How To Be A Thriving Single Mom Financially

How to Thrive as a Single Mom

You are a single mom with young children, and while you are doing OK financially, it’s not always easy to raise kids on your own with your income alone.

While some single moms get child support, maybe in your particular case you don’t, and at times you feel the pangs of fear, having your little family counting on you, and you only.w

I have to say that I’ve known about this feeling very early on in life. It wasn’t my own, but that of my mother. While she was doing relatively fine financially, she never received a penny that she did earn herself.

However, almost every time I speak with people who are around my age and had both their parents raising the family, I realized that they struggled more financially than my single mother ever did.

We lived in beautiful stone house that was paid for. We had Christmas out of fairy tales, and we went on vacation to places like the French Riviera, Spain, Italy and England throughout my childhood years.

Thinking of it, my mother has had 5 bran new cars in a matter of 10 years as well, while all our dinner plate were always plenty full.

Why am I telling you that?

Because while my mother had her share of common lack mentality programming like most people have, she did believe in money flaw and she was very giving.

So, without knowing it, she applied two of the fundamental principles of money, which by universal laws will bring more money into your life.

In this post I want to help you, the single mom who’s working hard to raise her kids to make sure that they never lack anything. If my mother had had this information, I can only wonder what she would have done, so it’s my hope that you do pay attention and apply what you learn.

And for faster results, you can always hire me as well.

Why People Struggle so much Financially?

With the amount of people that is struggling financially nowadays, if you are doing OK, you’re already on a good track and doing better than millions.

One of the very reasons why so many people on the planet struggle financially is that it’s a topic that is spread all over the place such as TV, radio, newspapers, and everywhere you can think of.

The way our universe works, as per one of its fundamental laws, which is the law of attraction, the more you spread an idea, the more results based on that idea you will get.

We are brainwashed every single day with “lack reality” to the point that we truly consciously and subconsciously believe it until we make this our own reality.

However, as Albert Einstein said; “reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very present one.”

If the whole system around us is believing in lack more than it’s believing in abundance, it’s bound to affect us, and that “reality” is going to become our own.

That “reality” of lack is going to be yours always, unless you start learning how to see things differently.

If you are new to the law of attraction, this may seem weird to you at first, and maybe even hard to believe, but whether you believe it or not, doesn’t change the fact that it’s true.

Sport athletes understand that fact very well, that’s why before they run a race or play a game they condition themselves into believing that they will win.

They know that they have zero change of winning if they were to create the belief that they will lose.

And that fact has nothing to do with their skills and training.

In your case, the first thing you need to do is to cut down on listening to negative/lack mentality news and conversations from others as well as yourself, and like a sport athlete, learn to see yourself as a winner.

 

You Want to Stop Worrying about Money

The thing about worrying is that you’re obviously focusing on what you’re worrying about. And as per the law of attraction what you’re focusing on expands.

If you are worried about gaining weight, you’ll gain weight more easily, because that’s where your focus is.

If you are worried of being alone, you seriously increase the chances of being alone, because that’s where your focus is.

If you are worrying about lacking money, you’ll lack money more easily, because that’s where your focus is.

You need to focus more on abundance and less on lack.

You know that saying, I’ll believe it when I see it?

Well, that’s not how the universe works.

Because you’re always seeing what you believe, and if you want to see (experience) something different you have to believe it first in order to see it.

If all the broke and unhappy people of the world could even start to understand this concept, their life condition could only start to improve.

Unfortunately, there’s only a very small group of people who have come to understand this truth.

But those who do know about this fundamental rule, and have applied it into their life, know how true that is.

I have spent the better part of my life living like most people out there, waiting for the day things would start changing for me. But as Albert Einstein said; “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is insanity.”

Indeed, nothing changed for me before I did two things:

  • Start looking for answers to my questions about life.
  • Start applying the laws of the universe into my life.

Change didn’t happen overnight, because I did it all on my own, and I was still reaping experiences from negative past momentum.

But eventually, I was able to create a new life. A life that millions only can dream of.

 

You are Creating your Own Life Experiences

Life can be easier than it seems, but I have to admit that it does take practice.

Just like it’s easier to run, the more you practice running, or that it becomes easier to play the piano the more you practice playing the piano. Practicing positive thinking and high level vibrations becomes easier as you practice over and over.

If I were to call creating the life that you want a recipe, I would say that it works this way…

  • Focus on what you want as much as possible.
  • Write it down, like you would write a movie script (with as much details as possible).
  • Visualize it as you would visualize scenes of a movie.
  • Feel your images with as much feelings as possible.
  • Check your mood all throughout the day to make sure that your emotions don’t betray you.

If you are doing OK financially, then you are already doing better than millions of people in this world, but because you are still worrying too much about what ifs, which are usually negative scenarios that you are playing in your head, you are sabotaging your success.

If you would like to learn about attracting more money into your life, start checking my free e-course today.

 

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20 Comments

  • Donna MerrillTwitter: donna_tribe says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    You certainly are an inspiration to us all. Being a single mom is hard enough, then when you have to face the financial challenges on top of it… it can be overwhelming.

    But fear and despair only dig a deeper hole for you to dwell in.

    The way out of this trap is “to focus more on abundance and less on lack,” as you have pointed out.

    That’s not always easy for people when they’re scared and self-doubting. But as you say, we pretty much get what we dwell on, so it’s really our choice, isn’t it?

    -Donna
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    • Hi Donna,

      True enough, it’s no easy to dwell on abundance when all we “see” is lack, but that’s the vicious circle of life. As long as we aren’t able to reverse the process, we are going to get more of what we have and don’t want.

      That’s where I come in. I teach people how to start trusting the unseen so to speak.

      Nobody knew that, but I was in a very bad relationship up to 8 months before I leave the states, and I became so good at ignoring it that I’ve never mentioned it and never imagined this relationship in my future. One day, at just the right moment in my life, he was gone in the best possible way for me. This and many other experiences of mine have convinced me that this works. That’s why I want to teach it to others now.

      Thanks for you kind word and hope you’re doing much better.

      Thinking of you 🙂
      ~Sylviane

  • AdrienneTwitter: adriennesmith40 says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    I think that motherhood is the hardest job on the planet. To have to do it alone is even harder so I admire your Mom for what she did for you and your brother. Giving you both the best life you possibly could after having lost your Dad.

    I too have learned over the years about how my thoughts attract into my life exactly what I’m thinking. People can deny it all they want but if they were 100% honest with themselves they would sit back and really think about how things transpired in their lives and where they were emotionally at that time. It will all fall into place.

    Without the proper guidance though it’s much more difficult to understand how to quickly turn things around. I know for me, I prefer learning from someone who has done just that. That’s why you’re such an awesome coach plus you truly care about others.

    I can so appreciate this message Sylviane and I’ll be sure to share it as well. Thank you my dear and have a wonderful week.

    ~Adrienne
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    • Hi Adrienne,

      I love what you said here: “People can deny it all they want but if they were 100% honest with themselves they would sit back and really think about how things transpired in their lives and where they were emotionally at that time. It will all fall into place.”

      If people would want to be honest with themselves they would do a great favor to themselves alone more than anything else. I know that, because I’ve been there and done that.

      As I watched bits and bits of my pretty much my whole life over the past few years, I could totally understand what this and that happened to me, and it’s so liberating.

      Back then I felt like a victim, but once you understand the law of attraction, and even if you are aware that there always might be some stuff that you attract subconsciously, you know that you’re still attracting according to you and you alone. You’re not a victim abandoned by God, or anything like that. That is a really great feeling.

      My life truly started changing the day I discovered this truth, even when I was still reaping the negative effects of past momentum.

      Thanks so much for you input, Adrienne.
      ~Sylviane

  • Kathleen Desio says:

    We are often our own worst enemies. Stop concentrating on what could go wrong and instead, think about what can go right! I love my Miche business and I cannot tell you how many people doubted my chances of success. Who’s laughing now? Believe in yourself and you can do anything you set your mind to! Great article!

    • Hi Kathleen,

      Don’t you say, LOL. Naysayers are everywhere and they are that way out of ignorance. If they only knew how their life would improve if they started to believe. I’m glad you didn’t listen to the naysayers around you.

      Thanks for your input.
      ~Sylviane

  • PJ Zafra says:

    Great post here Sylviane. I have high respect for mothers. I help my mom out a lot and what I do is nothing compared to what she has to do. She sacrifices a lot to give to me and my 2 younger brothers. She’s a hard worker and always knows how to cheer her children up. Being a mother is no easy job. I will always have high respect for mothers.

    Great story. Lots of value here. Thank you for sharing. Keep it up!

  • MarkTwitter: coach2coachguy says:

    So very well said Sylviane!

    And your Mother’s actions demonstrated the proof of what
    you shared!

    Sadly, far too many people simply can’t or refuse to see the
    undeniable connections, between what they focus o and the current
    conditions of their life!

    Instead, it ‘s more convenient to believe, they simply have no control
    whatsoever, over their lives!

    Thanks for blowing a hole in the myth!
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    • Hi Mark,

      Yes, indeed, and it’s that unhealthy so common belief that we have NO control that’s messing up the life of many.

      Even though my mother had many other negative beliefs, for some reason, the “lack belief” wasn’t in her, and that really, really paid off for her and her family.

      Even though we were not rich, we never ever lacked anything. My brother and I lived far better than some of our peers who had both parents, and whose parents had more money in the bank than my single mother did 🙂 So, I happened to know this stuff to be a fact, way before I became a coach.

      Thanks so much for you input and you have a great weekend!

  • Sherman SmithTwitter: shermanksmith75 says:

    Hey Sylviane,

    The one thing I have trouble with is feeling the success sometimes. I talk to myself and even visualize a lot, but sometimes feeling it is like trying to do double dutch. You trying to feel the rhythm so you know when to jump in and not make a mistake lol

    But when it all comes down to it, it all starts with what you focus on. I’ve notice with myself and with a lot of other people how much we hold ourselves back from a lot of ventures because of a negative mentality. I can only imagine if we can all constantly visualize the positive outcomes.

    Thanks for sharing Sylviane! Have a great weekend!
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    • Hi Sherman,

      A lot of people actually sabotage themselves because of a deep down failure programming, and that’s very common, in fact. I know that I had to fight this myself for a very long time.

      I’m glad that you are making lots of efforts and progress in your life, Sherman.

      Thanks so much for coming.

      Sylviane

  • Kim Willis says:

    Very nice post, Sylviane,

    My Mum was a single Mum and I know all about the struggle she had while holding down a job and taking care of me.

    I remember a time when she was thinking of buying an existing business (using money from her mum) so she could leave the world of employment behind. As a wet behind the ears 12-year-old, I figured it was a great idea and was very disappointed when she turned her back on the opportunity. Why did she do that?

    Fear flowing from a lack of belief was the reason. So she kept her job and remained an employee till she retired, having never chanced her arm in the world of business. I don’t know what our lives would have looked like if she had taken the opportunity pathway. But my juvenile instincts at that time were that self-employment was a better option than employment.

    Nothing has changed since then

    Thanks, Sylviane, lovely post and I urge your readers to take advantage of your Learn to Attract Money offer.

    Kim
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    • Hi Kim,

      Goodness, we have lots in common. While my mother did well as I’ve explained in the post, she also lost of a couple of opportunity of going on her own, because all she could see, I remember, what the “negative sides” of being in business on your own.

      Interestingly, like you, the young person that I was wanted her to have her own business. I remember as a teenager encouraging her to do so, but she was just too scared, and I was too young to do more than I did in the encouragement department.

      Thanks you for sharing your thoughts here.

      Have a great weekend!

  • Vee N Ric says:

    Hi Sylviane.
    How are you?
    Just love the picture of that scenery –
    Did you go fishing or camping there?
    Curious about that logo at the side
    Guest Blogging Graduate?
    What is that all about?
    True, being a single mom is hard.
    Honestly though, it is very hard
    To stop worrying about money
    And how to earn it.
    There are just so many bills to be paid.
    Thanks for sharing yet another
    Wonderful post.
    Njoy your weekend,
    Regards.

    • Hi Vee, and welcome to my blog.

      The photo is not me, but a friend of mine.

      The logo comes from my graduation for guest blogging with Jon Morrow’s course. Frankly, I didn’t learn a whole lot, because I’ve been writing for so long, but still a few practical tips.

      Well, that’s the pitfall of so many people, but as long as you worry about money, it will be long and hard in coming. As a coach, that’s one of the things that I teach to my clients.

      Thanks for dropping by.

      ~Sylviane

  • Tony B says:

    That was mainly a truly awesome and epic post Sylviane,
    so much to pull out of it across so many subjects – Yet what really stick out to me were your law of attraction examples.
    I have never really dug into it or even heard any explanation of what is, yet focusing on abundance to achieve abundance I can totally relate to like you say, far too many people focus on what they haven’t got which in effect compounds their emotion.

    I wouldn’t really agree with saying as a broad stroke ‘ if you focus on having no money you get no money’! I think it’s a true fact that if you focus on having no money, with such a huge negative thought in your head, everything becomes “about money” which will never make you feel better about the lack of it. Law of psychological facts … Or is that what the law of attraction is based upon?

    Anyway… It was a great read.
    Tony B.

    • Hi Tony B, and welcome to my blog. Love to see new folks coming and sharing their thoughts.

      Indeed, the law of attraction, while becoming a more known fact, it’s still new to many.

      Fist off, I’d like to say that the law of attraction is one of the many laws of the universe in which we live. As a matter of fact, no matter what religious background you may be, and if you are, your holy book teaches the law of attraction, it’s just not named that. The Bible, for example, is full of it. And other religious books as well.

      But, let’s say you’re not religious at all, and then you can look at science and it’s there too.

      We, as human are basically magnets. We attract what we think, feel and believe.

      My studies of the law of attraction have revealed me cases of people who have attracted, money, misery, healthy or unhealthy relationships, disease or health and even their own death.

      So, it’s there. No matter if your know it or not or believe it or not. It’s all about learning how to use that omnipresent law of attraction for our own advantage.

      I hope this help a bit.

      Thanks for coming and hope to see you again.

      ~Sylviane

  • Don PurdumTwitter: unveiltheweb says:

    Hi Sylviane,

    First off I have to say; your title was spectacular and your article over delivered!

    I shared your post with several single Mom’s I know and they were deeply touched by your post. Don’t be surprised if one of them doesn’t reach out to you!

    Thanks so much for being there for those who need you!

    ~ Don Purdum
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    • Hi Don,

      Thank you so much for liking my post and sharing it with single moms. I did share the post into single mom G+ communities, and I’ll continue to extend the reach as much as I can.

      Thanks for coming by.

      ~Sylviane

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