Your Article Marketing Tutorial Blog Wed, 04 Mar 2015 13:14:23 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Are You Responsible For The Way People Act Towards You? Wed, 04 Mar 2015 13:14:23 +0000 Have you ever trusted someone who turned out to be not so trustworthy after all? Have you ever thought you knew someone so well,...

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Have you ever trusted someone who turned out to be not so trustworthy after all?

Have you ever thought you knew someone so well, but yet they did something you’d never thought they would do?

Have you ever had a friend who turned out to be not so much of a friend at all?

Have you ever given at lot of yourself to someone, only to get kicks in the butt as pay back?

Have you ever felt unappreciated?

Have you ever fell in love with someone who didn’t even notice you?

Have you ever experienced any of the above?

If you have, take heart, you’re not alone.

I can say that I have experienced ALL of the above and some, at one time or another in my life.

But this is called life.

We all experience good things and bad things.

But we wouldn’t be able to appreciate the good if we didn’t know what bad is.

So, even amongst the bad experiences that we go through, there’s always a good lesson at the end of the day.

But at times that lesson can be well hidden, or it may be years until you get it.


The reason why I wanted to write about this topic today, is that last week I was given an answer that was game changer to me.

All of a sudden, it was as if someone had taken a tick veil from in front of my eyes.

It was exciting. It was mind boggling. Yes, it was life changing.

But whatever the case may be, there are a few important facts that you need to keep in mind when it comes to how people act towards you, because when you get that, you will already feel so much better.


3 Most Important Things to Keep in Mind

The first most important thing you need to understand is that not everything is your fault.  Because what people think of us, and how they act toward us, is none of our business.

The second most important thing is that as long as you’re trying to do your best out there, you don’t have to worry about what other people think or do.

And the third most important thing is that as long as you do not fully understand what your subconscious mind projects onto other people’s mind, it’s only normal that you’re not going to understand why people react the way they do towards you at times.

So, the quick answer to the question, are you responsible for the way people act towards you?

I would say, yes, and no. Let me explain…


Not Everything is your Fault

While I’m a strong advocate of taking responsibility for our results, as well as the law of attraction.  And let’s not forget the fact that  I’m more than convinced that we attract (unconsciously) most of what comes to us, we are not responsible for EVERYTHING that happens to us.

I don’t know if it’s because we entered the month of March, but I’ve done a lot of deep thinking this week.

The month of March has been really tough on me.

How tough?

– My father died on March 26.

– My mother died on March 31 (this past year)

– My 4 legged child. My lovely cat, Sophie, was diagnosed with cancer this past year, on March 6, just as I was lying in bed for a whole week with some type of flu that lasted the first 9 days of March.

So, I guess it’s only natural that this first week of March has been a bit difficult for me, emotionally.

But, you see, none of these were my fault.

I had no control over any of that.

If anything, each of these terrible events made me stronger, and even made me feel my strength through my grief.

But I can’t BE or FEEL responsible for any of that.

Because not everything that happens to me is my fault.

How does this apply to you?

Don’t feel that you are responsible for what happens to you all the time, consciously or subconsciously. 

Some things happen to you to make you stronger, and some things happen to others that you happen to be related to and love.  Thus it’s bound to touch you.

But whatever happens, happens to be their story, their life, their death, their moving on…

Not yours.

So, you need to remember that not everything is about you, and not everything is your fault in any way, shape or form.

At times people are going to act a certain way towards you, and you will have nothing to do with it. It could just be them.

At times, they may have the problem, not you.


Don’t Worry So Much

Don’t worry so much about what other people think, do or do not do.

It took me quite a while to learn that, but you can only be hurt by someone as much as you let them.

And by the way, I’m not just saying that. I’m an expert at it.

How expert?

Because I’ve been in a couple of very difficult relationships. The kind of relationships that if you didn’t dig your strength from the inside, you’d probably have to take drugs to ease the emotional pain. Or simply become totally nuts.

But I never did.

Because I believed in my inner strength.

Not only I have a strong personality, but I KNOW that I’m strong.

For one thing, as someone who believes in God, in a Higher Power, I just know that God wouldn’t have let all the things that I went through happened to me, if I wasn’t strong enough to take them.

Interestingly, my mom always used to say, “God doesn’t give you more than you can take.” I don’t know how far back this saying goes, but it ‘s definitely a true one.

I feel that if God let those things happened to me, it’s because I could take them. And not only that, but learn and grow from them too.

Now, today, I’m convinced that I attracted those type relationships because of some subconscious issues, but yet again, that doesn’t make me responsible for the way those people acted. The way they acted towards me was their problem, not mine.

What does this mean to you?

If you have had or still have a tendency to attract Mr or Mrs wrong, it’s not your fault.  No one is responsible for being treated poorly by their husband, wife or anyone else they may be living with.  You don’t need to feel that you are being punished in any way.


You are Attracting Some Situations by Default

When it comes to how people act and react towards us, beside the fact that some people will just be jerks no matter what, we tend to attract the type reactions that we “subconsciously expect.”

As I was saying earlier on this article, I have had two tremendous revelations about me lately from a clairvoyance session I went through (and make sure you don’t misunderstand the word “clairvoyance here).

While I’m not going to talk about any details on this today, I found out that I have been giving some of  my power and energy to other people around me who actually used that power against me.

For those who may be puzzled at this point, I need to tell you that I’m going through a serious emotional, spiritual and even financial shift in my life right now, and that’s why I’m getting some incredible information about me that are pure Aha moments for me.

I am going through some serious game changers. A total turn around.

And this revelation I’v got, was probably the MOST powerful piece of information I was given in my whole life.

I’ve meditated on it this whole week, and it simply changed my life. But I want to make sure you understand that I didn’t get to that point overnight. It took some spiritual and emotional growth to get here.

Now you’re wondering why I am so sure that God is on my side?

You bet he is. I have no doubt about that what-so-ever.

But the thing is that because of some subconscious programming that I’ve been carrying around my whole life, I caused (by default) some people to act a certain way towards me.

Even though it came from my own subconscious mind, my own energy and emotions, it wasn’t my fault.

What does this mean to you?

If you don’t get help, you may never find out why things and people seem to be the way they are around you.

If you are looking for someone to help you this way, I may just be that person.

If you want to learn more about that, why don’t you contact me for your 30 minute Free session?

In the meantime, you can leave your questions and comments below.


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4 Marvelous Places Where You Can Find Writing Ideas Mon, 02 Mar 2015 14:58:48 +0000 It’s hard to write outstanding content, week after week, isn’t it? Yes, I know. I mean, even if writing comes easy to you, it...

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4 Marvelous Places Where You Can Find Writing Ideas

It’s hard to write outstanding content, week after week, isn’t it?

Yes, I know.

I mean, even if writing comes easy to you, it doesn’t happen on its own. Does it?

– You have to make time.

– You have to be inspired in some way.

– You have to sit down and come up with at least 1,000 words for a blog post these days.

And writing something that makes sense is simply not enough. Your article has to be original, valuable, memorable, attractive, easy to understand… You name it.

That’s a rather demanding task, don’t you think?

That’s why writing blog posts week after week is not easy.

As a matter of fact, it’s challenging.

The blogger’s life is tough.


Don’t underestimate yourself. You are one of those people who needs to write all the time for their business.

You just don’t give yourself enough credit, like other type writers do. And maybe you’re not recognized enough for what you do.

But let me tell you.

What you’re doing week in and week out is not easy. Because writing occasionally is nothing, but writing all the time… it’s HARD.

But there is hope…


4 Marvelous Places to Find Writing Ideas?

This being said, let’s pretend for a moment, that you know about those 4 marvelous places where you can always find writing ideas.

What are they?

Well, they are the subject of this article today.

So, make sure you read and save it for later (just in case).

Did you think they were 4 physical places?

Well, sorry if I mislead you for a moment, but those places can be found anywhere you live, anywhere you go, and at any time of the day or night.

Those 4 places are ALWAYS available to you 27/7.

Because they are:

  • Your knowledge
  • Your memory
  • Your observation
  • Your imagination

So, let’s analyze them one by one carefully.


Your Knowledge

Knowledge can include two things.

  • Knowledge is what you already know about your field, your business, and other things. It’s your database.
  • Knowledge is what you learn when doing research.

Whether you are a college student, a business owner, or a stay at home mom, it doesn’t matter.

Your knowledge is huge.

Give yourself some credit.

But, where do you start using your knowledge to find writing ideas?


Take a notebook, and start writing a list of what you know.

It’s time to scrutinize your knowledge database, and without over thinking too much, just start writing down areas where you have knowledge.

It doesn’t have to be done in one day. Actually it shouldn’t. These thing takes time.

Keep that notebook handy at all time, and write down snippets about what you know as it comes to you.

You don’t have to be an expert in any of them.  Simply take notes of them as they come.

For example:

  • I’m not an expert in SEO, but I have some f knowledge about it.
  • I’m not an expert in child rearing, but I have some knowledge about it.
  • I’m not an expert in gardening, but I have some knowledge about it.

Do you see where I’m coming from here?

That’s why you need to keep this notebook handy and fill it up over the coming weeks, months and even years.

Don’t underestimate note taking of this sort, because more often than not such notes will be responsible for writing ideas. They can inspire you to write…

  • Complete articles
  • Introductions
  • Examples
  • Conclusions
  • Analogies.
  • Lessons
  • Illustrations…

… And more.

Your notes about knowledge will be handy to find ideas to write about.

Anytime you are facing with the blank page, wondering what to write this week, all you have to do is look into that precious notebook, and something is bound to spring from those notes and translate into an article that will be useful to your readers.

Then, it’s up to you to use your writing skills to turn your article into great content for your business.

 I write epic content for business owners

Your Memory

Now, I hear what you’re saying; isn’t my knowledge the same as my memory?

No, it isn’t.

Of course your knowledge is part of your memory, but your memory, in turn, may have nothing to do with knowledge.

It’s just memory.

  • It’s something you went through.
  • It’s experiences you had.
  • It’s stories of your life.

Good things, bad things, anything…


But what does memory have to do with writing, you may ask?

Well, a lot.

Memory can be used pretty much like knowledge.

You can use your memory to spark an article idea, or even a book idea.

Memory is one of the best friend of the writer, no matter what you write.

We have an amazing brain that stored everything since we were about 2 years old.

And if you know how to reach into your subconscious, you can even go before that, but I digress.

Let’s say you have an easy access to your memory that starts at 2-4 years of age. That’s some database right there, if you ask me.

Everything is in there…

  • What lesson you learned
  • What makes you feel good
  • What makes you feel bad
  • Experiences you could use for your topic at hand
  • What could support your point
  • What you could use to illustrate your subject
  • What you could use to spark your writing in any way, shape or form

Take that notebook and write down those “memory chunks” that will take you there any time you need it.

When you’re searching for writing ideas, read through your memory notes.

I use my memory database often, to come up with writing ideas.

Our memory database is a great helper, but it can only help if we use it.

The best way to use it, is to have it written down somewhere you can look into when you need it, because even though it’s in your head at all times, it may not be available, unless you SEE it at the time you need it.


Your Observation

You know what is the first thing they teach you in drama school?

Well, you might not have been in any drama class before, but I’ll tell you.

The first thing they teach you in drama school, which will serve you as THE BEST acting tool, ever, it’s to learn to observe.

And by the way, that includes your 5 senses.

  • What you see
  • What you hear
  • What you touch
  • What you smell
  • Even how and what you speak


If you become a good observer, you can actually improve your memory, and attention to details quite a bit. That’s why I have an excellent memory and a HUGE attention to detail skill.

Yes, observation will help you come up with marvelous ideas to write about. It will help you with prompts, introductions, topics, and so forth.

– You could be observing someone at the cash register in a store, and come up with ideas.

– You could be observing birds flying overhead, and come up with ideas.

– You could be observing how someone speaks, how something feels to the touch, and how it smells, and come up with ideas.

Not only for writing novels as you may be thinking, but useful for bloggers to write interesting, and original articles, just like your readers are asking for.

So, just as you did with your knowledge and memory bank, you could jot down whatever it is that you observe that is worthy of note taking.


 I write epic content for business owners

Your Imagination

Now, this one may be the hardest one for what we call left-brain people.

The reason for this is that if you are more of a “left-brain” person you tend to be more logical, orderly, analytical, and systematic, than if you are a “right-brain” person which tends to be more creative, imaginative, artistic and spontaneous.

Now, I’m not going to pretend, and if you know me a little bit, you probably guessed by now. I am more of a right-brain person.

So, here I’m talking more to the left-brain person.

One thing you need to remember is that while we, as individuals, tend to be more one or the other, we most definitely all have a FULL working  brain, (at least I hope) and we can, at any time, fetch from that other side of our brain that is less familiar to us.

One thing that you need to remember is that when you were a baby, a toddler, and even a small child, your right brain was way more active than your left brain. No matter how left-brain a person you are now.

So, if you are a left-brain person as an adult, you may want to relearn how to exercise your right brain more, with 3 easy exercises that will help you.


3 Exercises to Train the Creative Side (right side) of your Brain (your imagination)

1) Try to use your non-dominant hand as much as you can throughout the day

For example, comb your hair, brush your teeth, eat, do your cleaning, use the mouse of your computer, turn on the lights, jot down notes… with your non-dominant hand for a few minutes each day.

Try to do as many tasks as possible using your non-dominant hand for a while, and see what happens after a while.


2) Walk backward

Do this exercise once a day.

Make sure nothing is behind you, and walk backward for a minute or so.

Then if it’s safe, walk backward with your eyes close.

I do a lot of walking in parks, and I always try to find a safe place where I can walk backwards for 2-3 minutes.

This is an excellent exercise to train your right brain.


3)  Squatting

Now this is a fun little exercise that will help develop your right brain in my ways.

Align your feet about 20 inches apart.

Grab your left earlobe between your right thumb and right index finger.

Grab your right earlobe with your left thumb and left index finger.

Then bend your knees in a squat position, and stand back up.

While holding your earlobes with opposite hands, squat and stand, back and forth for 2-3 minutes.

Do this once a day for 3-5 minutes at the time.


I hope you enjoyed this article, but most of all, if you feel that you could use more great ideas to write about on a regular basis, take note of this and apply those tips.

If you take this seriously and really do this, you will come up with better and more original articles.

It’s your turn now. Let people know what you think about this in your comment below.


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Thank you to Don Purdum for inviting me to guest post on his blog.

Thank you to Andrew Warner to ask me to contribute to his blog post.

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Giving Back To 12 Inspiring Bloggers Fri, 27 Feb 2015 14:57:51 +0000 I was rewarded the Very Inspiring Bloggers Board award few weeks ago,  and since I’ve accepted it, it’s my turn to give back to 12 inspiring...

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12 Very Inspiring Blgogers

I was rewarded the Very Inspiring Bloggers Board award few weeks ago,  and since I’ve accepted it, it’s my turn to give back to 12 inspiring bloggers, and to tell you 7 things you (didn’t know) about me.

Don’t worry, you don’t have to accept his award. I won’t take it personally.

I wasn’t sure in which one of the three categories of my blog I should post this, but since yesterday I was without power for the better part of the day, I kind of got behind with my scheduled post.

So I thought that this was the perfect time to take my turn to spread this award that I received and give back.


It happens that Lorraine Reguly from Wording Well mentioned me as one of the bloggers who has inspired her.

As Lorraine said in her own awarding post, rewards may not mean much for seasoned bloggers, (but frankly, it should, as no one should think so much of themselves).

Rewards and recognition are ALWAYS good in my book.

So, I accepted that reward which meant that I had to follow the rules, and in turn, tell you the rules of this game.


If you accept this nomination, you are asked to follow the rules attached to the Very Inspiring Blogger Award wish are the following:

  • Thank the person who nominated you by linking to his/her blog.
  • Display the award logo somewhere in your acceptance post (right-click and save it to your computer, then upload it to your blog).
  • Reveal 7 things about yourself.
  • Pass on the award to others by nominating 12 people, linking to them within your post, and then notifying them about their nominations (which can be done through email, a blog comment, or social media).

By the way, since I’ve receive a similar award a two and half years ago, from Harleena Singh, so I’m going to mention different bloggers than I did then.

And since Lorraine mentioned my as a former actress, I thought that it would be fun to mention 7 things around that part of my life.


7 Things From Former Actress Sylviane Nuccio

  1. I was once in the arms of one of the most famous French actor (of his days and until now) If you’re not from a European country, you may not know his name, but if you are, I’m sure that  Jean-Paul Belmondo will be very familiar to you.
  2.  I was once in an elevator with Tom Cruise. It was in New York in 1994.
  3.  I was in the acting business for 9 years of my life. From 1986-1995. I was in several plays. I appeared in one movie, and did two commercials. The movie and commercials were  in Paris, France. The plays were in both in Paris and New York.
  4.  I’ve got to make up with a handful of handsome unknown actors for acting purposes.
  5.  I’ve worked with two very famous French actors, Michel Galabru and Bernadette Lafont, between the late 1980’s and early 1990’s.
  6.  I’ve worked with several less popular, yet known and working actors over my acting years. I still get to see them once in a while when I watch French movies.
  7. I belonged to an Off-Off bilingual Broadway theater in New York City in the early 1990’s.

There you have it. Some things I don’t really ever tell anyone these days.

Now I want to pass this award along to the following bloggers (and remember you don’t have to accept it).

My Dozen “New” Inspiring Bloggers

  • Don Purdum for being the inspiration behind my new site that I love so much, and the knowledgeable business man that he is.
  • Kumar Gauraw for helping creating this site for me, and being such a valuable helper.
  • Deborah Tautnauer for being such the knowledgeable and smart business woman that she is.
  • Neamat Tawadrous for her entrepreneurial spirit and growth in her business while giving great advice through her blog.
  • Andrew Warner for being the talented blogger that I’m so glad I met lately.
  • Jaime Buckley for being the wonderful and fun writer that he is.
  • Fabrizio Van Marciano for being another knowledgeable and great blogger I met lately.
  • Mi Muba for teaching us everything we need to know about blogging, and making money with it.
  • Kerry Kijewski for being an inspiring blind young blogger who is following all my posts.
  • Carol Amato for being the knowledgeable and smart business woman that she is.
  • Enstine Muki for being the smart network marketer that he is.
  • Maxwell Ivy for being the blind inspiring blogger and entrepreneur that he is.

There you have it!

I followed all the rules,  and awarded some great bloggers, which for some of them I met just this past year.

Hope you enjoyed and now comment.

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47 Facts About The Subconscious Mind You Need To Know Wed, 25 Feb 2015 15:11:34 +0000 A couple weeks ago, I was asked to participate in a special blog post at, where 26 experts (including me) were asked to...

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47 Facts About The Subconscious Mind

A couple weeks ago, I was asked to participate in a special blog post at, where 26 experts (including me) were asked to mention  3 things that most people don’t know about the subconscious mind.

The information that was gathered there is so rich , I feel that it’s a real  little encyclopedia of the subconscious mind explained.

That’s why I decided to write this post by naming and paraphrasing some of the main points shared by those 25 (26) experts.

If you want the full version check out the post

But for an overall view of each of those experts knowledge of the subconscious mind,  here they are for you.


Todd Wissler from Subconscious Programming

Says that subconscious mind thinks only in present time and doesn’t know or understand anything about past or future.

The subconscious mind makes no difference between what’s real and what’s imagined.

Unlike the conscious mind, the subconscious mind is illogical.


Thomas Miller from Subconscious Mind Mastery

Says that the subconscious mind stores all the data of our existence before we were born, and arguably if you so choose to believe, even from past lives.

That the subconscious mind is a gate keeper, a guardian, so to speak, that makes sure that everything works in order, such as our body functions.

And that the subconscious mind connects with infinity, with the divine. It’s part of our soul.


Fay Thompson from

Says that our whole history from every life time is in our subconscious mind.

That the subconscious mind does not contain the truth, but our version of the truth, such as limitations and beliefs which are not necessarily true, but true to our subconscious mind.

She goes on to say that the subconscious mind will always gravitate to what it knows.

The unknown is scary for the subconscious mind, even if the unknown is best for us.  Just has I did myself, she takes the battered woman syndrome. That’s why a woman who has been abused will most likely get into another relationship of abuse, because that’s what her subconscious knows.


Michael Craig from Logical Soul

Says that according to Huna, the subconscious mind is like a whole different being inside us, able to communicate with the High Self.

That the Subconscious mind obeys old survival directives.

And according to him it’s pretty much impossible to reprogram the subconscious mind. He is the only expert on this list who thinks that the subconscious mind can’t be re-progrmmed.


Keya Murthy from

Says that the subconscious mind is our gateway to higher consciousness, and the more we work on our subconscious behavior strategies, the better our flow will be in life.


Ben Austin from

Says that you can communicate with your subconscious mind, and if used appropriately you can develop what he quoted from Maxwell Maltz “Automatic Success Mechanism.”


Don Barnhart from

Says that the subconscious mind is always open for business, constantly working in the background, while we don’t even know it.

He says that our subconscious mind can be programmed, so we can live the life that we want, but that unfortunately, it’s not what most people do.


David Michie from David

Says that muscular testing is one way to discover if you whether or not your subconscious mind is on board with your conscious wishes.

He talked about hypnotherapy as being one of the best tools to get rid of phobias which usually come from the subconscious mind.


Tony Fahkry from

Says that most of our beliefs and thoughts about the world were formed during the age of 2 and 7 when most of our learning was subconscious.

Something very similar to what I said myself.


Alex Webley from

Says that the subconscious mind is the most important part of our mind, but neglected by most people. He added that it’s where our fundamental issues reside.


Carl Ramallo from Attraction Marketing Biz

Says that the subconscious mind makes connections in our thoughts when we sleep, and controls our habits.


Peter shepherd from

Says that the subconscious mind is where intuition and inner knowledge come from.

Where the incarnated spirit connects with its soul/higher self.


George Papada from

Says that the subconscious mind can reveal to us anything we need to know.

That it’s what connects us with Universal Intelligence.

And that from the moment the subconscious mind accepts something it begins to set it in application. Thus the need to watch what we think, and believe.


Dr. Robert Newton from

Says that the subconscious mind is responsible for 95% of our behavior and decisions and that it can scan information at lighting speed.


Steve Genco from Intuitive Consumer

Says that while we usually argue decisions consciously, very seldom we use conscious thinking to make them.


Harry W Carpenter from The Genie Within

Says that most of our habits from eating practices to temper tantrums come for a childhood subconscious programming.

Then he goes on to say that most of our decisions come from the subconscious mind.

And that many people do not like to think that they have two minds, because it’s hard for them to understand such concept, having one mind that they do not control and comprehend.

He reminds us that while the conscious has the will, the subconscious has the power. Millions times over.


John Burr from Coaching and Leadership

Says that the subconscious mind can only direct our life in accordance with the way it was programmed.


Ivan Staroversky from

Says that while we think that our decisions are conscious, they are first made unconsciously. The reason we don’t know that is because of that. It’s unconscious.


Rachel Rofe from

Says that repetition is very important for the programming of our subconscious mind.


Martin Rafe from

Explains how the subconscious mind is our guide, our intuition and our protector, and that we could tap more into it, if we only took the time to learn more about it.


Farouk Raduann from

Explains how the subconscious mind can distort what we see and perceive, as per our subconscious programming. He explains how our mind sees before our eyes, especially when fear is involved.


Karien De Bryn from NLP Life Coach Karien

Says that the subconscious mind cannot process negatives at all. If I tell you don’t think of a pink balloon, what do you see?  She adds that it’s totally possible to program our subconscious. What we put in is what we get out.


Wes Bertrand and Kevin Koskella from Healthy Mind Fit Body

Say that it’s crucial that we explore the facets or our early subconscious programming, so we are not disconnected from our true self, but able to understand our behaviors better.


Katy Tremblay from Personal Transformation Starts Here

Says that unless one is trying to learn about their conscious versus their subconscious, the latter will remain a mystery. Many people are totally unware of the subconscious part of their mind.

She went on to say that the subconscious mind is the creative medium which all results spring from.

The conscious acts as the gardener who choose what seed to plant and nurture while the miracle (the subconscious mind) happens under the earth making the seed grow into a plant with the proper nutrients and water that the gardener (the conscious) is giving it.

And that gardener (the conscious) doesn’t need to understand anything about how the plant will come about (how the subconscious will make things happen).


Colin Robertson from Will Powered

Says that one of the best ways to consciously program the subconscious mind is through visualization which is used mainly by athletes.

But he reminds us that we can all do it too, to influence our results.


I hope that you enjoyed these 47 facts from subconscious mind experts. Let us know what you think down below!

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How To Convey The Voice Of Your Brand Mon, 23 Feb 2015 13:01:31 +0000 Are you a business owner? Were you told that you need to have a blog to promote your business? If yes, you were told correctly....

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How To Convey The Voice Of Your Brand

Are you a business owner?

Were you told that you need to have a blog to promote your business?

If yes, you were told correctly.

If you don’t have a blog promoting your business and your brand, today, you are missing out on many potential customers.


But for the sake of the topic at hand here, let’s say that you are well aware of the fact that you should have a blog linked to your business, but you’re not quite sure how to convey the voice of your brand with your writing.

What do you do?

If you would like to find out, I invite you to read this whole article, and you will have a much clearer idea about how it’s done.

If not, you can always contact me with your questions.

If you feel that you don’t have the writing skill, or the time to write the type of content that would help you gain more targeted customers, I’m here to tell you that’s not the end of the world. There are other methods that many business owners are using right now.

For example, they hire someone to write for them.

I can help you promote your writing with epic content

But in the meantime, let me give you some advice about creating content to conveys the voice of your brand, so you’ll be able to spread your reach and attract more customers.


Your Content is a Means to an End

The first thing that you need to keep in mind is that the content of your blog is a means to an end, not the end.

You are using your content to inform and educate your potential customers in such a way that they will get to know about you, about your business, and about how you do business.

The content that you will write for your blog will become that bridge between you and them.

The craftier your content will be, the more potential clients you will be able to attract to your business.

This actually has a name. It’s called content marketing.

If done well, it’s very powerful. But if done wrong, it will simply go nowhere.

That’s why it’s very important that you understand from the get go, that your content is a means to an end, and not the end.


What Does this Mean Exactly?

It means that through your valuable information you will be able to promote what you do, and what your business is about.

Through the content that you’ll deliver on a regular basis, you will start building connections, not only with potential clients or customers, but also with other business owners who own businesses that are not in direct competition with yours, but rather complementing yours.

For example, you are a dentist and you want to start a blog to build trust with your potential clients.  You may want to let them know of all the modern technology and options that are available to them nowadays.

You also want to educate them on the pain less treatments that you have, and maybe also about your payment plans that work with any type budgets, and so on.

If you were a dentist creating valuable content to voice your brand, you wouldn’t want promoting and share your blog ONLY to your target audience, but you should also try connecting and sharing your content with periodontists, orthodontists, endodontists, or prosthodontist.

While those specialists are in your fields, they are not your competitors.

Then you could go one step further.

You could connect with generalists, and other type of doctors as well.

All such connections could lead to potential clients for you. And you could lead to potential clients for them.

That’s called smart networking. And this can be done with any type of brand and businesses.

But it works only if you have a solid content base.

It’s practically impossible to do if you have no valuable information to share in the first place. The best way to share value online is through well-crafted content.

What Makes a Well Crafted Blog Post?

A well crafted blog post is made up of several different elements, that we are going to analyze one by one in this article.


1 – Your Blog Post Needs to be Online Reading Proof

What does this mean?

It means that if you were to write a blog post the same way you would write an essay or even a letter, you would have a very hard time getting readers interested in your online article.

A typical effective blog post should have the following:

  • Short sentences
  • Short paragraphs
  • Breaking grammar rules that don’t work on blogs
  • Start sentences with words such as; and, or, because, and but
  • Use the pronoun “you”
  • Be about your potential customer
  • Written in a conversational style

Try to remember these basic blog writing rules when you write for online readers.  If you do you, will attract more and more readers over time.

It’s very important that you understand those online writing rules, because they make a huge difference to the reader.  If your writing style is not inviting, they simply won’t read your content.


2 – Use Emotional Words

If you are to write online, you need to know that emotional words work, and make people take action.

However, they don’t make up for bad writing. You should ALWAYS remember that.

Here are some examples of emotional words…

It’s one thing to say, “this is good writing,” and it’s another to say “this is dazzling writing.”

It’s one thing to say, “I’m OK,” and it’s another to say, “I feel fantastic.”

It’s one thing to say, “he was happy,” and it’s another to say, “he was thrilled.”

Which words feel more powerful to you?

Which words trigger your emotions most?

You tell me.

Even though it may seem simple, knowing how to use emotion-trigger words is an art.  That’s why some companies pay copywriters thousands of dollars to write sales copy that convert.

Because they understand that it’s worth the money to pay two or three thousand dollars to write a professional sales copy that will bring them hundreds of thousands dollars (maybe millions), than write their own bad copy that will bring them not much at all.

Now, let me tell you a secret.  Those copywriters are not reinventing the English language, but they know what emotional words to use and where.

That’s what good copy is all about.

However, you don’t have to be a top copywriter to write great content.  Speaking from the heart and some good practice can do miracles.

And we’re not talking about sales copy either, but blog articles.

So don’t feel that you have to know all the tricks of a copywriter either. Just learn to use power words whenever possible and you’ll be fine.

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 3 – Be Creative

Writing blog posts week after week to promote your brand and your business the correct way is not always easy.

It’s a simple concept, but it’s not easy, that’s why many companies hire writers to take care of that part of their business, so they can concentrate on what they do best.

If you do decide to take on the blogging and writing side of your business, you should write down any ideas that come to mind as they come.

The best way to do this is to have a note pad or a recorder with you at all time, so you could take notes or your ideas as soon as they come to mind.

Then the way you present your ideas can also be written in different formats such as:

  • How to articles
  • Interviews
  • Roundups
  • Reviews
  • Personal stories related to business
  • Informational and educational articles

And whatever ever else you may see fit.

There are many different ways to keep a valuable content blog that your potential clients and customers will benefit from, and even become in expectation of, but you will need to put your creative hat on.

You need to learn how to convey your brand with insightful content.


4 – Remember to Use Basic SEO

You do not need to be an expert in SEO to write content on your blog, but you should know some basic SEO tactics, so your articles will be search engines friendly and easy to be found by your potential customers.

Here are some basic SEO tips to keep in mind:

  • Use your keywords in the URL of your blog post
  • Use your keywords in your title/headline
  • You’re your keywords within the first 100-150 words of your article
  • Use related keywords naturally within your content
  • Link the images of your post to your keywords
  • Link to authority sites when appropriate

These are just basic SEO tips.  If you feel up to it, you can search for more information about this topic online.


5 – Post Regularly

Once you start your blog, posting articles regularly is key.

Nothing will confuse people and turn them off more, than posting sporadically any day of the week, when you feel like it, or when you have time for it.

This is another reason why may companies hire writers.  This way they can rest assured that their content will fall on their laps on time each week. Like a clock.

There is no right or wrong, as far as how often you should post, but the ideal is 1 to 3 times a week.

If you post once a week, that’s perfectly fine, but you need to pick a day and stick to it.

If for any reason you had to change that day at some point, you should announce it to your audience, so your readers would know what to expect.


6 – Hire Someone

There you have it!

The basic MUST DOS of blogging for business owners who want to promote and voice their brand, so they can expand their reach far and wide.

But if you feel overwhelmed and would rather have someone else do all the work for you, you can contact me, and I’ll be happy to help you with your writing, and take that weight off of  your shoulders.

Please, leave your comments or questions in the commenting section below!


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France Sixth Country That Likes My Blog! Fri, 20 Feb 2015 13:39:24 +0000 I know. I usually I don’t post this type of topics on this section of my blog. But this happens to my my 500th...

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France Sixth Country That Likes My Blog

I know.

I usually I don’t post this type of topics on this section of my blog.

But this happens to my my 500th post on my blog.  So, I feel that this topic actually fits the occasion.


You know, I wasn’t too much of a fan of Google Analytics before.

Actually I’ve never been a fan of any analytics, even though I’ve always known they are important when you have an online business.

But as my mom used to say, only stupid people never change their mind.

And I sure changed mine about analytics.

I love it now.  And I use it more and more.

Better start loving something that you need to work with on a daily or weekly basis, right?

So, now I check that darn Google Analytics often.

And what do I discover?


France is Number 6 on my Google Analytics

The other day, as I was looking at my blog traffic, I realized that my blog is not seen only here in the US, or even Canada, the UK and India.

Actually, my blog has being landed on in over 100 countries around the world during the last 30 days, according to my analytics.

Truth be told, I was pretty much ignorant to the fact until very recently, but I thought that was pretty cool.

The place I did make a special stop to investigate further, though, was France, of course.

France is the 6th country out of 100+ where my blog has received some kind of traffic.

Now does this has anything to do with the fact that I blog a lot about France, French food, and other French culture related topics?

It most definitely does.  I’m sure.

See the analytics map below (the very tiny dots are the small towns that I didn’t mention) where my blog has been landed on.

As you can see, pretty much all over the country, north, south, east and west.


France sixth country that likes my blog


Investigating Further

When you click countries, in your Google Analytics, it gives you the list of all the countries you are getting traffic from.  The most traffic on top and least traffic at the bottom.

Then, if you want to investigate further, you can click on each specific country.

Once you click on a specific country, Google Analytics will break it down into regions.

Here are the main regions where people land on my blog in France.

France 6th Country Reading My Blog

Once you click on a specific region, you’re able to see each specific city or town. When you click on the map (as seen above) you’re able to see where they are located in the country.

Google Analytics will tell you exactly how many visitors you had in each city or town during the last month, along with all the page views, sessions, bounce rates, behaviors, and other data you can look deep into.

As far as I can see, my home page is the number one page seen in France.

The reason for that may be that some people that I know are looking for me by name, but I certainly don’t know people on all those regions, so that remain a mystery to me.

But besides my home page, the favorite posts of the French during the last 30 days has been…

1)  La Chandeleur (crepes day)

2) Five Most Favorite French Desserts

3) 5 Reasons Why You’re Not Ready To Move Overseas (a very recent post).

Two pages that are seen more than I thought, are my about page and my contact/hire me page.


Then, I thought to myself, how so many French folks even come to a site that’s all in English?

But of course, they use the translation tool!

I went to Google FR. page which looks like this:

France sixth country that like my blog


Then let’s say they find me somehow on results and they see this result below.

Rather than clicking directly on the link, they can click where it says “translate this page” …


France 6th country that like my site

And then, here is what they see… My page translated all in French.

Now, you’ve got to remember that’s a Google Translation – not a human translation- so it’s got its hiccups, for sure, but it’s good enough for some to to understand what the content they are reading is about.

Very cool, indeed!

France sixth country that likes my blog



Deep Down Small Little French Towns

One of the regions that intrigued me right away and wanted to investigate further was the region I grew up in, the Rhone-Alpes region.

When I clicked on it, Google Analytics broke it down into cities and even small towns.

There I found out that, not surprisingly, the top traffic came from Lyon. Not because it’s the city I was born in, but more so because it’s the second largest city of the country.

But besides the capital of the region, I discovered several much smaller towns.

And what do I see?

An ever so familiar name of a town called Saint-Genis-Laval.

France Sixth Country That Likes My Blog

Saint-Genis-Laval, France

Saint-Genis-Laval is a busy little town located less than 10 miles from Lyon, and the town where some of my family members live.

That’s how I found out that at least one my family members have to have been on my blog.


Because when I saw that there were 2 visitors in the particular town of St-Genis-Laval, I can’t think of anyone else.


My guess is that they Googled my name and there I was. (Because my first and last names together are pretty unique I can be found easily).

How cool is it that they landed on my blog?

Very cool, if you ask me.

If they only knew that I know!

I tell you, the miracles of modern technology.

Yes, miracles.

You know when I used to go at my uncle’s house in Saint-Genis-Laval, France as a child and a teenager, if someone had told me, well, one day you will have a blog in the United States, and from over there, you will be able to see that your uncle has been on your blog , from his kitchen table right here in small town Saint-Genis-Laval.

I would have said, no way! Right!

Yet, again that’s what happened!

Very cool, indeed.

If you have a website, or a blog, are you looking into who’s investigating you?

I’ll tell you, it’s a lot of fun!

I hope you enjoyed my little special France/Google Analytics trip here.  A different kind of travel, which happens to celebrate my 500th post.

Let me know what you think below.

Your comments are always appreciated!

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Why You Will Always Be A Work In Progress Wed, 18 Feb 2015 13:11:52 +0000   I will have special guests on the personal development section of the blog throughout the year. I know it would be hard not...

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you will always be a work in progress


I will have special guests on the personal development section of the blog throughout the year.

I know it would be hard not to guess who is my first guest here today!

I’ve known Adrienne longer than most of you here, and I have been a guest at her blog over 2 years ago. However, she’s never been a guest on mine until today.

That’s why I’m so thrilled to have her!

As you may know by now, I create a special quote for each of my guests, and  here is my quote for Adrienne.

Take a lively hard working lady with a good heart, as well as a huge love for life and for people, and you get Adrienne Smith!”


For those that don’t know me, my name is Adrienne Smith and Sylviane and I have known each other for a little over three years now.

I blog over at and my area of expertise happens to be showing bloggers how to build their blogs one relationship at a time.

So why you might ask has Sylviane invited me to write a guest post for her here in her personal development category instead of blogging!

Probably because she knows how passionate I am about this subject and how hard I continue to work on myself each and every day.

Don’t we all?


What I Know For Sure

We are all and always will be a work in progress.

Granted, you might have reached a time in your life where you think you have it all.  Maybe you have the life you’ve always wanted right now or you’re pretty darn content.

You’ve got the great family, doing work you love, you have a gorgeous house, cool cars and you get to travel to exotic locations often.  That’s what I would say is a pretty great life!

Are we ever guaranteed anything in life though?

Work changes though, some for the good and some not so much.  For instance the economy can take a turn for the worst and the next thing you know what you were doing is no longer possible, at least for a time being.  Or you find that you’re at a crossroads and it’s time for a change.

We hope to always have our loving family but we also know that life happens and sometimes we lose our loved ones way before their time.

Maybe the circumstances call for you to downsize that nice house of yours or trade in the fancy cars.  The vacations get put on hold due to budget cuts or they just aren’t logical right now.

Life happens, it’s inevitable.

Should you always wait for the shoe to drop though?

Heck no!

I’m not trying to be “Miss Down and Out” here by any means.  I personally STILL have a pretty cool life considering everything that’s happened in mine.

I own a one bedroom condo, 23 years this April, which is just the perfect size.  It’s getting a new face lift as we speak by the way.  Yay!!!

I once owned the cool sports car but I’ve been over that faze for quite some time now.  My current vehicle will be 16 years old next month but it’s all mine.  It still runs like a champ, it’s very reliable and gets me everywhere I need to go.

I may not have the awesome family with a loving husband and fabulous kids but I do have a four legged daughter whom I love with all my heart.  I also have two nieces and two nephews who are the light of my life, a brother, a sister, a sister-in-law and my awesome 89 year old Mom who we moved right next door to me a few years back.  I’m the caretaker of the family in case you’re wondering.

I can honestly say the worst thing that has happened to me is losing loved ones.  That one definitely hurts the most.  Everything else doesn’t even compare.

At times life can throw you a curve ball but that’s just part of life right!


Are You Where You Want To Be?

I’m still a work in progress.

Sylviane is still a work in progress.

You are still a work in progress.

Is that a good or a bad thing?

Personally, I think that’s a fabulous thing and you want to know why?

Because you care enough about yourself to continue improving, never giving up until you have everything you’ve ever wanted in life.

Is that possible to achieve?

Well heck yeah it is.

If you’ve been a reader of Sylviane’s for any length of time then perhaps you read her post last year when she shared with her readers that she was now a certified life coach.

Guess who she used as a test subject in order to complete that final phase?

Little old me and I loved it.  When she asked me if I would do this for her I jumped on it and you want to know why?

Free coaching of course, who wouldn’t want to do that right!

She had me write out my own personal mission statement based on answers to questions she had asked me.  Although I’ve tweaked it numerous times now I still read it religiously every single morning before I start my day.

Want to know why I continue to tweak it?

Because some of what I had on my list has already happened so it needed to be revised.

That’s the coolest thing about continuing to work on you.  The things you want to happen in your life will come slowly when you’re ready.

Some of what I have on my list is still way out of my reach though and I’m not exactly sure why.

I do the work, I know what my issues have been but I still fall short in getting to where I want to be.

Does that sound familiar to you at all?  Have you been there yourself?

The funny thing is that I’ve worked with two life coaches now yet I’m still not where I want to be in one major area.

Want to know what I’m doing about that?

I’ve signed up to work with another coach.

See, I’m still a work in progress.  I’ve done really well in certain parts of my life but I fall short in others.

What a coach can do for you is help you dig down deep to figure out why.  Even though I know what the issue is I still can’t seem to resolve it.

Sylviane mentioned in a recent post that she too had hired a life coach to help her move forward in certain areas of her life.  See she’s still a work in progress and through her continuing to improve herself, she can continue to help us.

What a life coach can do is help us figure that out what those underlying issues really are.

I’ll go ahead and share with you exactly what my issue is and perhaps you can relate.

Like a lot of people, my issue continues to revolve around money.  I KNOW where it stems from, my parents.  I’m aware of it but I also thought I had dealt with it because I am aware.


Resolving Those Underlying Issues

Because I consider myself to be an open book, here is what I continue to deal with and maybe you can relate.

I LOVE my Mom but she grew up in the depression and lived a very hard life for a good number of years.

She penny pinched her entire life and saved everything.  Because of that she’s got a LOT of money.  She’ll still to this day say she can’t afford something.  Her issue is she doesn’t want to spend the money.  She thinks everything is overpriced and I mean everything.

Although I do not share my finances with my mother she continues to lecture me pretty much on a weekly basis about finances.  It’s who she is, she’ll never stop and it’s annoying as hell.

If I purchase one thing that she either thinks I shouldn’t have bought or she thinks I didn’t need, I’ll hear it for weeks.

I LOVE my mother but that ends up being one more issue I have to deal with regarding money.

My entire life I heard the phrases, “money doesn’t grow on trees” or “we can’t afford that”.  In all honesty we probably couldn’t afford it with my Dad’s salary but my Mom always made it work and I never felt that I had to go without.

So I’ve dealt with these issues and I know what they are.  I do feel I’m worthy and I don’t have my Mom’s money issues.  Yet here they are, still holding me back from obtaining the financial security I KNOW I deserve.

I’ve followed in her footsteps and am VERY budget conscious as well.  I rarely spend money on myself and purchase elaborate things.  I’m just not big on material things, relationships are far more important to me than that.

But something keeps holding me back from moving forward and I have to resolve these issues once and for all.

That’s what a coach can help us figure out and teach us how to deal with.

I’m aware of the issues, I’ve been taught some ways to deal with them, I thought I was doing great but obviously something is still standing in the way.  Something continues to keep me from being where I want so badly to be.

A coach is that sounding board, that person to discuss things with; the one that can pinpoint issues you didn’t know you had.  The hidden issues that are there yet you don’t know they are, it’s that kind of help that at one time or another we all need.


Coaches Need Coaches

If you’re into personal development then you’ve definitely heard of Dr. Joe Vitale right!

I was listening to one of his talks just last week and he stated that he still has life coaches today, even after all his successes.

Want to know why?

He mentioned that with each new project he undertakes, it’s hard at times to counsel himself and Sylviane used the perfect example in her post.  It’s like a dentist needing a root canal; he can’t give it to himself.

We all have things crop up in our lives as we become more successful, have more money, move into new business ventures or perhaps form new relationships.  At times we all need a little assistance understanding possibly why we aren’t moving forward or if we’re having issues in that area or we just want to be crystal clear on some things.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help because we are all still a work in progress.

I personally believe it’s just part of life, what drives us, what keeps us going.  Being able to admit it, act on it and do something about it, those are the people who will continue to achieve what they desire in their lives.


You Are A Work In Progress

Can you see why we are all still a work in progress?

Sylviane has helped me in areas I didn’t realize I needed help in.  Can you imagine working with a coach when you know what your issues are!

In my brain at times I think I’m doing okay but then a coach will ask the right questions and all of a sudden it’s like the lightbulb just went off.  Once you recognize it then you can do something about it.

It’s those eager to take action who will continue to excel in life.  I sure hope you’re one of those people.


We Appreciate You

Thank you for reading this post and we would love to hear your thoughts on this topic.

As we continue to move into this new year and into another month, are you heading in the right direction?

Do you have issues you believe might need some work?

Are you where you want to be in life or do you feel you will be able to accomplish everything you have set for yourself on your own?

Not that Sylviane needs a plug of course but trust me when I say she can definitely help you in these areas.

Love to hear your thoughts in the comment section and please do be sure to share this post with your friends.  Sometimes its hearing how other people have coped that can spark something within someone who may need that advice today.  Maybe this will be that post.

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Should You Have A Pop-up Opting Form On Your Blog? Mon, 16 Feb 2015 13:00:38 +0000   What’s your opinion about pop-up opting forms? Do you have one? It seems that many people do, that’s why I wanted to discuss...

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What’s your opinion about pop-up opting forms?

Do you have one?

It seems that many people do, that’s why I wanted to discuss pop-up opting forms today, as you may have noticed, I have inserted one on my blog after doing some research on the subject.

It’s very interesting that when I did my research about whether or not I should have a pop-up on my site, the first two articles that I read were completely opposite.

But what’s even more interesting is that both were from successful marketers.

One was saying that it was the worst mistake you could ever make, while the other was saying that you would be making a huge mistake if you didn’t have a pop-up.


Who can we Believe?

The article  I read that against pop-ups was from a guest on Copybloggers, her name Beth Hayden. Even though I do not know here, I understand that she’s a rather successful online marketer. But what’s really interesting is that when I click on her link at the bottom of her article all I got was an opting page.

Hum, I had to scratch my head here a little.

The other article that I read pro pop-ups was from Dereck Halpern from Social Triggers.

It’s interesting that both of those guys have been featured on magazines such as Forbes and Entrepreneurs and both are very successful entrepreneurs, while having an opposite view about pop-ups.

So, let’s analyze what each one is saying about pop-ups and later I will give my two cent on that as well.


#1 Negative Opinion about Pop-Ups

In her article, Beth Hayden says that pop-ups do work, because they are hard not to notice, and whomever insert a pop-up on their site will see their list grow automatically.

But then, she goes on to say that pop-ups really push people’s buttons, because it’s so annoying, and can actually drive people away from your site.

She also says that besides annoying, some pop-ups that don’t work properly can even actually get in the way of the site working properly.

Then again, she adds that while her list grew while having a pop-up, she actually started receiving emails from people complaining about her ad, and even hate mails.

OK, before we get back on those points, let see another opinion.


#2 Positive Opinion about Pop-Ups

On the other end, Derek Halpern is very direct, and in his video he says this: “If you don’t use pop-ups you’re an idiot”.

Then he goes on to say that people who just leave your site because of a pop-up don’t deserve to be on your site.


Because, he says that’s a very bad attitude to have anyway, and you wouldn’t want people like that on your list, with or without a pop-up.

He also says that if you have good and valuable information, people won’t be deterred by a simple pop-up between them and the valuable information they know they’ll be getting on your site.

He also explains how people are totally blind to side bar and bottom opting forms and some of them would simply never sign up to your giveaway because of this.

He knows that all too well because he says that some people keep asking him how they can get into his email list, while he has several forms on his blog where they can do just that.

The problem is that they can’t seem to be able to see them.

When you don’t have a pop up, most people won’t pay attention to you opt-in form, because they are too focus on your content to notice anything else.

It’s called focus blindness.


Who’s Right and who’s Wrong?

How do you define who’s right and who’s wrong here?

Well, in order to make my own decision, I had to choose.

Now it doesn’t mean that I’m right, but here is what I think…


Opting Form Blindness

Now, is there such thing as opt-in form blindness as Dereck mentions?

You bet there is.

That I can tell you from my own experience, because I’ve got the same type emails as Dreck has.

Do you see my opt-in form on the side bar?

Well, some people haven’t and told me things like “you should have an opt-in form!”

Oh, really?

Last time I checked, I did!

So, let’s say you have 100 people coming to your blog, but only 20 do actually see that you have an opting form, while maybe 50 would love to be on your mailing list…

Well, you’ve just lost 30 potential subscribers.

Now, I may just be throwing numbers here, but this is pretty much what happens with focus blindness.

It’s just a fact.  Some people, even some of those who would love to sign up, won’t see your opt-in form.


Are Pop-ups Annoying?

Sure, pop-ups may be annoying to some extent, but all you have to do, if you don’t want to sign up, is check that that x on the top right hand corner, and it will go away.

Just make sure your pop-up is set wisely.

  • Make sure you allow visitors to close the pop-up. Because if they can’t close it, then it may really annoy the heck out of them.
  • Consider how many times you want them to see the pop up.

I know of sites that will show me their pop-ups every few minutes or everything time I click on another page.

Now that may be a bit too much, but if you set up your pop up like once a day for each individual that will visit you blog I think that’s fine.

The reasons why you do want your pop-up reappear for the same person is that they (like myself) may want to opt-in later. So you need to give them that choice.

Just keep in mind that pop-ups, like many other things in life, are best in moderation, and could become bad if you don’t use your common sense.


Will a Pop-up Keep your Visitors Away?

As Dereck Halpern says, if your content is onlyt second rate and you do have a pop-up, people may close that pop-up and just move on to someone who offers the same value and doesn’t have a pop-up.

However, if your content is valuable they will simply close the pop-up and won’t care.

I can tell you that many of the blogs that I visit regularly do have pop-ups.

Do I care?


So, based on my own experience with pop-up as a reader, I have to agree with Dereck. If I’m interested in reading their information, I just close the pop-up and proceed to read.

And if I am interested in what they have, it’s a perfect way to remind me about what they offer.

Now, I had to ask question;  should “I” have a pop-up?

Is my blog good enough?

Well, I certainly hope so, but just this past week I caught those two tweets…

Should You Have Pop Ups On Your Blog


This person her I don’t even know…

Should you have pop ups on your blog

OK, a great blogger to follow, and someone people should check out. Maybe I don’t suck to much.

I’ll take that. Thanks guys.


Enough Drama Already!

I have read blog posts on the subject of pop-ups with some dramatic comments.

One such comment was comparing a simple pop-up that you can actually shut off at a click of mouse to someone trying to sale you soap in the aisles of a Walmart store.

Really, are you going to compare a simple pop-up on a site to someone forcing you some soap in the aisles of a store?

As for me,  I’ll take the pop ups, even over the scout girls asking me if I want to buy them cookies when I exit the Walmart store, because I don’t like cookies (yes, I know it’s weird), but that’s why I really don’t need to buy any cookies.

Yet, again, even though I feel bad saying no all the time, does that make me not ever want go back to that store?

No it doesn’t.

Heck, I could give them the money and tell them to keep the cookies. Or, yet again I could just give the cookies to someone.

But seriously here, would I rather deal with a pop up on a site that I enjoy visiting than any of that?

You bet I would.

Then, someone else took the lame excuse (in their comment) that at a time where people access our sites on mobile devices, pop-ups are a bad idea.

Really? If you’re using quality pop-ups, my guess is that you’ll be fine.

My pop-up works perfectly on both my tablet and on my phone.

What about those Hate Mails?

Now, truly, do you want to have any kind of relationship, what-so-ever, with anyone sending anything hateful?

I didn’t think so.

Well, me neither.

Anyone sick enough to send hateful emails doesn’t deserve to be on your list.

And as Dreck says it, anyone complaining doesn’t deserve to be on your blog. Let them get away from you as much and as far as possible.

As for Beth Hayden, does she get less hate mails by linking to an opting form page rather than a blog with an opting pop-up?

That’s a question I’ve got to ask myself!


Focus on the Positive

Now the coach in me, can’t help it, when I read those dramatic theories, this is what I want to tell those people.

  • If you get hate mail. Don’t be so bugged down by it. Nobody worthwhile would send you hate mails. Period. Ignore them. Or give them a good psychiatric clinic address.
  • If pop-ups were that bad for so many people, there wouldn’t be many more people like Dereck Halpern collecting hundreds of thousands of subscribers, and growing their list every single day with pop-ups.
  • There are things that annoy me way more than a pop-ups on blog, such as my comments being ignored, or colored backgrounds or even long paragraphs, and ads all over the place. To me these are way more annoying than pop-ups because I can’t fix them with a click of the mouth,.

Bottom line, yes pop-ups that are not well managed can be annoying, and if the site is not worth the annoyance of the pop-up then move on to something else.

However, if your pop-up is respectful of your visitors, like I think mine is, I don’t’ think it will prevent people from coming to your site and benefit from the valuable content that you’re spending time to create and deliver.

So, what do you think about all that?

What’s your idea about pop-up?

Do tell…


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Thanks you so much to Lorraine Reguly for mentioning me as on of her inspiring blogger on her list.

Thank you to LoneMind for including in their list of experts about the subconscious mind.

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French Social Rules Don’t Be Awkward Fri, 13 Feb 2015 16:54:50 +0000 I have noticed that people love to read articles about differences in cultures, because cultures are something that amazes us as humans. At least...

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French Social Rules Don't Be Awkward

I have noticed that people love to read articles about differences in cultures, because cultures are something that amazes us as humans. At least some of us.

I’ve written several articles in the past about differences between cultures, especially between France and the US, but there are differences in cultures even within the countries of Europe.

For example, usually when British people are portrayed in French movies, they are portrayed as rather stiff people, a bit standoffish and at times downright old fashion. And most of all eating weird food that French front upon.

Usually, when German people are portrayed, they are shown as tough people with one track mine, focused, and often very smart too.

When Italians are portrayed they are usually lay back, big talkers, womanizers (for the guys), and a bit dishonest.

When French are portraying, they usually lay back, artistic, rather smart, but also lazy.

Now is there at least a bit of truth in all of that?

You bet there is.

There’s always some truth to those things, but the danger would be to make a bit of truth as a big generality.

It’s never that simple.


The Culture of a People is often Heard in the Language

That’s why I love languages, and that why I feel that everyone should learn at least one foreign language in their lifetime.

One thing that I have observed for years, is that if you listen to a language (even if you don’t understand that language, as a matter of fact) you can hear some of that culture even by the way it sounds.

Have you ever heard German? French? Italian? Or English spoken by British people?

How do they sound to you?

Well, even though I may have an advantage here because I understand more than one of those languages, let me tell you that those languages alone can tell you a lot about the culture of the people speaking them.

That’s why learning a language is much more than just learning how to say words in a foreign tongue. It’s really getting into the people’s head speaking it.

How many times did I watch a movie in English or French and thought about those ugly dubbing jobs. How in the world can they even do that at all? It beats me, because there are some things that simply can’t fit any translation what-so-ever.

OK, after that long introduction are you ready for some French social rules so you wont’ be too awkward the next time yo go there?

So here we go…

Two Common Greeting Facts in France

Frist – The Way We Address Strangers

Let’s say, I’m some kind of a customer representative and I’m calling someone over the phone.

If I’m in the US it would sound something like this…

Hi, my name is Sylviane, may I speak to Michael Smith?

Yes, this is he.

Oh, hi Michael, I was calling you about…

Sounds familiar?

If you were born and raised in the US, that would sound very familiar, wouldn’t it?

But this would be a NO, NO in France.

While formal etiquette go pretty much out the window on social media, for example, they are still very much in place, at the work place and other social settings.

The same conversation in France would go like this:

Hello this Mrs. Nuccio (In France I would not be called Miss, but Mrs because I’ve been married. Miss is for women who have never been married).

May I speak to Mr. Smith?

This is he!

Good morning sir, I was calling you about…

This is the only way that this conversation would go on. No deviation from that.

French are more formal in day to day actions than Americans are.

In stores, restaurants, on the job, in the street and so forth.

This formality even has a mark in the language. It’s call “le vouvoiement” which is the opposite of tutoiement which means that instead of addressing a person with the pronoun tu (informal you), you would address them with the pronoun vous (formal you).

If you were to speak to a stranger you would only use tu only if invited to do so.  Using the pronoun tu for a stranger can be seen as a downright insult if you are French.

However, if you’re a foreigner with a heavy accent, they’ll just think that you don’t know any better. I’ve seen that happened before.

but why would you?

Second – The Common Greeting Style

Greeting on the other end seems much more familiar in France than it is in the US.

If you happen to have seen some images of the French president receiving other world leaders on the steps of the Elysée, last month, you may have noticed that when German Chancellor, Angela Merkel, arrived, François Hollande, the French president, greeted her with la bise on the cheek.

Not because she’s a woman, because the French bise (kiss on the cheek applies to man to man, woman to woman and man to woman), but more so because he knows her well enough.


Common Expressions you’d Better Understand

Here are some very common expressions your REALLY want to have down before you go to France, so you won’t have to feel awkward in social events.

I’m excited!

I’m excited, Je suis excité in French means that you are aroused.

Oops, I’ve heard Americans say that so many times.

Please, don’t.

However, though, you could say that children are excited (excités) which usually means that they are a big over active. But never for adults.

I’m hot!

I’m hot is J’ai chaud in French, which is OK thus far. You just need to cool off.

But I heard American saying I’m hot as je suis chaud, because they don’t control French grammar much.

Now, that’s understandable.

But if you say this you’re changing the whole meaning of the sentence.

J’ai chaud, means I’m hot. This is good.

Je suis chaud, means I’m horny.

Now, that’s not what ou meant right?

So, beware.

Can I give you la bise?

I’ve heard Americans say “je te baise” meaning can I kiss you on the cheek? Can I give you la bise?

But just the baise does NOT mean I’m giving you a bise.

Je te baise means, I’m F*&$# you!

Oops! You really want to have that one down, don’t you?

The correct expressions is Je te fais la bise, or je te bise.

Yep, that little a changes the whole contest for sure.

Please, beware!


Don’t ask if there is any preservative in the food.

Preservatives in French are condoms.

Yep, I’ve heard that one too.

Ask if there is some conservateurs in the food.

Otherwise you may get a big laugh!

I introduced myself

You want now?

In French “je me suis introduit” means I got inside. Not that you met someone.

Plus it also can have a very strong sexual meaning as well.

So don’t say that in France.

I introduced myself in Fench is Je me suis presenté (literally I presented myself) to someone.

Let me introduce myself in French is laisser moi me presenté.

I introduced myself as in “je me suis introduit” means I insert myself.

Oops! No no in French.

Don’t every ask for Vaseline

OK, well you can if you want to, but asking for Vaseline in France is the same as asking for condoms, if you see what I mean.

So beware!


It’s very easy to make a fool of ourselves when we don’t know any better, isn’t it?

That’s why you should share this post as much as you can, so your friends don’t have to feel awkward, next time they go to France.


In the meantime, leave your comments and inputs below!

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7 Day Super Coaching Giveaway Wed, 11 Feb 2015 13:08:44 +0000   Since my website’s look has been transformed and improved, there was still a missing piece to the whole new design. That missing piece,...

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Since my website’s look has been transformed and improved, there was still a missing piece to the whole new design.

That missing piece, and I’ve even been told that by several of my own readers here, was a new opt in.

Actually some even used the “P” word.

Yes. Pop up!

So guys, here is a popup!

My new 7 Day Super Coaching giveaway!

OK, I’m not going to blog about pop up today, because it’s not that kind of post here, but I will in an upcoming article on my blogging section.

For the time being, and for this section of my blog, I want to introduce you to my new freebie that you can get by singing up through my pop up form.

My New Giveaway

At first, I thought of creating another eBook, but then again, there are so many eBooks out there, that I decided to do something different this time.

Something I’ve actually done in the past, when I was teaching article marketing, was an eCourse which did very well.

So, I opted for that latter option.

I thought about creating an eCourse of value which could help my readers, and potential clients, as much as possible.

Even though, no eCourse or eBook will ever equal the value of one on one coaching, that’s a nice start.

Don’t you think?

Now again, I want to make it clear to you that it’s not because it’s free that its value less. Actually, that course is darn valuable and some people would sell this to you in a heartbeat, but I’m giving it away!

So, what are you getting?

Call to Action #1 – Discovering Your Thought Pattern

In this first session, I’m giving you a recap of what the law of attraction really is, and how it really works.

Many people are still confused about the LOA.

Very much so.

In this first session, I’ll be giving you an action step that will help you recognize your thought pattern.

Most people are so caught up in their day to day lives, that they really have no clue about their thought pattern.

In other words, for the most part, we don’t even think about our thoughts.

But it’s your thought pattern that attracts what you are experiencing in your life RIGHT NOW!

So, in this lesson, I’ll be helping you to learn how to “watch your thoughts” so to speak, and become aware of what you’re thinking all day long.

And then, move from there.

Call to Action #2 – Changing Your Negative Thinking Pattern

Once you’ve learned how to recognize your thinking pattern, you’re ready to work on it.

In lesson two, I’ll give you some tips to help you change your negative thinking pattern.

I will give you some homework to do to help you choose your thoughts and better control the negative feedback we all have to deal with at times.

Yes, you can choose your thoughts!

Still a new concept for a lot of people.


Call to Action #3 – Discovering what you are Meant to Be Do and Have

In this lesson, I will give you some tips to help you find out (discover) your true desire, if you are not quite sure about that yet.

In this exercise, I’ll have you do a very simple thing to try to guide you in that direction.

It’s so simply, that many people simply don’t do it, so they have no idea how powerful it is.

Call to Action #4 – Removing Doubt by Developing Faith

In this lesson we are going to talk faith.

Not religious faith, but the type of faith that we can all develop regardless of what we believe in.

Faith that something stronger than you will help you succeed as long as we do your part.

That faith of knowing that what you want to be, do or have in this life will come true.

We are going to take some action steps to develop that faith in YOU and in your success, which you may be lacking right now.

In this lesson you are also going to realize that whether you are aware of it or not, you are putting faith in something right now!

So you’ll be better off by controlling it.

Call to Action #5 – Doing Affirmations the Right Way

Now in this lesson we’re going to debunk a lie, which is that affirmations don’t work.

Yes, affirmations do work.

When you tell yourself that you’re broke, what do you think that affirmation is doing?

It works!


Because you believe it.

When people are saying that affirmations don’t work is because they are making statements well above and beyond what they are ready to take on.

For example, if you’re making only $30,000 a year, and tomorrow you start saying “I’m a millionaire, I’m a millionaire, I’m a millionaire…” it won’t work, because your degree of belief that you are actually a millionaire is way too low.

If we could measure how low such belief is for you, using some type of belief barometer, it would be freezing cold.

Do you see what I mean?

So, in this exercise, you are going to find out how you can develop affirmations that you can believe, so they will actually work for you.

Call to Action #6 – Developing Your Imagination

Here we are going to develop that imagination of yours.

Maybe you’re great at imagining things and you feel that you don’t need help with that. And if that’s the case, all the best to you.

But for the most part, people don’t use their imagination well enough, so it’s a bit rusty. Just like a muscle we don’t put to use, it becomes weak and lazy.

Imagination is actually a huge factor in success.

Actually, we could say that that success and imagination go hand in hand.

So in this exercise you’re going to learn an easy trick to help develop your imagination to lead you to more success.

Call to Action #7 – Creating the Big Picture

In this lesson we will put everything together to create the big picture.

You will be creating a planning or course of action of the steps that you need to keep taking in order to manifest more of what you want in life.

We’ve going to put together everything we’ve learned thus far.


I hope that if you do decide to opt-in you’ll enjoy this course, and take advantage of it.

In each email you’ll receive, you will see that I encourage you to open the dialogue with me. I don’t want this to be a one way street thing, I am open to questions, so don’t hesitate to reply to those emails and give me your feedback.

In the meantime, tell me what you think of all of that, right now in the comment area.


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