I remember last December, being on a conference call with a popular Life Coach who said, “December 2012 will come whether you’ve planed to achieve something in the meantime or not, so where will you be in December 2012”? In other words, she was saying, “does your situation in life will be better, the same or worse in a year from now”?
Sure enough December 2012 did come, didn’t it? This year flew by like a speeding bullet for me, and I wanted to share some thoughts with you about what I have accomplished this past few years, while I am sure that my story can help some of you who may be at a time in their life where they need that little push and encouragement to make a life time decision that will rock your world. Or even smaller decisions that you just have a hard time to make.
A Little Bit about my Personal Development Background
As you may or may not know (depending on how much you know me) I’ve started getting evolved with personal development really seriously 6 ½ years ago, even though I read my first personal development book back in the late 1980’s. It was a book by Catherine Ponder about the power of the mind, and since then I was hooked. This somehow led me to study and practice lucid dreaming for a while in the early to mid 1990’s until I was actually able to have some lucid dreams.
Then, unfortunately, I let life happen to me rather than creating the life that I wanted to live. This is how I’ve lost 10 years of personal development, actually going against my dreams, even having letting other people convince me that I wasn’t on the right track before.
What Happens when you Let others Telling you want to do?
That’s a good question, isn’t it? What happens to YOU when you let OTHERS telling you what you should be doing? Well, I can’t speak for everyone, but for me it developed in some type of depression over time. For years, while running away from my dreams and goals, “trying” to do what I was told “I was supposed to do”, I became darn right depressed while I didn’t really understand why at the time. However, whether I understood it or not, it was a fact. I was really depressed most of the time, crying a lot and just being freaking unhappy.
Reaching a Moment of True Maturity
In his book Think And Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill explains that the human brain reaches true maturity at age forty, maybe that’s why so many people have some clearness of mind when they reach around that age, which we call “a mid-life crisis”. Well, when I turned forty I had one of those moments, and that’s when I decided that I wasn’t going to put up with the unwanted anymore.
Truly, as soon as I reached that key moment and made the decision to think more about my own well being making my own decisions and mistakes, I really did feel. As Napoleon Hill describes in his book, my brain had reached a maturity that I’d never felt before. So I made some important decisions that changed my life quite a bit.
This wasn’t easy for me as I knew that I was going to disappoint a lot of people, and some were not going to understand me and even never spoke to me again. I know what you’re thinking… well, if they didn’t understand they weren’t your friends to start with. Well, that’s a bit more complicated than that, but I still had to go with my heart at this point.
What will you Learn about Yourself when you Make a Drastic Life Changing Decision?
I can promise you that if you are faced with a life changing decision that you are finally making, you will discover how strong you are. I’ve always been a very independent and strong personality type person, but I really discovered how strong I really was when I decided to make decisions that I knew weren’t going to be really “comfortable” at least at first. The first step is always the hardest. But once you’ve stepped on, once you’ve finally taken that vital challenging first step, you’ll feel free like never before.
Once I’d finally taken that first step, the first thing I felt is that the pressure went away. The pressure of trying to do the right thing according to some type of religious never reaching standards can be quite overwhelming, and leading to depression, as it did me. So, when that pressure went away, the depression miraculously disappeared as well.
I never felt depressed again since that day. I have been, sad and grieved over loved ones I’ve lost, as it’s a normal thing to go through, but not chronically depressed. There is a big difference here.
Learning about “Having the Power”
When you are told every day for a decade (or more) that you have no choice, no exciting options, but can only be a victim and a good for nothing that God just allows to breath, it weighs on you, and it’s pretty heavy too. It was for me anyway, and while I can’t speak for everyone, I certainly can speak for myself, and how it made ME feel as I explained above.
So, learning that we have a say in our life, that we can make our OWN choices, that we have the power to make a difference in the outcomes of our lives, was like being a kid in a candy store. I had almost forgotten that I was attracted by this type of things over a decade ago, but had just buried it.
I knew that getting deeply involved in personal development was going to do it for me. Not only was I going to learn everything and anything I could about it (never to stop this time), but I was going to teach it to others. That’s how this blog was born and my coaching idea started.
Have you taken your power back? It’s very easy to feel trapped in our “circumstances” when we believe that we are powerless. But we’re not. YOU are not. Take back your power and see how it feels. Discover how much you will be able to discover about yourself and accomplish things you never thought you would.
Please, share your comments and feedbacks about this. Have you taken your power back? Are you afraid to do so? Le’ts talk about it!