SylvianeNuccio.com http://www.sylvianenuccio.com Your Article Marketing Tutorial Blog Mon, 20 Apr 2015 12:13:25 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.3 How To Create Kick Butt Content Directed To Your Customers http://www.sylvianenuccio.com/how-to-create-kick-butt-content/ http://www.sylvianenuccio.com/how-to-create-kick-butt-content/#comments Mon, 20 Apr 2015 12:13:25 +0000 http://www.sylvianenuccio.com/?p=3346 The problem that some companies or business owners have is that they create a website that has cost them a lot of money, but...

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How To Create Kick Butt Content

The problem that some companies or business owners have is that they create a website that has cost them a lot of money, but over time that website becomes a ghost town.

The reason for why is that it doesn’t get any fresh content on a regular basis. 

If you know anything about search engines, they like sites that have regular incoming fresh content. So, if you don’t add fresh content to your site on a regular basis it quickly becomes a dead piece of online real estate.

As I’ve mentioned on several occasions before, for your website to do well in ranking and traffic, you need to have a blog.

You need to create content (or have someone creating it for you) on a weekly basis.

But now, you may be running into another problem.

What do I write about, each and every week you may ask?

I know it can be challenging at times.

That’s why today I’m going to give you few ideas about creating some kick butt content that will speak directly to your customers, and they will love you for it.

But no matter what you do, always keep this in mind…

Always Think Stories

Needless to say that when you write a blog post, an article, a press release or even an email for your email marketing campaigns, stories work.

In my guest post last week on Andrew Warner’s blog, Shade Of Info, I talked about the reasons why stories work. One of the main one is because the human brain loves stories, because we are people and stories are made of people like us.

So, why not using your very own clients or customers when you create content for your blog?

But how do I do that you ask?

Well, don’t worry, Like I said above I’m going to give you some ideas on how you can use your customers’ many stories to create exciting content for your blog.

Note: For the sake of simplicity I going to use the term “customer,” in this article, but it will apply to you just the same if you have clients instead of customers, and with “readers” as well, if you are a blogger that don’t have neither clients nor customers.

 

1- Write a Post Answering your Customer’s Questions

Needless to say that answering your customers or potential customers’ questions could be quite a story making type article that everyone would love to read.

If you have a business, I’m sure that you get questions from interested people all the time. Rather than answering those questions only on an individual basis, why not using that for a much better and bigger purpose?

You could gather 10-12 questions and answer them thoroughly in a blog post.

This will not only be an excellent article that will help your current and potential customers, but it will show them that you are well aware of those questions and have taken an extra step to answer them in a way that benefits many people at one time.

Of course that doesn’t mean that you won’t answer each question individually, because you should, but you need to save those questions and answers for blog content.

Once your post is published, you should send your customers an email letting them know that you have written an article just for them, while trying to help other people that most likely have the same questions.

 

2- Write a Post Using Positive Feedback from your Customers

If you are offering a valuable service or product to your customers, I am sure that you are getting good feedback on a regular basis.

What not using such feedback to create content on your blog? Plus since good feedback is probably ongoing you can create a monthly or quarterly blog post only with that type of customer stories.

Imagine that!

You will be able to talk about your product without using your own words.  You’ll be able to use the upbeat comments and feedback you’ve gotten from satisfied customers who are happy with your product or service.

That’s priceless.

 

3- Write a Post Asking Questions to your Customers

Now, instead of writing a blog post answering your customer’s questions, why not writing a post based on questions that you would have asked them?

Send an email to as many customers as you feel like, asking them to answer a question of your choice.

Send the same question to all of them.

For example, ask them: What is your biggest challenge when it comes to decide to purchase a product or service?

Just making it up here, it could be any question you may want to ask them.

The point is that if you asked the same question to 10 customers, you’ll get 10 different answers. If you asked that question to 20 of your customers, you’ll get 20 different answers.

Isn’t that beautiful?

Then, all you have to do is gather your answers and create a kick butt article with those stories.

 

4- Write a Post about your Customers’ Stories

Now here is a kick butt way to entertain your customers and show them that you are a real human being who care about them.

That kick butt way to do this is by asking some of your customers to tell you their story.

Really?

Yes, really.

Ask them to tell you a bit about themselves…

Where are they coming from, what do they do for a living, what is their hobby, and so on…

You could actually, let’s say, feature 3 customers in one blog post, and you could call that article “Our  Featured Customers of the Month.”

Now, do you think that something like that would set you apart in your business as someone who cares?

It sure will.

Your customers will be so thrilled that they will want to share that blog post on all their social media platforms, and send it to all their friends.

Now, that will certainly kick your site up in the search engines rankings.

 

5- Write a Post based on a Customers’ Survey

Do a customer satisfaction survey, and post the results in the form of a blog post.

That could be a great story telling post too.

Here is an example of the type of questions you could ask in your survey.

How overall satisfied or dissatisfied are you with our product(s)?

  • Very satisfied
  • Somewhat satisfied
  • Neither satisfied nor dissatisfied
  • Somewhat dissatisfied
  • Very dissatisfied

Please, give us some extra details as well.

Which of the following words would you use to describe our product(s) best to you?

  • Reliable
  • High quality
  • Useful
  • Unique
  • Good value for money
  • Overpriced
  • Impractical
  • Ineffective
  • Poor quality
  • Unreliable

Please, give us some extra details as well.

How would you rate the quality of our product(s)?

  • Very high quality
  • High quality
  • Neither high nor low quality
  • Low quality
  • Very low quality

Please, give us some extra details as well.

How would you rate the value for money of our product(s)?

  • Excellent
  • Above average
  • Average
  • Below average
  • Poor

Please, give us some extra details as well.

How long have you been purchasing our product(s)?

  • Over a year?
  • Less than a year?
  • Longer than a year?

Please, give us some extra details as well.

How likely are you to reuse purchase our product(s) long term and refer it to someone you know?

  • Very likely?
  • Very unlikely?
  • Neutral?

Please, give us some extra details as well.

This is just a short example of the type questions you could use in a survey. You can add many more.

Now imagine the type of content you’ll get once your customers fill out those surveys.

Not only your can use it to create content, but to refine your product or service as well.

Hopefully you’re offering quality and value, so you will have some pretty good feedback that you can publish for all your customers to see and take advantage from.

Quite some story telling content here too.

 

6- Write a Post that will Appease your Customers Fears

When it comes to make a buying decision, your potential customer may have some fears about whether or not they are making the right decisions.

You can take that opportunity to come up with content ideas.

Now it’s time to write success stories about your product or service to appease your customers fears.

You could relate success stories, positive customers feedback, and so on.

You could answer questions and remove doubts by writing clever article that your potential customer will thank you for.

I think that more often than not, your customers’ fears come from lack of information, so that’s your job to give them as much information as you can using your blog content.

I hope you enjoyed this information. Please, leave your comments and questions below!

 

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I know it’s been a while since I’ve had my Star of the Week section here.

Thank you to Carol Amato for having me as a guest on her blog a couple weeks ago!

Thank you to Andrew Warner for having me on his blog as guest this past Monday!

Thank you to Jaime Buckley who mentioned me as someone who encouraged him.

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How to start reaping good things in your lfie

You know it’s one thing to read about the law of attraction, the subconscious mind and being in alignment.

Then it’s another to start understanding it.

Yet again, it’s quite another when you start living it.

I went through all those phases myself.

In what phase are you right now?

Are you reading about it?

Have you come to understand it by now?

Or are you truly living it?

Right now I’m in the third phase of the law of attraction, so to speak.

I’m really starting to feel my momentum.

It actually started last year, but I couldn’t feel it as much because I was grieving pretty bad.  But they were already signs that the momentum was in motion.

However, it doesn’t come overnight. And the reason it doesn’t it’s because we don’t let it.

We don’t let it, because we have way too much stuff that’s clogging the pipes.  But that’s OK.

Let it come when you’re ready for it.

 

How did I get Rid of an Old Subconscious Belief

If you had asked me what was my biggest pitfall not that long ago, I would have told you, it’s always been waiting for the other shoe to drop.

The reason for that was because of what happened to me when I was five. The shoe dropped big time.

So I lived my whole life with that strong subconscious programming of mine without realizing how heavy it was to carry.

But lately, with the help of my coach, I’ve rewritten my story.  I really, literally did rewrite my life story.

I took a blue pen (as per her instructions) and a notebook, and I wrote what I want to do, be and have in 5 years from now with as much details as I could think about.

I can add, and edit that story as I go and as I please, but since around the time I did that, things have really started to shift in my head, and in my life.

I noticed that I started attracting things. Good things in my life.

I even started attracting messages I needed to hear, books I needed to read, and so on.

Most of all, I decided that there was no need for the other shoe to drop anymore.

I religiously keep doing my meditations, tapping, binaural beats subconscious programing recordings, hugging trees in the park (for the root chakra), and all that good stuff that I do on a daily basis.

That’s right, I don’t just write about it, I do it.

I feel that if you want to coach people about those things, you are a much better teacher if you practice what you teach yourself on a daily basis.

Anything that helps you be in better alignment with the universe is a good daily practice.  All those things have helped me tremendously.

 

Finally Reaching a Turning Point

During these past few months, I’ve had a record of small successes one after the other. But it’s not by chance, it’s because I learned how to focus on success more, and much less on anything else.

I am reaching a point where I am very aware of what’s going on in my head, at least a good 80-85 percent of the time.  Which means that I think positive and raise my vibrations and emotions most of my waking hours.

Sometimes things may happen, or memories of sadness can surface (especially if you’re still grieving). That’s bound to happen at times, even when you pretty much have it together, because we are humans, and also because we are getting the results of our past sticking thinking.

When you get to a point where you are able to recognize it, though, and look at it from a higher point, you can accept the fact that you feel that way, but as you do, you will also be able to get rid of it as soon as possible.

When you catch yourself being in a bad place emotionally, you have a choice to stop right there and go in a different direction.

You can pick something, anything that makes you feel good. Something that makes you smile and use that to switch your thoughts and emotions from bad to good.

You can decide to stay with the negative thought, or you can decide to let it go.

You know what I’ve noticed?

The more you do it, the easier it gets.

Every morning and every moment after that, I decide what I want to think about.

I check myself often and decide quickly what thought serves me and what thought doesn’t serve me.

Because you know what?

 

Every Thought is a Seed you’re Planting into your Future

Your thoughts are the seeds, your mind is the garden, and your life is what grows in the garden.

Every thought you think now, is building up in your mind either in a positive or negative way, and grows to the point that it creates your life events, circumstances, successes and lack thereof.

Where your focus and energy goes it grows.

I had to come to the realization that I used to be so darn negative most of the time.

It was so natural to me to expect the worse that I was totally blinded by it. But sure enough, I was reaping what I was sowing.

I was planting those negative thoughts in the present, and I was reaping the negative circumstances later.

This part wasn’t my fault. I grew up this way. My mother lived her life as victim of circumstances, never understanding why.

Fortunately for me, I came to learn things she never did.

This is the pattern that most people in this world live their entire life.

Even though I knew quite a bit about the law of attraction I still let my present situation rule my thoughts and thus rule my present and future.

As I mentioned in my last post, if you focus on what is, you are going to have more of what is.  If you focus on what you want, you are going to get more of what you want.

I started to feel a swift when I manage to overcome the “what is” and focus more on what I wanted.

Actually, if you don’t want to have more of your “what has been” and “what is” I strongly encourage you to focus more, way more, on what you want instead.

Many of you reading this, may never have had much of a hard day in their life, and if that’s the case, that’s great. Keep doing what you’ve been doing and you’ll be fine.

But for those of you who have been through less than desirable times, it’s very, very important that you learn not to go there anymore.

You need to start planting good stuff in the garden of your life.

 

Be Grateful

Here is a very easy exercise that I would like you to start today.

Look around you and think of anything you can be thankful for (watch this video) every single day.

As you wake up in the morning, lay in your bed awake for a few minutes and be grateful for being alive, for being healthy, for being able to get up, for being able to go to work or do whatever you have to do that day.

I do this every single day.

As you may know if you know me well enough, I love to walk in parks. I do that on pretty much a daily basis. And as I walk, I give thanks for this abundance of sun, fresh air, the trees, the millions of leaves on the trees.

In the winter where I don’t see the leaves I give thanks for the millions of branches on the tree that will give birth to the leaves in the spring. Sometimes, I even look at the little pebbles on the side of the trails and I give thanks for the millions of pebbles.

Yes.

I do that every day.

You know what that does to me?

It puts me in a very good place. It raises my vibrations as it puts me in a grateful mode.

As per the law of attraction, a grateful mode brings more and more good things to you.

Here I’m going to end this article with something from Ester Hicks as per the teaching of Abraham.

If, every morning for the next 30 days, you begin you day by saying: I intend to see; I want to see; I expect to see, no matter where I am, no matter what I’m doingI intend to see that which I want to see, you will change the momentum of your life experience.  And all things that now displease you will be gone from your experience and will be replaced by things that do please you. It is absolute. I is law.

Try it. It works!

Oh, and leave your thoughts and comments below too!


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How in the World Do I Research? http://www.sylvianenuccio.com/how-in-the-world-do-i-research/ http://www.sylvianenuccio.com/how-in-the-world-do-i-research/#comments Mon, 13 Apr 2015 12:01:06 +0000 http://www.sylvianenuccio.com/?p=3334 It’s the second Monday of the month, so it means that it’s guest post day.   Today I have the pleasure to introduce a...

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How to do research for blog post

It’s the second Monday of the month, so it means that it’s guest post day.  

Today I have the pleasure to introduce a successful online entrepreneur whom I met last year.  Here is my special quote for her:

Take a smart business lady who knows her stuff and who is known by her students as a coach with a heart, and you get Carol Amato!

 

Researching a topic to write about can be one of the most formidable tasks of Internet entrepreneurs. Whether you’re going to write about the topic yourself – or give it to a professional content writer, some information must be gathered before it can turn into the content you need.

The actual definition of “research” as a noun is “The systematic investigation into and study of materials and sources in order to establish facts and reach new conclusions.” Used as a verb, “research” is defined as, “…to investigate systematically.” When you know how to research, you’re not all over the board wasting your time and effort.

After you know what topic you want to write about, the research stage begins. For example, if you have a blog about traveling and want to write a post about Costa Rica, you should first attempt to narrow down the subject matter. Costa Rica is a wide subject, but you may choose to write about “The Pacific Coast of Costa Rica.”

Before the Internet, you’d probably take your topic idea to the library and search through books and magazines for information. Now, we have the entire world at our fingertips and the information you need is only a click or two away – if you know what to search for.

In fact, you may have so much material that’s excellent for your research that it becomes overwhelming. This guide, “How in the World Do I Research,” will get you started on your research journey by providing a few simple steps that you can use to build on. Eventually, your skills will grow and you’ll be able to research effectively and quickly for any topic you want to write about.

 

Research Steps from Beginning to End

If you’re new to researching for blogs and website content, there are a few simple steps involved for finding specific resources you’ll need to refine the results you desire. Determine if you need more resources which are academic in nature or other websites or blogs written by online experts that may offer the inspiration you need for your article or blog post.

Here are some beginning steps that will be the catalyst for finding the information you need:

  1. Determine your content. It’s important to determine what you want to find for your article before you spin your wheels on research that’s not really related to your topic. For example, if you’re writing about the Pacific Coast of Costa Rica, you wouldn’t begin the research with the key words, “Costa Rica.”

Instead, you might begin with the keywords, “Pacific Coast of Costa Rica.” That narrows down your resources (in a google search) to the exact area you want to write about.

  1. Be sure the information is up-to-date. When writing an article or post on a timely subject matter such as traveling in a certain area, you’ll want the most up-to-date information you can find. You wouldn’t want to reference a book written about travel to Costa Rica in 1998. Choose from the latter information.

Choose from the volumes of timely and pertinent information available about traveling to the Pacific Coast of Costa Rica. You can visit online sites, download books, find travel articles and so much more when you research online. Don’t discount your local library for research information. You may stumble on something there that you wouldn’t find online.

  1. Perform a research overview. When you enter your keywords and find resources which match what you want your topic to be, give them a quick overview by skimming the information.

If a site happens to contain some data you need for your article or blog, copy or take notes on the site or some of the information and store it in a special folder for that project. Be sure to record the source of the data in the folder.

  1. Narrow the focus. After you’ve reviewed and decided what you want and need to make your topic stand out, it’s time to narrow the focus of the content. As you narrow the topic, the research will become easier and move much faster.

For example, in a travel blog about Costa Rica, you may have begun with the keywords, “Costa Rica,” then narrowed it down to the “Pacific Coast of Costa Rica,” then decided to focus on the “best surfing beaches (on the Pacific Coast of Costa Rica).” There will still be tons of material, but you can now focus on the specific area you want your readers to know about.

  1. Organize your research information. You may have changed your focus several times during the research phase. That’s okay because it’s helped you come to conclusions about what you want to include in the content.

For example, you may decide that you want some maps indicating the best surfing beaches on the Pacific coast of Costa Rica – or some suggestions about lodgings and restaurants. As you organize, you’ll be able to fill in the gaps of your post or article just like a puzzle.

At the end of your research, you should have come to a conclusion about the content of the article. Now, you can choose from the notes you’ve gathered about the topic and begin to write the article.

 

Online Tools Designed for Research

There are many online tools you can utilize to help your research move fast and reveal the information you need to write an article that will be eye-catching and draw your readers in. Here is just a handful:

  • Google Keyword Planner – An effective tool to help you plan and conduct your research using keywords. Google keyword planner lets you find interesting niches by simply narrowing the focus.

You must have a Gmail account to access this tool. Then, go to “Search for keywords and ad groups ideas.” Enter your first keywords (such as Costa Rica) and the search will target the words by rankings.

  • Long Tail Pro – This powerful research tool is software which lets you generate tons of exclusive keywords in just a few minutes time. There’s a simple wizard which allows the user to bring in targeted information and focus on a particular niche for your research.
  • Blog Searches – Blog specific search engines are available through “Technorati” or “Blogpulse.” Blogs offer a lot of information in a short amount of time, and these search engines can help you zero in on data you need for an article or post without spending too much time.

 

Step-by-Step Research Example

Since the “Surfing Beaches on Pacific Coast of Costa Rica” was mentioned earlier, the example will be about how you would research this specific area systematically and get the results you need to write a post or article.

Research Topic: “Surfing Beaches of Costa Rica”

  1. Enter your keywords in the “Google” search bar. You’ll see many choices for the research topic.
  2. Choose a site to look at. If you choose, “Costa Rica Beaches – Best Beach Destinations in Costa Rica,” you’ll see a list of beaches in Costa Rica, but some are on the Caribbean coast and others are on the Pacific Coast.
  3. Dig deeper into the various beaches. Limit your searches to only those along the Pacific Coast. For example, one of the best is “Manuel Antonio,” along the central Pacific Coast.
  4. Gather notes about each beach. You can copy and paste information into a document and then save it into a folder designated for your project research or jot down sites and information.
  5. Decide on sub-headings for your content. If you’re researching best surfing beaches on the Pacific Coast of Costa Rica, you may want to offer a section in your article about lodging and rental cars.
  6. Simply keep narrowing your search. Keep taking notes and narrowing your search until you have all of the information you think you need for your article or post.

Don’t let researching a topic intimidate or overwhelm you. If you’re really in to your subject matter and attempting to establish yourself as an expert in the subject matter, the research will be fun and exciting and you’ll learn all sorts of information.

After all, it’s not so much about getting to a place – it’s the journey that’s fun.

You can visit Carol by clicking here!

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I hope you enjoyed Carol’s post. I know I did. Please, leave your comments and questions below and we’ll be sure to reply to all of them!

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How To Reach A Momentum Of Success http://www.sylvianenuccio.com/how-to-reach-a-momentum-of-success/ http://www.sylvianenuccio.com/how-to-reach-a-momentum-of-success/#comments Wed, 08 Apr 2015 14:07:15 +0000 http://www.sylvianenuccio.com/?p=3330 You know I have not grown up knowing this, but there is a recipe to success. Just like if you would put all the...

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How To Reach A Momentum Of Success

You know I have not grown up knowing this, but there is a recipe to success.

Just like if you would put all the right ingredients into a cake recipe you’ll get that cake, if you learn how to integrate ingredients of success, you’ll get a more successful life.

When I’m talking about ingredients, though, I don’t mean physical actions so much.  Even though they are important at some point, that’s not the subject of this article.

The real recipe for success is when you work from the inside out. Because if you’re not ready for success mentally and subconsciously, true success will be long in coming, to say the least.

So, why do I want to write about success today?

Two things.

  1. I’m reaching a momentum of success right now in my life due to my application of the law of attraction.
  2. We all want to be more successful, so I thought that you could apply some of the tips I’ll be sharing here for yourself.

But first, let’s clarify a few things, especially if you are new to this success mindset thing.

 

Does Success have Anything to do with Luck?

The short answer is no.

When someone is successful, people on the outside look and say, wow they’re so lucky!

But more times than not, they couldn’t be more wrong.

It’s just that some people know how to attract success and others don’t. The more I know about the law of attraction the least I believe in luck. And if you don’t believe me, ask any success coach their opinion on that.

And remember, the more you’ll learn about the law of attraction the least you will need luck.

 

Get better Acquainted with the Law of Attraction

Maybe you are already familiar with the law of attraction, but to what extent are you familiar with it?

  • Are you someone who says that you believe that the law of attraction is at work while still maintaining an overall negative outlook in life?
  • Are you still complaining most of the time?
  • Are you still looking at the glass half full?
  • Are you still focusing on what you don’t have?
  • Are you still yearning too much for that partner in life?
  • Are you still using words like, I can’t afford it, I’m too old, I could never do this or that?

If it’s what you’re doing, don’t fool yourself, it won’t work that way. Believe me, I’ve tried that too for a while.

Make sure you get the basics about that law of attraction thing well, because I believe that’s the key to turn your life around.

And remember that the law of attraction doesn’t care what religion you belong to and what you believe in. The law of attraction has nothing to do with that, because it’s one of the laws of the universe.

So, do yourself a favor and don’t try to hide behind anything. The law of attraction doesn’t care and doesn’t stop running for you.

 

Focus on the Right Things

Don’t forget that the keyword when it comes to the law of attraction is focus, so make sure that you pay attention to what you are focusing on at all time.

  • Every time you focus on what you don’t want, you attract more of what you don’t want.
  • Every time you focus on what you don’t have, you attract more of what you don’t have.
  • Every time you focus on what is, you attract more of what is.

If there is one thing I would want you to take home from this article is this. Because unless you really get this, chances are your life will stay pretty much the same.

I don’t want to scare you now, but I do want you to be aware, and moving toward success.

 

Feeling is Focusing

Here is something you need to absolutely understand if you want to attract more success into your life.

Let’s say you want to attract a certain amount of money, and you’re doing a good job at affirming that you are attracting that money and maybe even visualizing what you are going to do with that money.

But if the rest of the time you have strong feelings of lack of money. If you are getting anxious about how you are going to pay the bills at the end of the month, or anything like that, you will simply kill all your affirmation and visualization efforts.

Feelings send vibrations and negative feeling send low vibrations that are attraction negative results.

You need to check your feelings, because feelings let you know what your thoughts are and what type of events you are creating as per the law of attraction.

Negative feelings that sprout from negative thoughts sends low vibrations that can’t attract success.

Think of your body and mind as a huge magnet that attracts what’s in it.

Bad things in, bad things out.

This is a simple enough process that still so many people have not grasped. But how much do you want to succeed?

Someone that I’ve been coaching for a while, told me not to long ago, “wow, everyone should learn about this law of attraction stuff because it’s so powerful.”

Yes, he sure realized that for himself now.

But unless you do learn about it and start applying what you’re learning, you will most likely keep attracting pretty much the same by default.

 

 Why you’re not Attracting what you Want?

 1- You may have strong subconscious beliefs that work against your conscious desire.

Let me give you very simple illustration of how the subconscious mind works as opposed to your conscious mind.

This past weekend, I sold about half my furniture, because I’m getting ready to live in Europe for a few months. Since I’m renting my apartment, I’m simply not renewing the lease and will just keep only few things in a storage until I get back.

So there is that china cabinet that I just sold on Saturday, and sure enough, every morning I still walk toward that cabinet (that I know is no longer there) to get something that used to be in it.

You see, consciously I’m well aware that the cabinet is no longer here, but my subconscious is still going there to get something I need that I used to keep in there.

That’s how the subconscious works for everything.

Good, bad and indifferent. That’s why if you have a negative belief that you now consciously know is not serving you, subconsciously you are still “going there” like I’m still going toward my cabinet.

Now would I eventually make my subconscious mind get it that my china cabinet is gone?

Of course I will. And for that I’ll be using my conscious reasoning. Any eventually my subconscious will stop believing that the piece of furniture is still here.

2- You may have a strong tendency to be negative

Interestingly, negativity and positivity both are learned behaviors.

Even though they are not necessarily subconsciously learned, they certainly are habits. A way of life so to speak.

Never before I started to study about the wonders of personal development did I realized how negative I was.

It’s only later that I realized that it was a learned thing for me. A pure habit. I didn’t know much about being positive.

I literally had to unlearn this bad habit of mine, and change my attitude.

 

What can you do to Put the Law of Attraction on your Side and Reap Success?

If you have either subconscious beliefs, or negative though patterns, you need to find them out and remove them.

If you need a coach to help you with that, you are more than welcome to contact me.

Once you get the hang of it, it will start rolling for you, but until you get there it’s going to be a process.

But it’s also a joyous process. You’ll see. It’s like growing up!

I’m not going to tell you, do this or that and your life will change overnight. It’s not going to happen that way. But I will tell you that if you make a constant and willing effort, you will start seeing some changes.

You could start with my e-Course, and aim for your own momentum of success.

You can also leave your thoughts, questions and comments below…

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Interview with author Jessica Pasa

I met Jessica on a Linkedin Group we both belong to. Interview with Jessica Pasa

She got my attention because she wrote a book about her experience living in France.

As a matter fact, here love/hate relationship with France is very similar to mine living in the US.

When we had a conversation over Skype we agreed that once you are going to live in a country the dream-like view that you have about such country will eventually fade away and be replaced by reality.

But it’s OK. It’s not a bad thing, it a natural phenomenon that is bound to happen, because countries are made of people, and people are people.

So, take a look at the answers that an American smart lady had to say about France while she was living there.

I am sure you will have fun…

 

When we had our conversation on Skype, you said something interesting that anyone who has actually lived in a foreign country knows, but that people who have never lived in a foreign country might not totally grasp.

You said that there is a difference between the image that someone has of a country and actually living there. I think that’s very true for any country in the world.

So that prompted my first question here…

Q: At what point were you made aware of some of those things that didn’t necessarily match the picture perfect image that people have of France?

I was able to believe in “picture perfect France” throughout my first experiences as a tourist staying for a few weeks with families. When you are on vacation, you go out to restaurants, you sight-see, and you basically have fun.

The bubble burst for me when I arrived for my year living in Toulouse as a study abroad student. When you live somewhere, you have to deal with real life: how do I find an apartment and set up my cellphone and internet? Where is the nearest grocery store and how am I going to get there? How do I set up a bank account? These processes are stressful, and discovering the administrative nightmares that can happen in France made me realize that practical obligations follow you no matter what country you are living in.

You wrote a book titled ‘Pas Possible Falling in and out of Love With France’.

One of the first things you realized as soon as you got off the plane is that there is the “French language in books” and then, there’s the French language that people actually speak in day to day life.”

I know for a fact that French is notorious for that. So here is my question…

Q: When that taxi driver that you described in your book asked you “Vous ve nez d’ou,” How long did it take you to understand that he was asking you “d’ou venez-vous?” (Where are you coming from?)

At this point I had taken French for 6 years and had gotten over the “ohmygod French people speak so fast” phase. I was actually delighted to engage with the taxi driver! However, my first trip to France staying with a host family when I was 17 was my first experience with having to speak “real French” with “real French people” who didn’t speak English. I made a lot of mistakes, but my host family just laughed and corrected me, so I learned. You also get good at making gestures, a universal language.

Q: Did that type of situation happen often, and how did you deal with it when it did?

I got used to being corrected by my host family. In the US, we are pretty casual about our language, and as long as a non-native speaker can make themselves understood we usually let errors go. This was not my experience in France. The French language is sacred to the French, and they aren’t afraid to correct anyone, native speaker or not. However, this isn’t a personal insult. I learned not to take it personally and listened to the feedback I was given so I could improve my language skills.

On the subject of not being able to understand someone, I would just say “Comment?” or “Je n’ai pas compris” but not “quoi?” which can come off as rude if you are talking to someone you aren’t familiar with.

Q: The reason you called your book “pas possible…” which means “not possible” is because you’ve heard this phrase quite a lot in France. Can you give us some examples of when you heard this?

My husband actually helped me come up with the title for the book, so I have to give him some credit here. For me, this expression sums up a large part of French culture.

In my experience, French people love to say “no,” and in many different ways. The situation in which I heard “c’est pas possible” most was in administrative offices. If you were missing one document or signature at the bank, for example, the teller would simply shrug and say “c’est pas possible.” No, I can’t do this for you because you don’t have the proper paperwork. However, while we Americans take “no” to mean “no,” the French will flirt and finesse the situation until the “pas possible” becomes “peut-être…”(maybe).

Another situation would be an expression of frustration. If someone misses their bus or if their child is throwing a tantrum, they might exclaim: “c’est pas possible!” (I can’t believe this!)

Q: What were the culture “things” that were the most difficult to deal with for you in France?

Definitely the administrative processes. There were so many documents signed by so many different people required to do anything (rent an apartment, open a bank account, get a cellphone, etc). In the US by comparison it’s much easier. However, I think some degree of accountability is a good thing. For example, in the US it’s too easy to get credit cards, and that’s why a lot of Americans are in so much debt.

Customer service was also frustrating. Instead of the American “the customer is always right” in France it was that the employee was God (as in has all the power) and the customer had to bend over backwards to please him or her. The hours of stores were also difficult to keep track of and it was frustrating when everything was closed on Sunday. In the US, we are used to convenience and everything being open all the time.

Lastly, it was very hard to make friends with French people. The only way I managed to do it was to make friends with French people who were already friends with my host family or friends with other foreigners already. I found that if you don’t have friends or family in France, it’s difficult to get people to help you if you have questions. In the US, I was used to being able to ask strangers for help with almost anything. I do find Americans to be more outwardly friendly, but also more superficial. I think that French friends are harder to make, but they’re also more loyal. American friends may come and go, but French friends are often for life. In short, it’s worth putting in the effort!

Q: As I was browsing some videos on YouTube about France, I heard an American guy say that the hotel rooms were smaller and less comfortable in France. I know personally that this is not so everywhere and statements like these give the wrong idea to foreigners.

For example, the worst hotel I’ve ever seen was in New York City. So what’s your take on that?

I have lived in tiny apartments in both Paris and New York, and I can say that big cities in generally have small living spaces, not just France. In the rest of the US, people are generally used to larger living spaces. Everything in the US is bigger: the country, the people, the buildings, the houses, the cars and the portion sizes! However, France has more public spaces: city centers, parks and pedestrian friendly places to be outside. The US is heavily ruled by cars and needs more pedestrian-friendly areas like France.

Q: When we talked, we also discussed the fact that the French tend to have more culture rules than Americans. Would you want to expand on that?

First of all, mealtimes. In France, everyone is basically on the same clock: around 8am for breakfast, 12 for lunch, 4pm for the goûter (snacks for kids, coffee for parents) and 8pm for dinner. Everyone eats together, no one eats on the bus or at their desk. Eating is a social activity. In the US, eating is an individual activity. People eat what they want whenever they want and often alone. It is not regulated. Hence Burger King’s slogan: “Have it your way.”

Secondly, child rearing. The entire hexagon seems to be on the same page: how long to nurse a baby, when the mother goes back to work, when the child should be potty-trained, that children should be able to entertain themselves, how they should be dressed, etc. In France, you are training a new member of society and everyone is allowed to participate in each child’s rearing. In the US, it’s again individualistic: each set of parents does it their own way, kids are sleep trained “when they’re ready” potty trained in their own time and they snack pretty much whenever they want. Americans also aren’t allowed to correct other people’s children. I wish this weren’t the case!

Also, social etiquette. When greeting someone, there is a specific protocol to go through in France depending upon whether it’s in a store, at the workplace or in someone’s home. As an example, my husband brought home a burned baguette from our corner bakery because he didn’t say “bonjour” before placing his order! In the US, there’s no penalty for getting straight to the point and asking for what you want. In France, always start with “bonjour.” You won’t be sorry.

Q: What did you really not like about France?

Too much cigarette smoke and dog poo in the streets! It’s harder to enjoy the beautiful facades when you have to look down to watch where you’re stepping. It’s also more difficult to enjoy a delicious meal at a table outside when you have to wave smoke out of your face. Even though smoking is legally banned in restaurants both inside and out, people still smoke on the terraces.

Q: What did you really like about France?

I love the social values of France: great public transportation, universal healthcare, generous vacation, parental leave, fair retirement and an emphasis on family and social bonds. I am a socialist and identify more with French society than the US, which really worships the dollar above all else. I am seriously concerned that our country does not offer universal healthcare, parental leave, better public transportation and retirement plans for all. There is no safety net. Many Americans including myself wonder if they will ever be able to afford to retire. I don’t think this is really a concern for the French. Money is so important in the US that working seems to largely take priority over spending time with family and friends, and that’s a shame.

Next, the food. I love the emphasis placed on going to outdoor markets to buy fresh fruit and vegetables, spending time cooking and preparing meals to enjoy with loved ones around the table for hours. Going to a restaurant is not only about enjoying the meal but also spending quality time with your eating companion. And of course, I love the bakeries. Nothing beats walking down the street and getting a whiff of freshly baked baguettes that you can walk in and buy to go with your dinner that evening.

Lastly, I really appreciate France’s culture of leisure. One of my favorite things to do is go to the market to pick up fresh ingredients, a bottle of wine and a warm baguette to take to the park and have a picnic. Then you can just relax, chat with your friends and enjoy the food and drink as you people watch. Americans don’t seem to spend as much leisure time outside as the French, and the pace of life is also much quicker. I think we need to take a hint from the French and stop to smell the flowers! The quality of life is much improved when we spend it on food, leisure, friends and family.

 

I hope you enjoyed this great conversation I had with Jessica Pasa. If you love France, you can pick up a copy of her book an Amazon titled Pas Possible, Falling In And Out Of Love With France.

Please, leave your comments and questions below and me and Jessica will do our best to get back to you!

 

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Feeling a Shift

 

Have you ever felt a law of attraction shift in your life?

Even though I touched up a bit on that in one of my last posts, today I wanted to talk about emotional and vibrational shifts.

Because let me  tell you, they are really cool.

I mentioned before in another post as well, that I was told that it’s not uncommon to observe a shift in the mist of grief, and that it appear to be the case more often than not.

I have to tell you that right now in my life I am living one of the most incredible time.

While I still have those sad moments when I’m crying for my losses, I also feel that everything is coming together for me. And that’s why it feels weird.

It’s very strange and very exciting at the same time.

Right now I’m starting to attract exactly what I want, and just writing this almost makes my hair stand up.

I’ve been working this law of attraction thing for 9 years now, and it’s only recently that I felt a real shift in a truly positive way.

Now I am telling you that I wasted 9 years?

No, I really didn’t, but this low progression for me was taking me somewhere at the pace that I was letting it to.

 

Experiencing the Law of Attraction

As I was listening to one of the public recordings of Ester Hicks/Abraham teaching sessions, she said think of something you want to attract today. Anything, and see if you can attract it by the end of the day.

Just a fun little exercise that I encourage you to do.

Of course it has to be something within reason. Something that could show up in just a day.

So this morning I decided that I wanted to attract a red bird.

Later today, just as I was done doing some energy and EFT tapping exercises in a park I always go to nearby my house, I happened to look up at a tree and I saw a red bird.

Now do I see a red bird everything I go there. No, I sure don’t.

For me to see it, that bird had to be at right place at the right time.

It could have been there 5 minutes before or after and I wouldn’t have seen it.

It’s the only red bird I saw today.

So, I proceeded to thank the Universe out loud, because I remembered that in the morning as I was thinking of Ester Hicks’ suggestion, I said I want to attract a red bird today.

 

Another Manifestation…

Another funny thing happen today as well.

You know when you’re walking on a sidewalk and you’re passing someone who’s on the phone?

As you pass them you can hear a sentence or two of what they’re saying.

As I’m passing this guy on a sidewalk I heard him say… “She going to Italy and then to London.”

I couldn’t help but smile and think of that law of attraction again.

I said to myself, why am I hearing this?

Or is it because I was supposed to go to Italy but changed my plans and now I’m going to Scotland before moving on to other European destinations?

Is this a coincidence that I’m hearing that stranger saying this as I’m passing by?

No, it is not.

Those are things you experience as per the law of attraction. Because the law of attraction gives you more of what you’re focusing on in many different forms.

 

Another Manifestation…

And last but not least, today again, as I was sitting at my desk at work, a record number of people came in to chat with me. That has never happened to that extent before.

I felt like a  flower surrounded by bees all day.

So, yes, I do feel a strong law of attraction shift with ever cell of my being, but because I know quite a lot about vibrations and the law of attraction today, I also totally understands what’s happening.

But if you don’t let me explain…

 

Vibrations are Like Magnets

Do you know what is the biggest challenge we are facing when we first learn about the law of attraction?

It’s that we don’t truly understand it.

We think we do, but we don’t.

As Ester Hicks through Abraham always says, words don’t teach, only experience teaches.

So, we start repeating those affirmations, but for the most part we don’t truly believe them, and what’s even worse is that we keep on carrying bad feelings EVEN as we are saying those positive affirmations.

I know. I’ve been there.

Then the next thing you say is that law of attraction doesn’t work.

When, really what doesn’t work, is you.

The law of attraction is a law of the universe and it always works. No matter what you think and no matter if you believe in it or not.

The problem is never the law of attraction.

The problem is us.

If your life sucks in any way right now, you are part of the problem.

I know, tough truth. It took me years to fully accept that.

But as long as you don’t accept it. Your life will continue to be pretty much the same as it’s been.

However, let me tell you something very important here. Even from the time you actually come to understand and accept this, and the time you will actually act on it, there will be a gap.

There will be some time before you intellectually understand that you need to accept the fact that you are at least mostly responsible for what’s happening in your life, and the time where you actually will start to truly act on it, and become the creator that you truly are, rather than just the receiver.

Your vibrations are like magnets, and your vibrations create your environment. Even what people like to call back luck or circumstances.

We attract what we vibrate.

But where do our vibrations come from?

Our vibrations are based on our thoughts.

So how do you control your thoughts?

 

If you Can’t Control your Thoughts Watch your Feelings

Thoughts are not always easy to control.

As a matter of fact, it’s impossible for anyone to control all the thousands thoughts we have each day, but it is easier to watch how we feel.

If you don’t feel good, most likely your thoughts at that moment are not good either.

But what’s most important here is that if your feelings sucks, because your thoughts suck, you’re vibrations are very low. And low vibrations are not a good match with attracting good things in your life.

Remember that vibrations are like radio waves, you don’t see them, but they are there, and they are powerful.

Bad feelings which equal bad thoughts which equal low vibrations is the perfect recipe for not being in alignment with the universe.

When you are not in alignment with the universe you attract bad experiences into your life and that’s what people love to call fate, or even life.

I understand you.

I’ve called it that for the better part of my life, and I’m pulling my hair just thinking that I had to walk the earth for that long to only truly get this now, so to speak.

But when you do get it.

When you truly get it.

You feel it.

It’s undeniable.

And that’s when you feel a shift.

 

But How do you Get There?

It’s not easy, I would admit, but it’s pretty simple.

3 words.

  • Time.
  • Efforts.
  • Release.

 

Why Time?

No matter what you want to accomplish in this dimension we live in, will take what we call time.

It takes time to grow up.

It takes time to go from point A to point B.

Everything that you do will take a laps of time.

So when you start working with the law of attraction on your favor, give yourself  some time to start seeing improvements.

Be patient, because it will take time. But in the end you will see a shift.

 

Why Efforts?

The more you learn how to play with the law of attraction, the easier it gets, but at first it will take efforts on your part.

You will have create positive affirmations, and repeat them every day.

You will have to watch and moderate those feelings that will let you know if you’re on the right track or not.

You will have to learn to watch those thoughts of yours as much as possible and switch them around when they are not serving you.

You will have to learn the difference between good vibrations and bad vibrations.

You will have to keep reading, learning, expanding, and maybe invest in a coach that could help you go faster.

But no matter what you do, you will have to do your part.

It will take some efforts on your part.

 

Why Release?

Once you are on the right track, and that you know that you’ve got it, you will need to release any resistance that you may feel.

For example, let’s say that you want to attract a car, but you start thinking of that car that’s not here yet, so what you’re really feeling is the “lack of that car,” not the car.

That’s usually when people start saying that the law of attraction doesn’t work. But actually it’s working great.

You are concentrating too much on the lack of the car rather than thinking of the car as if you had it, so as per the law of attraction that never fails, you are experiencing the lack of the car, not the car.

So you are creating what is called a resistance, which is the very opposite of attraction.

I really, really hope you’re getting this. Because it is very important. And unless you do get it, you will continue to struggle with attracting what you want.

You see, when I said I want to attract a red bird today. I said it, thought about it for about a minute, and then totally released it.

And boom, my red bird appeared later in the day.

Knowing this today, I often think of the two or three years that followed my divorce. I was in a strong need for a relationship, but it was so bad, that what I was really focusing on was the lack of a relationship. I was focusing every day on being alone.

So, even though I was light miles from understanding what I know now about the law of attraction, I was attracting that lack of a relationship and was desperately alone, wondering why I couldn’t find the man of my dream.

It makes total sense to me now though, and there was no way on earth, as per the law of attraction, that I would have found someone to be with in those days. And I sure didn’t.

The law of attraction is perfect. It never fails.

It’s our job to understand how it works.

Today I am a totally different woman, and I am in a totally different place.

I do not care about a relationship at all in my life at this time. I’m way too busy attracting other exciting things at the moment.

For me today, a great relationship would be the cherry on the cake, not the cake.

However, when I’m ready for a relationship, I have no doubt that it will come, because I know better now. Plus now I’m much stronger and single by choice. That’s a whole different story.

 

So are you Getting it?

Have you experienced a law of attraction shift yet?

Let’s talk about it!

Are you truly getting it?

Are you experiencing this law of attraction in a good way now?

If not, grab my free eCourse, and let’s talk.

 

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How To Make Your Reader Relate To You

 

Writing is the action of thinking they say.

But what if your thoughts are all over the place?

Then your writing might not be as good as it could be.

If you have a business and writing is really not your thing, there is hope. You could hire someone to write for you, and never worry about all this writing business thing again.

That’s what many businesses are doing right now.

But if you feel that you can’t afford such service yet, then you might want to learn a few tricks to spice up the way you communicate with your readers on your blog.

Since your readers may turn into potential customers, you don’t want to miss out on that, do you?

Even if you don’t want to spend money for the content that goes on your blog, don’t waste your time and energy by writing in a way that doesn’t interest anyone.

This post is going to be your quick mini guide to create content that sparkle interest, so your time will be well spent right from the get go.

 

Talk about the Customer’s Needs

There are still many businesses that concentrate too much on their product or service features rather than the customer’s needs.

It’s vital when you create your content on your site or blog that you understand that people are not looking for what you do, but how you can help them.

With this in mind, concentrate more on the end result experience of the future client or customer that’s visiting your blog, rather than telling them what your product or service is about.

When was the last time you’ve seen a commercial on TV?

Commercials do just that.

They don’t tell you what a product or service does or what’s in it, but they show you what it will do for YOU and how you will feel once you use such product or service.

They might be selling the worse side effect drug out that there, but what they are showing you are happy people having fun. Regardless of the potential side effects.

They are showing you the rewards you will get once your pain is gone.

Now, I’m not asking you to be fooling your potential customers like commercials often do, but I’m telling you to use their marketing concept because it works. It’s the best marketing concept there is.

Those who create those commercials understand that it’s not about the product they are trying to sell, but about what it can do for the potential buyer.

This is the first thing you need to keep in mind when you blog for your business.

 

Relate to your Customer

Then, you need to just a little step further.

I believe that if you can relate to your potential customer, you can grow the most successful business ever. Because people are attracted by whomever it is that can relate to them, and understands their problems or pains.

What does it take to do that?

It takes to go back to human feelings rather than American Corp ion hand without heart type behavior.

If people can feel that there is a true human being that seems to truly understand them, behind the business, they will flock to you because there are so many business owners that have not understood that yet.

The way you relate to you customer is by creating a list of what your ideal customer is looking for, and what would be the type of message that they would totally relate to.

Think about what makes YOU relate to something you may read online.

What resonates with you?

There ins’t really a step by step I can give you to do this. This needs to come from you.

Let the business man or woman aside for a while and let the human being transpire into your business.

 

Develop a Conversational Tone in your Writing

In order for the two points above to work well, you need to develop that entertaining conversational tone in your writing.

The more matter of fact you will sound, the less interested people will be in what you have to say.

No matter what you’re trying to convey to them.

The more you’ll personalize your writing style, adopting a conversational tone, the more your potential customer will relate to you and what you have to say.

Don’t lull your readers to sleep with long boring sentences. Always use short easy to read sentences within short easy to read paragraphs.

This is a useful rule of them to use.

Remember that it’s all about how you say it.

To give some spice to your content, you can use some creative tricks that good writers use all the time.

But the good new is that you don’t have to be a “good writer” to use them anyway.

 

Use Stories and Anecdotes

Very few things will help your readers/potential customers to relate to you better, than an appropriate story or anecdote.

I am sure that you have some sensational true stories that you could incorporate to you writing.

A story could be an excellent ice breaker and make people feel that you are truly human, and that you do truly understand what their problem is and and able to help them to solve it.

 

Use a Language that Establish a Bond Between you and your Reader

Have you ever noticed the structure of a press release?

In press releases we use the expressions like; Company X does this and that… That’s a unique press release structure which has its own purpose, but you do not want to sound like that at all in your blog post.

The best word you should always use in a blog post is YOU.

Don’t’ say, Company X, or use sentences such as;  one would have thought that this was better this way, but rather say; you would have thought that this was better this way.

In short, words like you, me, or we establish a bond between the writer and the reader.

While words like one, they, people or company (name) do not.

Use too many of those bland words and you’ll lose the reader faster than you can say 1,2,3.

Use as many as possible of bond words and you’ve got a winner.

Writing is a very subtle art and just like too much or not enough salt can ruin a dish, too much or not enough of the right words can ruin your article.

 

Use vivid words

In order for you to fully understand what a vivid word is, you may need some examples of their opposite.

Opposites of vivid words are bland words that don’t really do anything for your writing except filling up space.

I’m not going to give you a lengthy list here, just a few words to give you an idea.

  • Nice
  • Great
  • Good
  • Effective
  • Bad
  • Ultimate
  • Useful

Those words are over used and useless for the most part, because they are very general and don’t express anything specific.

More vivid words could be:

  • Indispensable
  • Entertaining
  • Powerful
  • Tasteful
  • Inspiring
  • Admirable
  • Spicy

The more you write, and the more you read, the more you’ll be able to spot a weak word, and replace it by a stronger one as much as possible.

 

Edit and Refine

Editing is as important as the writing, but editing should never get in the way of writing because they are two different things.

When you’re writing your first draft, you’re expressing an idea. It’s your creative phase.

When you’re editing, you are refining your story, making sure you are sending your message in the clearest and most powerful way.

Once you’ve edited once or twice, you should do another couple rounds to refine your piece, until it sounds close to perfect.

To make sure that you take full advantage of your editing phase, you should sleep on it.

There’s nothing like editing the next morning with fresh eyes, because that’s when you’ll be able to catch all those little imperfections that need to go.

Make sure that you edit, refine and polish your article the best you can because that article will be out there forever.

That article is what will represent your business and what you do for the customer.

That article will be a tool that’s going to help your potential customer relate to you.

 

Your turn now…

Give us your feedback and input down below…

 

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Why Should You Always Listen To Your Intuition

 

It was a rainy day and I was leaving the house to go to work that morning.

I said good bye to my mother and aunt who were here in North Carolina for their regular 3 month stay out of the year.

I remember closing the door behind me, and as I was getting in my car I felt an overwhelming sensation that one of my cats, Sophie, had gone out.  (While my cats were allowed to walk around outdoors  on a leach, I have never let them out on their own).

I knew that she wasn’t out though, because I had just seen her inside as I was closing the door.

So, what did I do?

I did what most of us do when we get a nagging intuition; I just shook it off and left.

That day, my mom and aunt were supposed to be picked up by some friends of mine to spend the day with them.

When I came back that evening, they had not returned yet, but I wasn’t worry because we had expected that.

What did worry me pretty quick though, is that as I came in, Tony (Sophie’s brother) came to greet me as usual, but Sophie wasn’t there.

So I thought that she might have been sleeping upstairs.

I proceed to go upstairs and looked in both bedrooms, but no Sophie.

I could feel my blood pressure rising.

I started calling her name and looking under the beds and even in closets, but still no Sophie.

As I was starting to seriously panic, my morning intuition came back to me.

And at that moment, I finally recognized it for what it really was.

A useful intuition that I shouldn’t have discarded.

But I did. It was too late.

Knowing my cat all too well, I knew after 5 minutes of this frantic search that she wasn’t in the house at that point.  There no way she wouldn’t have showed up by now.

So I went outside calling her name like a mad woman.

Then I started crying and praying, asking God to please give me back my baby alive and well.

I felt so bad and so guilty for not having listen to my intuition that was trying to tell me to “watch out!”

That’s when my mother and aunt arrived home and found me calling frantically for Sophie around the house.

After a few minutes of going round and round and looking everywhere, I found her sitting under a bush on a piece of wood.  She looked scared, because I could tell that she understood that she had messed up and was afraid of my anger.

So I calmed down and picked her up, thanking God like there was no tomorrow.

When I got inside the house I totally lost it and cried like a baby.

I didn’t realize it right away, but my mom and aunt felt very bad, because they understood that Sophie had gone out when they left.

That had never happened before or after, because they were always very careful that Sophie and Tony did sneak out, but that day it did.

Cats are smart and they know who they’re dealing with.  That day Sophie must have known that she could  fool those two older ladies and get out without been seen.

She was right.

They never saw her.

Cats are swift and quiet.

So for the first and ONLY time in her life, Sophie spent the whole day (about 9 hours) outside and alone to her own device.   To this day I’ve felt that she had protected and preserved.

But the most incredible thing of all is that intuitions I had that morning telling me that “Sophie was out” about an hour before it actually happened.

This is something I will never, ever forget.

You see, intuition is our friend.

Intuition is that voice inside that gives us signals that we should always listen to.

If I had  that same intuition today, I would act totally differently.

I would rush back in the house and tell my mom, listen, I’m having this strong intuition that’s telling me that Sophie is going to try to get out, so make sure you see her inside as you close the door. If you don’t make sure you do before you leave.

That’s exactly what my intuition was trying to tell me to do, but I didn’t.

Back then, I wasn’t involved in personal development yet, and even though I had had some strong intuitive messages and dreams before, I didn’t recognize this one, and I brushed it off.

What’s very interesting to me today is that many years later I would learn from two psychic friends of mine that Sophie and I had a strong spiritual connection, and that intuitive message in regards to her was the first proof of that.

Intuitions are spiritual messages from our higher self.

 

What is Intuition and why should you Listen to it?

In short, intuition is a subconscious feeling that beats any conscious reasoning.

Intuition is a process that gives us the ability to know something without any kind of analytic rezoning.  It’s a bridge between conscious and subconscious.

If you’ve read my blog long enough, you know that if you would compare the conscious mind to the subconscious (or unconscious) mind it would be like comparing the tip of the iceberg (the conscious) to the much larger submerged part of the iceberg where everything really takes place (the subconscious).

The conscious while having its purpose is very limited, while the subconscious is unlimited.

Intuition defies the laws of space and time, that why many people having intuition messages tend to rationalize them quickly with their conscious reasoning.

That’s what happened to me that day.

Since I had seen Sophie inside the house, why was my intuition telling me that she was outside?

At a conscious level it made no sense, so I brushed it off.

What I didn’t know back then is that since intuition is not limited by space or time, there was that awareness about what actually happened an hour later (in conscious conventional time).

As a matter of fact, since intuition is a preventive mechanism, it pretty must systematically warns you BEFORE the event you have an intuition about happens.

Think about it! It would make no sense if it were after.

 

Are you Listening to your Intuition?

We all have intuition.

Intuition is our own personal compass, not other people’s.

So, when you do have a strong intuition about something it’s YOUR job to listen to it.  Not to tell somebody who’s going to try to convince you that’s not so.

You need to trust your intuition more than you would trust anyone.

When I decided to go to Europe I had first set my eyes on Italy. The plan was to stay there for a year.

At first I was really motivated and all the steps I took to get my passports went perfect, so I knew that I had to go.

But as time went on I realized that I was not motivated to sell my furniture and make the plans that I needed to make.

Then I noticed that I had a nagging feeling about internet access in Italy. Something (my intuition) was telling me that I needed to find out more about the internet in Italy.

Since I had made a contact there, in Rome, where I wanted to go, I emailed that person and asked him about the quality of internet connection.  When he told me that it wasn’t very good and “not a given” as he called it, I had the answer that I needed.

As soon as I received his email, I knew why I had that nagging feeling that prevented me to sell and pack my things.

So, I made other plans and decided to go to France and other European countries instead.  I’ll go to Italy if I can, but for a short time only.

As soon as I made that decision my intuitive warning lifted off and I started selling my furniture, rented my storage, and I’m starting to pack.

Again, my intuition was telling me something, but this time, I knew better than not to listen that inner voice, so I did.

I can’t be in a place where I don’t have 100% secure internet connection, because I’m taking my business with me, so my good little inner voice was letting me know about that.

Isn’t intuition a wonderful tool?

You’ve got to love it!

 

How to Develop Your Intuition

As I said above, we all have intuition, but it is possible to develop it even more.

There many different things you can do to develop your intuition, but here I’m going to give you 3 simple tips that can do a pretty good job a developing your intuitive power.

Turn off the Chatter in your Mind

To let go of the chatter in your mind, start practicing some breathing exercise.  Go in a park and as you walk, look around you, remind yourself to live in the moment as you inhale and exhale.

I walk outdoors in nature just about everyday. While I do, I make sure that I don’t allow any negative thoughts.  I am totally aware of the NOW, I BREATH and MEDITATE as I walk, and I repeat my positive SELF TALK.

This is a routine of mine that improve my intuition.

Do this as many time as often as you can.

Meditate

Meditation doesn’t have to take hours.

You can do a very good meditation routine for just 15-20 minutes a day.

There is an abundance of meditation guides on YouTube. But once you get the hang of it, you can meditate on your own as well, even as you lie on your bed before falling asleep.

Meditation will improve your intuition.

Work on your Third Eye Chakra

Your third eye chakra is linked to your intuitive power, your psychic ability.

There is a very simple and easy exercise you can start right now to open your third eye chakra.

Close your eyes look up (with your eye closed) toward your forehead between your eyes (where your third eye is located).

Then inhale deeply, and exhale as you chant the sound oooooommmm until you exhaled all the air in your lung.

Do this 5 to 6 times per session, and you’re done.

 

I hope you enjoyed this article, and most of all I hope that next time your intuition is trying to tell you something, you will listen.

Intuition is ALWAYS right.

Please, leave your feedback and comments below…

 

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How To Win More Business

 

Do you want to win more business?

Well, if you are in business, you most likely do.

That’s probably why you have a blog, writing press releases, solo ads, email marketing campaigns and what not.

Yet, most business owners are still looking for ways to win more business.

Actually, wanting to get more clients is a good thing, because it can help you improve your message and the way you portray yourself and your business to the public.

In a way, it keeps you on the edge and forces you to improve.

 

Winning More Business May be Easier than you Think

If you are craving more clients or customers for your business, because they’re not really knocked at the door, it doesn’t mean that your product or service is bad.

What it means is that there are some important things that you are not doing, or some vital steps that you are not taking.

Entrepreneurs who have plenty of business, have either a well establish enterprise which generates residual referrals and repeat business (those are actually so busy that they can’t even accept any more clients because of it).

Or they have implanted specific strategies that they are applying on a regular basis which keep on supplying new prospects to their business.

To be honest I am myself working at creating more business, and I’m not at the point where I can afford to give away some of my clients, as some other people in my trade pretend to be.

But as I’m learning more and more, I am willing to share some nuggets so you can too implements those tips for your own business.

Also, remember that if you are a business owner who needs good strategic content for your blog that is exactly what I do.

In the meantime here are 5 strategies that can help you generate more clients than you are right now.

 

5 Strategies to Wind more Business

 

1 – Tune up Your Writing

Learn how to write better and more valuable content.

What does better content really mean?

Better on its own is a pretty vague term, isn’t it?

You could say, I like better chocolate than vanilla, but that would just be a matter of your own personal taste.  It doesn’t mean that chocolate IS better than vanilla.

We could compare just about anything under the sun and say that something is better than something else.

But most likely that would only be relevant to you. It doesn’t mean that it is so.

However, you could say that you are better at math then I am, because you can crunch those figures much faster and more accurately than I can.

Or yet again, I could say that I’m better at speaking French than you are, because it’s my native language.

So, now the word better, makes much more sense all of a sudden, doesn’t it?

Well, there are better writings style than others as well.

In this case writing better especially means making sure you are using writing rules that apply to electronic devices that people use today to read your content these days.

it also means writing more inviting, more entertaining, more captivating, and more valuable content, so the person that lands on your blog for the first time will want to come back.

The more you understand what better writing is the more they will want to come again.

You want people say things like this to you:

“Great post indeed!!!! I’m so glad to read this article. I found this helpful too. It is such a valuable post to learn good points from. Thanks so much for doing all the hard work to make it easy to understand for all of us. A big thanks to you for sharing such a helpful post with us. Thanks”

“I loved the introduction of this post. I have not come across “telemarketing” association with blog content. But you are absolutely right! When I think of some blogs and their content, they do sound like telemarketers.”

“This is my first visit to your blog. I am very happy Google redirected me to this page. Every line has something to learn from. I have learned many things from this post. You are talented no doubt. I am waiting for a lot more good posts from you.Thanks”

When you’re getting more and more comments like these, you know that you are on the right track. But what exactly do you have to do, so people will love to read what you have to say?

Here are few pointers:

a) Short Sentences

I’ve said it many times before, but in case you missed it, here it is again.

Always remember that people are lazy in nature, so start your article with sort sentences.  Especially my  first 3-4 sentences are rather short.

Why?

Because the purpose of a sentence is to lead to the next.

If your first sentences are too long, people won’t want to keep reading, they will want to move on to something else.

So, help the lazy reader (that we all are) to hop from one sentence to the next by writing short sentences as much as you can. Especially at the beginning or your article, but keep this trend all throughout the article still.

b) Introduction

Make your introduction interesting. Start with a story if you can.  Take the reader for a ride as they swallow your introduction one bite after the other.

Make them WANT to know more.

Make them want to know where you’re going with this.

They are very thirsty for good information, tempt them in your introduction, so they will keep reading.

This technique can be learned, by the way.

Try it and see what a difference it can make.

c) Value

Pretty and short sentences are great, but of course that doesn’t excuse you from adding value.

Your introduction is the appetizer, but now you have to give your visitor the plat de resistance.

That’s where value comes in.

No matter how well-crafted your introduction is, what makes it more valuable is the value that you add after that introduction.

The value is your content, your topic, how you discuss it in your article, and how it will help the reader/your potential customer.

I have been writing about content quality for a while, but be sure to check some of my recent posts on the topic, such my posts titled how to write magnetic content for you target market and what is descriptive writing and why should you use it.

 

2 – Identify What Matters to the Customer

Once you’ve understood your basic writing rules that will rock your blog post, article, press release and everything you write for the promotion of your business, you need to use that content wisely.

What will help you tremendously in your writing is identifying what matters to your customer.

People will want to do business with you if you are addressing their needs and wants, not just because your business exists.

I am not going to expand too much on this today since I’ve recently written extensive posts on the topic of communicating with your potential customers the smart way on my posts titled, why is your blog not attracting your ideal client and How to convey the voice of your brand.

Give those articles a read if you need help with better identifying with your customers’ needs.

 

3 – Ask for Referrals to your Current Customers

Another way to win more business is by asking referrals to your current customers.

An interesting thing about referrals is that if you don’t ask for them, there is a 50% chance you won’t get any.

How do I know?

Because I often noticed that when I have asked for references, people were not necessary thinking of giving me any, unless I asked. Even if they seemed to be glad I did.

If you do a good job, and people know someone that could benefit from your products or services, they will refer you to their friends, and relatives. If you don’t ask, they may not.

They don’t know your situation. They don’t know if you’re booked right now. There could be many reason why they might not give you referrals.

So, don’t assume that they will refer you to other potential customers, unless you ask for it.

 

4 – Expand your Business

If you have a product or service, think about expanding by adding to what you already have.

Think about adding another product or service that will complement what you have, if it applied to your business.

Adding something to what you’ve already created is always easier to do, and mostly likely will be taking much less time to create.

For example, you could use your blog content or you email marketing content to create a special report or even a book that you could either sell or use as a promotion tool.

If you don’t know how it’s done, ask me.

 

5 – Raise your Prices

If you are still new in business, you might be surprised to hear that keeping your prices and fees low is NOT the best way to win more business.

On the contrary.

Too low prices can make your service cheap in the eyes of the potential customer, and they might not trust that it’s a valuable service.

Raise your prices and win more business by promoting it well, and providing quality.

Raising prices is a wonderful strategy to get more business.

It works like a charm.

I know for a fact that freelance writers and coaches that are charging low fees are not at all the ones who get the most clients.

On the other hand, those who do charge higher fees, have plenty of business all year long.

 

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A Story Of Rape Recovery And Success

 

You may have thought that my guest today would fit my writing category, but the reason she she’s here on my personal development section is because she’s got an incredible story to share that could be so inspiring for many of you.

She agreed to share it on exclusivity on my blog.

So, before I let her tell you her story here is my custom quote for her…

Take a strong talented woman who’s been through hell and back with success at the end of the tunel, and you get Lorraine Reguly!

 

My life has not always been easy.

Nor has it always been pleasant.

Instead, it’s been filled with a lot of struggles, obstacles, and pain.

Some of it might have been my own fault but a lot of it was not. I know that now.

Pinpointing where it first went wrong is easy.

I was 14. And a virgin. And I was raped by a man over twice my age.

 

Rape Changes Everything

I was brought up in a fairly strict Catholic family, and I was taught to save my virginity for the man I was to marry, whoever he might be.

That choice was taken away from me in June 1985, two months before my 15th birthday, when I had a fight with my father, and ended up running away from home, jumping out my bedroom window to do so. I had an exam the next day, and so I packed my study notes in the biggest purse I owned, along with my make-up and other personal belongings. I didn’t intend stay gone forever, but I also had no clear-cut plan for the upcoming days either.

After exiting my window, I threw my purse to the ground and shimmied my way to the edge of the roof. Carefully maneuvering my body so that was only holding onto the rooftop with my hands, I took a deep breath and let my body go limp as I let go. I landed in a heap, unscathed.

I gathered myself and my purse and ran for all I was worth, down the block, towards Winston Hall, the apartment building where a few of my friends lived – and also where my mother was working, in the variety store in the basement, which she owned.

I ended up at Brian’s house. I was friends with both Brian and his younger brother, Paul.

Brian, I learned, had plans to spend the night at one of his friends’ house, camping in tent in the back yard. I asked if I could join them, and did. His friend – I can’t for the life of me recall his name – lived near a cemetery that was on a bus route, so I’d be able to catch the bus to school the next morning to write my exam. All was going well until the boys were caught with a girl in the tent . . . and I was forced to leave the property.

It was about eleven o’clock, extremely dark, and I had nowhere to go. I had little money and bus pass, but the bus on that route had stopped running.

I dug around in my purse, found my phone book, and called an older friend — Lorne — of an older friend — Debbie — whom I had met at Debbie’s apartment. He had given me his number and told me to call him sometime.

I phoned from the pay phone near the bus stop and explained my plight. He was in bed and didn’t feel like driving across the city to pick me up, so he instructed me to take a taxi to his place. He said he’d pay for the cab, too, and also give me a ride to school the next day.

I thought I was saved!

I was wrong. Boy, was I ever wrong.

When I got to Lorne’s house on Clayte Street, he paid the fare, as promised, then led me downstairs to his bachelor pad, where two large dogs greeted me. It consisted of a bathroom, a tiny kitchen nook, and a living room separated by a half-wall divider from a space that held his double bed and a couple of dressers. Even though it was nearly summertime, it was cold in the basement. The dogs didn’t seem very friendly, either. Perhaps they sensed I feared them. I’ve never liked big dogs, only small ones.

After noticing a couple of cushions on the couch, I asked for blanket, intending on hunkering down in the living room for the night. Lorne insisted I sleep in the bed with him. I didn’t want to, but he claimed not to have an extra comforter, and was adamant that there was enough room in the bed for both of us.

Feeling indebted to him, I complied, thinking we were simply going to get some shut-eye.

After getting settled, I tried to sleep, but it eluded me. It was hard to fall asleep in a strange place, in a strange bed, with a man who was practically a stranger to me. Debbie had refused to house me for the night, not wanting to jeopardize the future – I was her babysitter but I thought we were friends, too. Because of our friendship, I trusted Lorne.

Big mistake.

I found that out during the next hour.

First, I felt hands on my body. Then, a husky voice in my ear, as Lorne pulled me closer to him. Then kisses on my neck and face, searching out my lips.

Disgusted, I pushed him away. I protested his advances. I told him I was a virgin. He didn’t care. If anything, that turned him on even more.

He kept at me, and forced me into submission. I fought him every step of the way, but I wasn’t strong enough to protect myself. He covered my mouth with one of his hands as he disrobed me with the other, using the weight from his torso and legs as leverage.

He tried to make me give him oral sex. I’d never done that before. Heck, the only thing I had done up to that point was kiss a boy! I nearly threw up.

I was in tears, crying, as it dawned on me what began happening next. I was not only losing my virginity, but I was being raped, forced into intercourse against my will. I felt pain . . . and wetness, which I later discovered in the bathroom was blood from having my vagina ripped open.

Throughout most of the rape, I struggled, protested, and cried. I grew tired of fighting him and began praying for the whole ordeal to be over. Eventually, it was. Physically. Mentally, I was scarred for life.

 

Rape Replay

That evening has replayed itself over and over in my mind for years.

I will never forget that night as long as live, no matter how much I try to. And, trust me, I’ve tried.

I often wonder:

*What if I fought harder?

*What if I protested more?

*What if I didn’t run away from home in the first place? How would my life be different?

There are a lot of “What ifs.” Unfortunately, I’ll never know an alternate outcome.

 

Rape Shapes Your Future

Being raped changed my entire life. I no longer thought sex was the ultimate joy two people could share. My focus was lost, and I became severely depressed. I tried to commit suicide, but failed. I ended up quitting high school four times, each semester for two consecutive years.

I turned to drugs and promiscuity. These were my coping mechanisms. At age 16, I found a boyfriend, who was an alcoholic. I ended up pregnant.

I told my mom, too. I also told her I was considering having an abortion.

My mom then told me a story about Maureen. She dated one of my uncles, and I loved her dearly. I wanted her to become my aunt, too, but she got pregnant and had an abortion at my uncle’s behest. Ultimately, she married someone else. They wanted kids of their own. Because of what my uncle forced Maureen to do, however, she became unable to bear children. My mom explained that this was a risk I was going to be taking if I had an abortion.

I didn’t care. I never wanted kids anyway. Well, not totally true — I wanted twin girls. But what were the chances of that happening?

So I went ahead with the abortion. The day I had it was the happiest day of my life.

The guilt came later, and I often wonder if I killed not one but two babies.

Given Maureen’s experience, I didn’t think I’d ever get pregnant again.

When I was 17, I learned I was pregnant again. I decided to keep my half-Spanish baby. All I could think about was Maureen and how unfair it was that she couldn’t have a baby, but I could.

My son, Julian, made me grow up — fast!

 

Motherhood Changed Me Yet Again

When I had my son I was living on welfare. I wanted a better life for us than that, so I returned to school.

I graduated high school from a special program for single mothers, and earned numerous awards and scholarships. I was also accepted into the program of my choice and then attended university for 5 years, obtaining a B.A. and a B.Ed. (Bachelor of Arts and a Bachelor of Education).

I moved away to work, and taught high school for three-and-a-half years. I was unhappy with my life, so I resigned and moved back to my hometown, returning to prostitution, which paid better than teaching did.

Two years later, I was then in an accident in which I nearly lost my right leg. I had major surgery to save it. Unfortunately, the accident caused my leg to become slightly deformed, and it will remain that way for the rest of my life.

I was already in a major depression, and this only added to my grief.

My suicidal thoughts returned. I was hospitalized for three long weeks. I was such a wreck that my son moved out and disowned me. For 3 long years we didn’t speak or see one another. During the first year, I used drugs again as my coping mechanism, and I ended up smoking crack for ten months. Losing my son was worse than being raped!

Yeah, my life has been rough. Like I said before, some of it was my fault, some of it was not.

I could’ve made better choices. I could’ve been a better mom. I could’ve done things differently.

Coulda, woulda, shoulda.

 

Getting It Together

In 2011, I got my shit together after one of my close friends moved away.

I stopped doing drugs.

I stopped hooking.

I started spending time with my parents.

My life was back on track.

I was no longer taking prescription medication for my bipolar disease, either. I didn’t need it. Getting off the drugs made that much better!

 

An Illness Re-unites Me and my Son

Then, one day, I got REALLY sick. I threw up for about twelve hours. The next day, my stomach hurt, but I thought it was from puking so much. By the following morning, I was in excruciating pain. I couldn’t get comfortable. I could barely move. It felt like I was dying.

The pain I felt was worse than being raped. It was more painful than my leg surgery. It was worse than losing my son. I didn’t know what was wrong, so I called 911, and was brought to the hospital.

After ten hours of testing, the three doctors I saw couldn’t find anything wrong.

Finally, they determined my appendix had burst, and I was rushed into surgery after being given the option of taking antibiotics and being sent home!

The doctor warned me she might have to cut me wide open. I instructed her to do whatever she had to do to save my life.

I spent six days in the hospital, and had an epiphany while there, after speaking with a 76-year-old lady, who was my “roomie” for two days.

I didn’t want my life to end. I wanted it to begin!

Most of all, I didn’t want to die without saying “goodbye” to my son.

So I hunted him down. I found out where he worked (he was still in the same city, thank God!), and I wrote him a letter.

He didn’t reply. After a month of waiting, I called him.

That phone call was tough, but it was a start. It lasted forty-five minutes. He wasn’t convinced I had changed, but he gave me the benefit of the doubt, and we talked every couple of weeks from then on.

Then we met for dinner. We became closer and closer again.

This re-connection process began in October of 2012.

 

How My Son Prompted Me to Succeed

In December, I asked him what he wanted for Christmas.

He told me to take that money and buy myself something I needed. So, even though I bought him several gifts, I also picked one up for myself: a book called The Writer’s Market.

(I had written a book in university and my prof encouraged me to publish it.)

In January 2013, I began a free blog, to get my name out there. I discovered I love blogging. Some of my early blog posts hit the number one spot on Google Search. I then learned about SEO, and how to be a better blogger. I even wrote an e-book, 20 Blog Post Must-Haves. Then I learned about self-publishing. I began earning money by freelancing, too.

In February 2014, Wording Well (my freelancing writing and editing business) was born. In June 2014, I independently published a book of short stories dealing with topics of identity, drugs, abuse, friendship and death — Risky Issues.

I’m currently working on Letters to Julian, and have already begun my autobiography.

I am living proof that you can go through hell several times over and still come out on top. All it takes is commitment to change, a bit of hard work, and persistence to succeed.

Now, clients seek me out. Bloggers want to feature me. I’m viewed as inspirational. My name is out there. Because I’ve learned so many new skills, I’ve added more services to my list, too!

And my son is proud of his mom once again.

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