaching you this? A guy who is responsible for the turnaround of some of the worst criminals on the planet!  Now, wouldn’t you at least want to be open minded for just about 10 minutes and hear him out?

That’s exactly what an opened minded person would do.

When I started looking at me life and started understanding that anything that has ever happened to me was nobody’s business but mine – meaning it’s all my own doing, even if subconscious for the most part – it was totally liberating and revealing.

My own open-minded analysis of this is that it’s true.

If you have a problem with this, could it be a sign that you are close-minded?  I’ll let you answer this question for yourself and would love to hear what you have to say down below in the comment area.

Learn How to Point the Finger at Yourself

Now that’s a tough one and by now, you might want to shut this article down completely. But if you did, that would make you a very close-minded person, wouldst it?

Now, since you’ve read up to here you might as well keep going to the end.

Now, I want you to do a very empowering exercise for me.  I want you to think about all the people you want to finger point for about two minutes.

OK.  Good.

Now, imagine that finger of yours pointing to all those people and turn it around towards you.   I promise this is not a wrist exercise. No. It’s a mind exercise. One that while not easy to do, I admit, will be in the end totally liberating.

You see, accepting responsibilities and pointing the finger at YOU is very empowering and liberating, because if you are responsible for the things that you don’t like and don’t want in your life, you CAN also be responsible for all that you DO like and Do Want.

Yes, there is a very positive side of this.  It works both ways.

Being totally responsible for your life will help you see everything differently.  It will help you turn around things that you thought were unshakable, unmovable, and domed.  It will open your mind and eyes and you will be able to SEE all the possibilities out there.

Whether you want to admit it or be closed-minded about it, you are ultimately responsible for you success, wealth, and happiness or the lack of it.

OK, you’re turn now, please, give us your feedbacks and input.

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44 Comments

  • Shorya Bist says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    Thanks for sharing this interesting topic. I absolutely agree with you that close minded people never grow ,never improve .One more thing i liked that close minded people always blame other,thats really sick they are always ready with reasons to blame others for their act.

    I am a pure open minded guy, i like to listen everybody.I don’t only listen to people who are good no, i listen to everybody .It teaches me alot ,give me their experience .

    I always take responsiblity of my acts and blame others for it, but i have seen people they always blame other for their act.
    I think we are here at the situation ,at the moment , because we have choose to be this ,and choose to be the point.

    Thank You
    Shorya Bist
    From Youthofest

    Dr Ho’oponopono’s teaching

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Shorya,

      I’m glad you enjoyed this post. Yes, indeed, people who are close-minded tend to never take responsibilities for their actions, and don’t really grow.

      I’m thrilled to see that you are an opened-minded person and the fact that you are reading blogs such as this one really shows that.

      Keep up the good work.

  • David Leonhardt says:

    There is a difference between wearing a closed mind and standing up for your principles. Principles are building blocks that help orient you, that give you guidance on how to analyze things. A closed mind is when those principles become rigid rules that leave no room for analyzing new information. The area between the two is sometimes small and often fuzzy.

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi David,

      You’ve got that perfectly right, there is a thin line between going by principles and being close-minded. As a matter of fact I do know quite a few people that would fit that category. They live by very strict principles, most of them good, but at the same time I’ve seen some of such people turn their back to their entire family because some of some of those principles. It’s because I am open-minded that I could never fit there entirely.

      Thanks for your excellent point and thanks for coming.

  • Harleena SinghTwitter: harleenas says:

    Ah….I can well relate to such kind of close-minded people Sylviane!

    I guess we come across such people every day in our lives, and some of these traits are even present in us, though just as you mentioned, we might not want to admit it. That’s why it’s said keep your mind open or be open-minded and think out of the box, don’t remain confined. :)

    The worst part is that such people don’t see they are wrong anywhere, unless they are made to realize. Not accepting responsibility for their own deeds and point the fingers at someone else, is the easiest thing anyone can do. But it surely does take courage to accept your mistakes and be responsible for things yourself.

    I agree, it’s not easy! But it’s not impossible either once you realize how liberating it can be, just as you mentioned through the wonderful exercise. I think it all turns out to be about the kind of choices we make in our lives, and if we are responsible for the things that we don’t like and don’t want in our life, we can also be responsible for all that we like or want – isn’t it?

    Thanks for sharing and making us realize this fact. :)
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Harleena,

      Yes, indeed, we all know such people who are just closed minded. When a close-mind becomes really bad is when no one can make you hear another side of the story. I do know some people like that.

      Yes, it takes courage and also humility to take responsibility and be able to say it’s me, I was wrong. There may be other ways.

      As always thank you for your great feedbacks, Harleena.

  • Carol LynnTwitter: carollynnrivera says:

    oooo Sylviane, I bet a lot of people will get mad at you for all of this! It’s true, the people who would need to read this and benefit most are the ones who will find it hardest to do so. Nobody wants to be told they are close minded and certainly they don’t want to point a finger at themselves!

    Ok, so I would say that I am mostly an open minded person. I am open to new ideas, new beliefs, new ways of looking at things. That’s not to say I always am. I can get stubborn and cranky too. Sometimes I close my ears on purpose because I just don’t want to hear it! But that never works out in the end.

    The great thing about accepting responsibility is that you then recognize that you have the power to change it. If you are always blaming someone else then there is nothing in your control and your success and your future and happiness depends on someone else.

    You don’t have to accept responsibility for someone’s behavior, only for your response. If someone is being a jerk then that’s not your fault, but what IS your fault is if you let it bug you or affect you negatively or keep you from achieving something.

    You are absolutely right – once you accept responsibility, it is quite empowering. You are then in control of your own destiny.
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Carol,

      Ahahah I had to laugh when I read the beginning of your comment. Yes, some people would get mad, but they would have to get here first.

      I like what you said here, someone can be jerk and say something that’s hurtful and that wouldn’t be your fault, but, even though it might not be easy at first, that’s entirely up to you if ou let it affect you at all. We have more choice than we think in life.

      Thanks for your input :)

  • Dick Ingersoll says:

    Hi Sylviane and thank you for the post!

    I had a few thoughts as I read through it.

    First was the expression “don’t confuse me with the facts, I’ve already made up my mind” This seems to be a common attitude I see with folks having a political discussion they are so stuck in their beliefs that NOTHING will change their minds even the facts.This intransigent way of thinking hurts all of us.

    Second was… when we point our finger at someone else, there are 3 fingers pointing back at us. This is so often so true that the problem is with us and the way we “react” to others instead of “responding” Think of this like taking a medication. When we react to the medication it’s negative when we respond, it’s positive.

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Dick, and welcome here.

      You are right. I know someone who used to say that. When you’re pointing the finger at someone three fingers are pointing at you. That’s a great reminder here.

      People who have “already made up their mind” are usually very close minded indeed and there’s not much of anything different that they would listen too. I agree.

      I really like the example you are giving with medication. If we react to it that’s negative. When we respond to it that’s positive. responding is better than just reacting.

      Thank you for your great input.

  • Michael Shook says:

    What a great post Sylviane. The power of an open mind lets your heart be full of light and positivity. It is so true, we are responsible for everything in our lives. I don’t think we need to be blamed or blame ourselves, in a hurtful way, but being responsible for or thoughts and words and actions is a great way to be in control of our lives.

    Thank you for a great post full of wonderful ideas and resources. :-)

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Michael,

      I appreciate your comment here.

      No, there is no need to blame ourselves to death, but once we realized that we had something to do with whatever went wrong, we can fix it and never, ever, make that same mistake again. That’s how we grow.

      Thank you for your feedbacks :)

  • Justin says:

    Hi Sylviane,
    I think life would be rather boring if we weren’t open to new ideas. I believe closed minded people don’t like change very much and would rather stick to the old then attempt to change their beliefs.

    I agree we need to take personal responsibility for the outcomes in our lives because that is how we grow. If we don’t, we will just keep repeating the same problems again and again.
    Take Care. :)

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Justin,

      Thanks for coming to this post and sharing your thoughts. I’m like you I think that it must be very boring for those close-minded people. If they only knew what they’re missing.

  • Chery Schmidt says:

    HI Sylviane! What a Great Post and Yes I did read to the end! I am sure a lot of people didn’t, but then these people were not meant to be here in the first place. I am always open minded to hearing anyone out :) I do have a few friends who are tough eggs to crack or should we just say are set in their ways, they do not take responsibility for anything that has happened in their lives. It is always someone else’s fault! It just Amazes me that they are not open to see what I am up too. I Love your site Sylviane and did sign up to get your 13 steps to get anything I want See Open Minded! Thanks for the sharing. Chery :)

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Chery, and welcome back,

      It’s so nice to see that you came back again and enjoyed this post. I know plenty of people just like the ones you mentioned. I think we all do.

      I’m so glad that you downloaded my free ebook and I hope you’ll enjoy it.

      Thanks for your great feedbacks :)

  • Sarah Park says:

    Very inspiring article. Being close-minded doesn’t really do us good. We will never learn and grow if we continue this negative attitude. And the first step to avoid it is to recognize if we do have this kind of thinking.

  • AdrienneTwitter: adriennesmith40 says:

    Hey Sylviane,

    I USE to know a lot of close minded people but I have disassociated myself from them years ago. I know exactly what you mean though.

    I recall having several conversations with people over the years and they so admired that I took 100% responsibility for my life. I would tell them that I’m responsible for my own choices and if you feel pressured to do something you need to step back and seriously ask yourself whether it’s something you want to do or not because if you say yes, YOU made that decision. No one else no matter how you were feeling.

    I have a question for you on this topic then if you don’t mind. I was on a hangout yesterday and a question was asked, do you have a question about life. Mine was “why to bad things happen to good people”? Now let me share just a little more. If it all started when you were a baby, how can you have attracted that? I’m mostly speaking about illnesses, that’s where my thought was for this particular question. You’re a baby, you aren’t attracting an illness but that just set the tone for being sick your entire life. Can you help me understand that one?

    Thanks Sylviane, you’re so wise!

    Happy Valentine’s Day by the way.

    ~Adrienne
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Ah Adrienne,

      This is a great question, and one that my friend Melody Fletcher is expert at answering, but let me try to explain that according to what I’ve learned and know to be true.

      You see, the “higher part” of us that we call “Subconscious mind”, or “higher self” wasn’t born when our body was born. In other words, our subconscious spirit was already there (existing) before we were conceived.

      I have a REAL life proof of this. My grandmother had friends who lost their daughter in death at age 4. Their daughter had a toy house that they kept in the attic. Few years after the death of their first daughter they had another daughter. When the second daughter reached was about 4 years old herself she asked for her toy house. Saying that the parents freaked out is putting it lightly. They knew that their second daughter had NEVER seen or heard of that toy house. The ONLY reason she could know and ask for her dead sister’s toy house was that the spirit of her passed over sister was now in her.

      Another true story from someone here in the US. A woman lost her young adult son which nickname was Fox. Few days after he died the mother saw a fox in the garden staring at her! She had never seen a fox in her garden before, much less staring at her.

      There is no doubt that death is not the end of all, just of the “body” we are in.

      So, the best way we can explain how and why children attract things that they are still too you to have “attracted” is that the higher self that lives in us NEVER dies. Therefore, a “repercussion” does exist even for young children and even before we were born.

      For example, in my case if someone even touches my neck lightly I become totally paralyze and panicked. It’s a darn strange feeling that I can’t explain. My mother was asleep when they took me out with the forceps, so she always assumed that maybe the umbilical cord was stuck around my neck and it left me with some psychological memory scares, but who know what it really is? It could be something from before I was even born.

      I hope I help answer your question and I will look if I can find one of Melody’s posts who approach this subject.

      • AdrienneTwitter: adriennesmith40 says:

        Well I know about reincarnation and I know that we may possibly live several lives and from what I have learned about this, and it’s not a whole heck of a lot, is that we still have lessons on this earth to learn.

        So if a baby is born and within their first year they are so sick they nearly die and then have nothing but health problems throughout their entire lives, how can that be lessons we’re suppose to learn? Even if they are reincarnated from another being, I guess I still have a hard time understanding why!

        Maybe it’s that they were suppose to learn to enjoy every moment they are here or perhaps teach them to be loving of others? Would you say possibly those could be the lessons they needed to learn before moving on?

        Sorry, didn’t mean to take up your entire comment on this subject but it’s one that has bothered the living heck out of me. If you find that post, please do send it to me. Love to read what she had to share. I know I’m not the only one.

        Thanks Sylviane! I appreciate that.

        ~Adrienne
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        • Sylviane Nuccio says:

          I know what you mean Adrienne, you would want to understand this all through and through.

          Yes, I do believe that we learn lessons in each life, there is no doubt about it.

          I will see what I can find at Melody’s, and I am also reading this book by that psychic I was telly the group about the other day, and I will be sure to write at least a post or two about what I will be learning in that book.

          The guy has been seen and talked to passed over people since he was 4, so he’s got something like 40 years experience with this, and he’s learned a lot from the other side.

  • Neamat TawadrousTwitter: nkeriakos says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    That’s a great post. I really enjoyed reading it till the end.

    I know lots of close-minded people and some of them are right in my life. I have to admit that I have been one myself but when I started opening myself up to changes and new ideas, it made a whole lot of a difference in my life and in the way I accept responsibility for my actions and I have to say it made my parenting different with my kids.

    Being through the change, it is not easy but sometimes you have to be shocked or slapped on the face to realize that you need to change. But once you realize how liberating it is to open up, you will never look back. I love the wonderful exercises you mentioned here.

    Thanks Sylviane for such a great and educating post. You always deliver my friend.

    Be Blessed,

    Neamat
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Neamat,

      I’m so sorry for the late reply, but this week and the one before I’ve been a bit crazy.

      I am so glad that you took it upon yourself to decide to open your mind. In my case, I have always been open minded by nature, but I actually joined a very close minded religion which I was very much involved with for 10 years of my life.

      I guess in the end my true personality got the best of me. However,I allowed people to convince me that I was no good if I didn’t follow God’s rules in a certain way, but when I saw the hypocrisy of the whole thing, I bailed out.

      I am working on a book that will tell my whole story in detail :)

      Thank you so much for your visit and for your honest input.

  • Raena Lynn says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    You always write such great articles! I’m feeling really good about myself, because this post validated that I’m “hecka openminded.” One thing I can say about myself is I believe I went through a phase of “close mindedness.” I didn’t know any better because at that time I had not participated in any type of personal development. When I reflect back on those times, it almost felt like being in survival mode. Of course since then, my growth and perception of the world has expanded considerably.

    I don’t bother with close minded people. I really don’t have any “close minded” friends I can think of because I don’t attract that type of person in my life anymore. I’m happy to say that the people I enjoy being around are “like minded.” Most of them are online, however I have a few personal friends and I consider all of them “open minded.”

    When you did your exercise, “I want you to think about all the people you want to finger point for about two minutes” I can honestly say I came up with a blank. It hasn’t always been that way. I know now, that I am 100% accountable for my life.

    As an example, you know I moved from one state to another. I’ve been here for over a year and I didn’t pay attention to the fact that the speed limit is 25 miles/hour in all residential areas. I moved from a mountain community which is completely different set of rules. I know there is no excuse. To make a long story short, I was pulled over by a police officer a couple of days ago for going over the speed limit in a residential area. In the past I may have been angry with the officer because he pulled me over. Or I would have made a bunch of excuses why I shouldn’t pay the fine. It was kind of funny when you think of it, because as he walked up to the car, I said, “What did I do?” Once I knew, I admitted to him that I messed up, signed the ticket, and accepted my mishap. So I will pay the fine. I know it is my fault and that’s that. I got over it….that’s it. You discussed that a part of being open minded is learning to point the finger at yourself. I’m proud to be totally accountable for everything I do, even when there are consequences. Thanks Sylviane for another awesome article!

    Raena Lynn

    PS Close minded people need to read this post.

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Raena,

      I’ve been seen those long comments accumulating on this post, and it made me rejoice, but I’ve been so busy I wanted to make sure I’d reply to them when I really had the time to do it well.

      As you are confirming here, being open minded really frees you from making lame excuses and trying to blame others. Sometimes we are the one to blame, and that’s OK, because nobody’s perfect. We all make mistakes.

      Thank you so much for telling us the story about your traffic ticket. On top of this, I read an article about a year ago with a listed several things that we should never tell a cop who pulls us over and one of them was saying “what did I do?” which would imply that the cop stops you for no reason, which in turns implies that he’s an idiot. It makes them mad and they’d give you a stronger penalty if they can.

      As you set your vibrations to open-minded you tend to attract this type of people and that’s the best thing of all.

      Thanks for coming and for your great comment, Raena :)

  • Mary StephensonTwitter: maryjstephenson says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    I agree with what you have to say. But I would also like to add to Adrienne’s question. If you were molested as far back as you can remember and knew it happened before that, how can you say a person is responsible for what happened to them? I know that what happens in childhood stays with you for life and you constantly battle the demons that go along with it. It does affect poor decisions you make, giving into things you would rather not, because you lack the self-esteem that was destroyed at day one.

    True we all need to get beyond our childhood and we do need to take responsibility to how we react to things that happen to us. We may not be able to change what others do to us, but how we accept it is and I will go along with that. But not all evil in the world is an individual’s fault. How do you draw that fine line? The line between evil and responsibility for someone else’s evil? You did say we are responsible for everything happens to us.

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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Mary,

      I know that this is a complicated subject and I have a coach friend who is such a specialist to such questions.

      When I say that we are responsible to everything that happens to us that doesn’t give evil people any credit to do bad thing to anyone, and that doesn’t mean that we deserve such evil either. NO, it doesn’t mean this at all.

      What it does mean, however, is that we are responsible for what happens to us because of ignorance and because of our subconscious programming.

      This is why I am writing a book, to use my own true story and situation, to help people understand what this really means. It doesn’t mean that we’re bad, but it means that our subconscious programming wasn’t helping us, and because of ignorance we didn’t helped that. Both together it can be a recipe for disaster. It was for me, but I did take responsibility.

      Thank you for your feedbacks, Mary :)

  • Michael Belk says:

    I can see being closed-minded affecting your personal development in ways you do not even know. A close-minded person can affect other people around him.

    If you are not willing to even hear my side, I do not see any reason I should even talk to you.
    Great article.

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Michael,

      Yes, that’s right. Who wants to be around closed-minded people? If they want others hear them out they have to be willing to do the same.

      Thank you for your feedbacks.

  • Hiten says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    I loved your post. The first thing it got me thinking about is those people I know who I would consider to be closed-minded. Sometimes it is so frustrating to see people who are closed-minded, as you know they will spend their whole lives being that way. However, we can’t change people who don’t want to be changed.

    I totally agree with you. When we learn to be able to point the finger at ourselves we take ultimate control and responsibility for the way we are. This is a very powerful position to be in.

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Hiten, and welcome here.

      As you said, we can’t change people. They must make the choice to change for themselves.

      Thank you for coming and for your input. Hope you’ll come again :)

  • Donna MerrillTwitter: donna_tribe says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    Well, I the open-minded person. In the past..too open minded that I accepted those closed minded people into my life.

    But I learned quickly…. Closed minded people usually won’t budge. I know that people always have that chance to decide to grow and may work hard to open up. But in the meanwhile, I cannot have closed minded people in my life.

    When working, I can tell a closed minded person and before I can accept working with them, I ask them some rigorous questions like “are you willing to learn…” Things like that.

    When I meet resistance, I run like hell! I know they are not ready for change and their energy will only be a burden on me. They will get into the blame game, they will never be satisfied, etc. I cannot waste my time with that. Do I sound hard? Well, yes in this case because it is sort of a tough love that is needed otherwise they will go around in a circle, never grow, and I feel a drain of energy.

    As for being open minded…Yes, I am, but sometimes I have to keep a check on myself because I must stay on course with my goals and my life journey. I can easily become distracted with this very open mind of mine! lol

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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Donna,

      I don’t think you’re hard, I think you’re right.

      You can’t help someone that is not ready to help himself or herself. Plus, resistance energy will drain you, I agree. That’s why I know some people to whom I don’t even try to talk to as a coach, so to speak. All they would do is drag the life out of me :)

      Even though, in a way I’m amazed that such people still exist in the 21st century, they do.

      Thank you for your excellent feedbacks, as always.

  • Barbara CharlesTwitter: BarbaraCharlesl says:

    Hi there Sylviane. I never have understood close minded people. I find them difficult to live, work and play with. Close minded is a common negative trait and something to fix. I have always tried to take responsibility for me and my way of thinking. Even if I reject something at first…usually after thinking about it, I may re-think my objection…but at least I think about it and adjust as necessary. It just most people don’t do that and hold on to the close-minded views making life around them difficult. Anyway, it’s about re-thinking and re-vamping your way of thinking so that you can learn, be open to new things. Thanks for sharing. You are absolutely right about all you say Hope this helps some folks. I know I’m listening! :)
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Barbara,

      I’m glad you are not closed-minded and if you are at once you take time to rethink it. I do that too.

      Like anyone else, I’ve been closed minded at times, if not on a lot of things, on some things, but most of them, I’ve changed my mind completely about them, and see them much differently now. But over all I’ve never been a closed minded person.

      Thank you for your input

  • MayuraTwitter: MayuraDeSilva says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    Very nice lesson here but I’m kinda late ;)

    Anyone can change their life by taking the responsibility or being serious about what they do, and we can see how homeless guys become millionaires, no? :)

    First off I thought “Do I count here?”, as I’m bit of stubborn ;) But I’m cool now. I believe I’m open minded for some extent and going away from feeling being victimized since my childhood.

    Fortunately I don’t blame myself but there were few to be blamed in my mind for what I’m going through but I feel glad I went through all the circumstances when I feel some others are struggling with patience and so Sylviane :) I can be grateful but yet they are sad and bad memories.

    OMG… I can see how constant criticism goes everywhere :) Especially on Social Media. I think criticism is a good quality which helpful to get things right sometimes, but making it personal and pointing fingers is something I don’t like either. You know, it’s very easy to point finger instead of accepting the truth. They might feel criticism is like making a BIG change in this World and could be over-confident. They call being positive and everything is BS but I think there will be a time for ‘em to understand :)

    Cheers…
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Mayura,

      Don’t worry, you’re not late and I’m late to reply this week :)

      I think that you are progressing on your personal development quite a bit, because you are an avid reader of this type of blogs and you are in my book very open-minded.

      We all have things to work on, you know. We are a work in progress.

      Thank you so much for your feedbacks.

  • LisaTwitter: Lisapatb says:

    Sylviane, Love this post. It takes maturity to take the blame yourself for everything that happens to you and some people have not yet matured. Others are close minded and will never see things any differently. That’s really sad because they will never change or grow. To learn and grow one has to keep open minded like a child.
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    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Lisa,

      I’m glad you enjoyed this post.

      I like what you said, we have to keep ourselves open minded like a child. This is the best thing we could do to make room for improvement.

      Thank you for coming. I appreciate that :)

  • Purnima says:

    Hi Sylviane,
    Thanks for putting forth your views on such an interesting share . Being close minded undeniably hinders access to knowledge and slows the learning process in all facets of life . Many a times it becomes quiet difficult for us to identify and absorb the fact that we are close minded. Great tips to confront and overcome the situation .

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Purnima,

      Yes, it’s hard to learn and absorb anything new and more importantly vital for our personal development, if we are close minded.

      Thanks for coming.

  • Aditya says:

    I’m quite open-minded I guess and the ramblings on my blog my prove my case. I also ‘accept’ criticism and have learned to take up responsibility for what I do.

    Of course, I’m very personal with my ways and habits but I do let near and dear ones to judge on them.

    I also have OCD for a few things which actually makes me ‘intolerant’ to certain things but the philosophical way you approach this post has cleared all my doubts.

    Thanks so much for sharing!

    Aditya

    • Sylviane Nuccio says:

      Hi Aditya,

      I’ glad that you are open-minded and the fact that you actually come and read posts such as this one. This shows that you are.

      I’m happy if this post helped you in anyway. Thank you for coming.

  • Abhishek says:

    This is indeed an interesting topic you have touched upon…believing in oneself is a different thing and being intolerant to others beliefs is another…Such people are more or less egoistic and will not take anything against them for they think they know it all…they are reluctant to change and totally inreceptive to ideas….The world is full of such people…

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